My boyfriend is telling me every time im anxious, that if i didnt like him (i always think that i dont love him) i wouldnt suffer this much over my thoughts, and i could have just leave him. Its very true but i dont feel better at all and im thinking that i dont want to hurt hum or that im used to him and dont want to accept the reality and thats why i suffer because i am a good person???? im so sad and scared and anxious.
No, trying to use logic can easily be a compulsion and make the whole thing worse. You could be afraid you're going to float off into space. And I can use logic and show you how it's almost impossible because of gravity, and with OCD you won't believe me for long. You have to learn to accept that worse case scenario, that you may float off into space. You are terrified you may not love him. That's a fear you're going to have to deal with. It's going to be hard.
OCD and mental illnesses/disorders aren’t logical at its core. It won’t understand logic, ever. Therefore, you do not try to logic-out your way of an argument with your OCD/your own brain. Let your OCD be as you go about your day. Letting go of the need to control, argue, and/or fight is how you overcome OCD.
Because IT DEMANDS CERTAINTY EVIDENCES BUT NEVER ACCEPTS IT 🤷🏻🙁
Think of a lizard: it doesn't think or plan, it reacts and survives. We have this part of the brain, too: our "reptilian" brain, the brainstem. There are three more levels to our brains where processes become more complex. The highest one we have (and lizards don't) is our cortex. This is where language, values, time, planning, and thinking (logic) occurs. When we're scared, our higher level brain doesn't function well. The lizard brain is quick and essential for survival. Logic doesn't soothe it, you have to work on regulating it at basic levels (like moving your body, being hugged... the brainstem takes in sensory information best) this is why ERP emphasizes sitting with and "getting used to" feelings of discomfort (a natural process known as habituation). On a neurological level, it makes perfect sense that you can't logic your way out. Most of this information I got from Dr. Bruce D. Perry in his book, "What Happened to You?"
@nicocd All this said, I hate that you have to deal with this. It's hell. I hope you know you're not alone. Sending hugs!
@nicocd thank you:(
maybe i dont want to accept the factvthat i lost feelings, maybe i never actually loved my boyfriend and i hust wanted a relationship , i dont want reasurance, but in very scared i dont love him, because it feels real. im scared
i feel so bad for posting here, idk what i wamt i have so many thoughts abt the feelings i have for my bf im scared my thughts are true or that they will be true and i feel bad for feeling amd thinking this way i such a bad girlfriend, i am scared that i like other people just because i look at them or talk to them normally and i feel like a liar what cam i do to stop feeling like this i am scared
My rocd is making me disconected from my boyfriend thinking he is cringe and that i dont know him or i dont like him for real, making me question the times i was happy thinking i was pretending and i was just thinking i am happy and in love but i wasnt… when i think abt my boyfriend i cant feel happiness… im scared. Yesterday we talked he said he is happy when we talked he sais how happy he is and that if i dont feel the same i should not panic (hw knows about my thoughts) i am so sad, i dont want to be like this forever, im scared
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