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- Date posted
- 25w
KalidescopeKalidescope
- Date posted
- 25w
Very few people in our lives are equipped to give us advice when it comes to OCD!! Especially ROCD! Sounds like a ROCD obsession disturbance to me... For me the confession/telling my partner is a compulsion. As someone officially diagnosed with OCD & well acquainted with the OCD distortions, I advise AGAINST telling your partner your mean thoughts about them!
MM311MM311
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 25w
in my bad days i’ll just tell him like “hey i haven’t had the best few days recently. i could use a hug” no need to get into the details just leave it short and simple. confessing is a compulsion and doesn’t help in the long run. people who don’t have OCD don’t understand how the cycle works and can’t really ever give the best advice when it comes to doubts, thoughts, and compulsions! it’s better to talk to someone who experiences the thoughts or is experienced in how ocd works!!!
MM311MM311
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 25w
@Mk3 honestly i’ve found that just accepting the flaws and allowing the thoughts to happen without trying to counteract them with a compulsion is the only way out of the cycle. all of my compulsions are mental now and it’s so hard to stop them because they happen automatically now so for me it’s just being aware that i’m compulsive and stopping myself in my tracks. it’s so hard but i know we can both break the cycle!!!!!
MM311MM311
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 25w
my friends and my mom both told me that maybe i don’t love my partner or maybe i just liked the idea of being with someone and that made my anxiety skyrocket. i am 6 months into this cycle and finally trying to put an end to it. i still have these thoughts daily and it truly makes me believe that i don’t love my boyfriend and it makes me so sad and so anxious. hang in there!!!
MM311MM311
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 25w
@Mk3 they told me to talk to him about my thoughts and i have talked to him about it and ive actually broken up with him about it because it felt like it was my only way out. it wasn’t. thankfully, hes been nothing but understanding and supportive throughout all of this. i truly think we wouldn’t be together now if it weren’t for him. but yes the confessions are definitely a compulsion. i felt a million times better when i did for a little bit but the thoughts kept coming back.
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 25w
Hey there, I believe your friend was likely doing their best to help. However, they are probably not the best resource for helpful guidance on challenging OCD effectively while maintaining the relationship you want to have. Here are a few resources on ROCD and if you are struggling with this on your own, I hope you know that help is available - feel free to reach out to us here at NOCD to see how we might be able to assist. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGTDv6mzrkU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UK3PCMRsn8I https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riKw294RZMw&t=126s
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