My perfectionism OCD has me looking for the inevitable flaws in people, and when I find those flaws, I distance myself. This only leads to loneliness and isolation, which brings its own set of emotions. I’m doing this to myself and hurts.
Yes perfectionism OCD is really hard to deal with it can also be elevate due to cognitive distortions or distorted thinking like splitting , personalization, jumping to conclusions, catastropizing. These distortions make OCD worse.
I struggled heavily with that issue around three years ago, I would feel genuine disgust towards people (even towards my partner at the time) when I found that 'flaw', I'd distance myself to avoid the feeling of repulsion and rage, this lead me to feeling loneliness, rejection and guilt. Deep down I knew it was wrong cause we all have 'flaws' and it's the beauty of being a human individual, but those negative feelings felt increadibly real regardless. The only advice I can give you that isn't going to therapy is, sit with the feeling even if it's not pretty, ask yourself WHAT and WHY you're feeling your feelings and imagine that someone else is describing those same exact symptoms in the same exact situation and give THEM advice, find the logic way to proceed even if it doesn't make you feel completely certain. There are usually reasons why OCD can get worse, my case was uni and recent loss, maybe finding those external triggers can help you in some way. Be patient and kind with yourself, you're gonna be you forever / Time heals and you're not alone ♡
Hi, This may not be exactly what you want to hear, but I hope it offers some food for thought. After supporting my son, who has been diagnosed with OCD, I’ve noticed that there often seems to be a sense of “arrogance” at the core of his struggles. He sometimes feels he’s in a position to judge others more harshly, holding himself and those around him to extremely high standards. The reality, of course, is that nobody is perfect—including him. This false sense of superiority can lead him to react very strongly when others do things differently, even if those ways are perfectly acceptable. It’s as if he’s lost some of his tolerance for other perspectives and the people who hold them. As a possible solution, I’ve found that simply being mindful of this tendency—especially when anger or frustration arises—can help calm things down. With awareness, it becomes easier to accept and appreciate other viewpoints, even if they differ from our own. Hope this helps in some way.
@hanysm@gmail.com This helps, thank you
I cannot get over my perfectionism ocd surrounding my hair. The color needs to be perfect without any undertone left of red or orange, or I freak out (due to past experience). I’m a natural brunette, so I dye my hair brown…. Making me have red/orange undertones. I want to get over my ocd completely and the fear I get from dying it/looking at it/constantly checking and comparing to others hair. It’s exhausting. Any tips ? I want ocd to stop taking control of my life. I want to enjoy getting my hair done and not freaking out every second over it.
Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
OCD can be an incredibly lonely experience, especially when people around you don’t understand the thoughts and fears you’re facing. But you’re not alone—others have been there too. What’s something about OCD that makes you feel isolated or alone?
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