HELP PLS I NEED ADVICE

@Anonymous I hate being so sure of smth and then all of a sudden begin to question or want to check when logically nothing changed

@Christy Street See I am just confused bc ik he has the same thoughts but why does my brain believe em and his doesn’t

@MichelleV Ok so this may be for reassurance, but I have done a lot better this week and I have more times with clarity than without I’d say. However there are times where I’m significantly anxious or guilty bc I feel like I liked an old crush or smth. For example these past few days I get intrusive thoughts and I remeber these happen to my bf too and move on or I chill w em for a sec and remeber I love my bf more than anything. But there are then times like earlier where I’ll have intrusive thoughts and they are like brought w feelings. Like I was w my bf and he wrote his name on my hand and my brain like made me imagine my old crushes name there and I felt awful then tried to move on bc it was outa my control. But then I had another intrusive thought that I don’t remeber and felt bad again but tried to remeber they were also intrusive. Then on the drive home when I left I got to a light and was thinking it was intrusive right? Like why’d it feel real then I had another thought that hut on it that also felt real. I never checked these tho to prove otherwise so they faded after a bit but remembering when they came in they felt so true. Then I was on ft w my bf and he was showing me his suit and he looked good but I had intrusive thoughts of that same old crush and felt awful. Then my brain was saying stuff like “you jus want him looking like ur old crushe” and other similar stuff that now I don’t even remeber but when they come in I feel awful and it genuinely feels so real. Even tho like 8474937 times today I had an epiphany knowing that those thoughts were never true and I love my man only. How can it smtimes feel like I’m lying to him and I wish secretly it were the other guy or smth. When I don’t want it to. I feel like I should recognize it by now but the feelings of realness makes me upset and I’m trying not to get too upset by it bc I need it to lose its hold on me. I just feel bad even tho I know deep down I don’t want what it says. I don’t want to secretly want the other guy or think ab the other guy or imagine bro or remeber him bc I jus wanna be fully devoted to my man. And I think by not checking my feelings I’m getting better. I just sometimes can’t seem to shake the feeling of realness when certain thoughts come in😞

@Anonymous OCD and the intrusive thoughts can feel real because they latch on to what you value, and when it feels like there’s even a slight possibility or doubt, OCD will grab on to that. Some thoughts will feel sticky and harder to tolerate. But the approach is the same - to learn to accept them, not engage, and tolerate the distress and uncertainty. This article may help you: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/why-ocd-feels-so-real

@Anonymous Arguing with the thoughts of trying to find logic unfortunately just makes them come back. With OCD, there’s not a logical answer that will satisfy your brain. But that doesn’t mean you can’t work through them. You absolutely can. It just takes time and work.

@MichelleV Why will I suddenly get confused tho and feel like I’m lying to my man😞

@Anonymous Because OCD will make you feel doubt. Whenever there’s a slight possibility, even if you logically know it doesn’t make sense, OCD will grab on to it. And the hard part is, logic doesn’t work against OCD. OCD will also latch on to what you value. So if you love and value someone in your life, OCD will show up there. When you feel the urge to go into a compulsion or a spiral, you can tell your OCD you aren’t going to engage with it. OCD can say whatever it wants, but you can lessen its impact by not proving it wrong, or trying to analyze the source or reason of the thoughts, and just sitting with the discomfort.