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- Date posted
- 7w ago
KalidescopeKalidescope
- Date posted
- 7w ago
Very few people in our lives are equipped to give us advice when it comes to OCD!! Especially ROCD! Sounds like a ROCD obsession disturbance to me... For me the confession/telling my partner is a compulsion. As someone officially diagnosed with OCD & well acquainted with the OCD distortions, I advise AGAINST telling your partner your mean thoughts about them!
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- Date posted
- 7w ago
in my bad days i’ll just tell him like “hey i haven’t had the best few days recently. i could use a hug” no need to get into the details just leave it short and simple. confessing is a compulsion and doesn’t help in the long run. people who don’t have OCD don’t understand how the cycle works and can’t really ever give the best advice when it comes to doubts, thoughts, and compulsions! it’s better to talk to someone who experiences the thoughts or is experienced in how ocd works!!!
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- Date posted
- 7w ago
@Mk3 honestly i’ve found that just accepting the flaws and allowing the thoughts to happen without trying to counteract them with a compulsion is the only way out of the cycle. all of my compulsions are mental now and it’s so hard to stop them because they happen automatically now so for me it’s just being aware that i’m compulsive and stopping myself in my tracks. it’s so hard but i know we can both break the cycle!!!!!
MM311MM311
- Date posted
- 7w ago
my friends and my mom both told me that maybe i don’t love my partner or maybe i just liked the idea of being with someone and that made my anxiety skyrocket. i am 6 months into this cycle and finally trying to put an end to it. i still have these thoughts daily and it truly makes me believe that i don’t love my boyfriend and it makes me so sad and so anxious. hang in there!!!
MM311MM311
- Date posted
- 7w ago
@Mk3 they told me to talk to him about my thoughts and i have talked to him about it and ive actually broken up with him about it because it felt like it was my only way out. it wasn’t. thankfully, hes been nothing but understanding and supportive throughout all of this. i truly think we wouldn’t be together now if it weren’t for him. but yes the confessions are definitely a compulsion. i felt a million times better when i did for a little bit but the thoughts kept coming back.
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 7w ago
Hey there, I believe your friend was likely doing their best to help. However, they are probably not the best resource for helpful guidance on challenging OCD effectively while maintaining the relationship you want to have. Here are a few resources on ROCD and if you are struggling with this on your own, I hope you know that help is available - feel free to reach out to us here at NOCD to see how we might be able to assist. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGTDv6mzrkU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UK3PCMRsn8I https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riKw294RZMw&t=126s
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- Date posted
- 23w ago
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- Date posted
- 18w ago
Can someone with rocd give a newbie some advice?
Flagged as triggering to be safe I’ve never been in a real relationship before… you can guess why lol. But I really want the one I’m in to work out. Still I can’t help but be scared that I don’t actually have feelings for him. I’m scared that I’m leading him on? And I’m scared because I can no longer identify what’s real and what’s ocd. To make matters worse we went on winter break from college and we are long distance so I went from seeing him every day and now I haven’t seen him for four weeks. I’m going to see him in two days and I was trying to lay out an outfit that he would see me and think “wow” in. But I started to wonder, am I doing this cause I like him or because I just want him to like me and I don’t have feelings for him. I feel like a terrible person. The combo of no relationship experience plus the ocd plus winter break is distressing. (We’ve been together three going on four months)
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- Date posted
- 17w ago
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I don't know. I just fucking went down a huge rabbit hole of this lady on ROCD Reddit who described something very similar to how I feel about my boyfriend. She was so scared to break up but wanted to anyway bc she wanted to explore and stuff. A lot of the stuff she wrote was things I swear I could have written myself. And I feel so anxious and sick bc she ended up leaving her boyfriend. She's not happy now but feels it's the right choice. I'm so fucking scared - bc I feel like I need to do it now. I feel in ways no ROCD sufferer has felt and I swear this is true. What the fuck??
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