Tw: death and panic attacks I think I just had an extreme panic attack, basically my mom picked me up and as we were driving I saw an ambulance, I didn’t know where it was going then I looked on the floor and there was an old woman on the floor. There was two people with her, I thought that she might have slipped or something because I would feel like the people around her would look more distressed idk. But then my mom goes she’s dead, I got really stressed and kept saying why did you say that why did you say that and almost was going to cry. And then a few seconds later I couldn’t breathe my chest was overworking and I could feel my lungs struggling, (I have asthma so I thought maybe it’s an asthma attack) but my inhaler wasn’t working and there was nothing to trigger it. And usually I cough a lot if I have an asthma attack and my chests aches afterwards. But after I could feel my heart beating in my chest, I think because I got so worked up.

Yes, sounds like a panic attack, I'm sorry you went through that friend!! :( How are you feeling now?

Yup, that’s a panic attack! Have you had these in the past or is this your first? Do you have strategies for dealing with panic or have you never learned about them before? Panic attacks are quite scary, but the good news is they aren’t dangerous. They feel terrible and then they pass. During one there are lots of strategies you can use to coach yourself through it until it passes. Different strategies work for different people, so experiment until you find what works for you. https://www.verywellmind.com/strategies-for-getting-through-a-panic-attack-2584104 https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-a-panic-attack

I’m okay now, I tried to ask my mom why she would say something like that and she got really defensive, basically saying we were being rude for asking why she said it almost as if it was normal.

Your panic attack isn’t her fault. With OCD and panic disorders, our brains tend to overvalue and overreact to things other people find fairly innocuous.

Yeah but she knows I have fear of death I sat and cried in front of her when I told her. I’ve cried every time I’ve told her about my fear of death not even when I told her about hocd did I cry and it was more constant.It’s been my biggest fear since I was 8. But even my sister said it wasn’t a right think to say. I know it’s not exactly her fault but it was a calusus thing to say anyways seeing as she had a go at my dad for doing the same thing when a girl I’m the year above commuted suicide.

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Thank you I never looked at it like that, the only reason I get annoyed is because she acts like everyone has it so you just have to deal with it. I told her about ocd and she’s like everyone’s a bit ocd I have to have the tv on when I sleep and your auntie loves washing her hands. Or when my sister told her about her self harming she just said I used to peel glue of my hands.......