what can i do

@slippery_salad thank you.

@Mariabae That hollow feeling, the fear, the confusion… it’s like a distressed baby crying out for comfort. You don’t need to fix it or silence it right away. Just hold it. Sit with it. Cradle that emotion gently like you would a baby who doesn’t know how to self-soothe yet. You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re human. The goal isn’t to force the feeling of love or certainty back, but to be present with the discomfort until it softens on its own. That is where real strength lies. Let the fear cry, let the doubt squirm, but stay grounded. You are still loving. You are still whole. And the wave will pass, especially when you stop trying to outrun it and simply let it be held.

@slippery_salad yes i know but it feels like this is actually true, like it has changed me completely and that i dont love him anymore, any work i try to do it feels pointless, like i know deep down that i have no feelings for him and in just not accepting it and i dont know what to do. i feel like im hurting myslef and him with this, that i just put high expectations on this relationship and i don’t even have rocd

@Mariabae I totally get it; it FEELS like it’s all true, like something deep inside you has shifted and there’s no going back. It feels like you’re just avoiding the truth, like you’re forcing something that’s already dead. But that’s exactly how OCD works — it doesn’t just make you think things, it makes you feel them in your body, like a heavy truth you can’t shake. The fact that you’re even this distressed shows how much you care. OCD doesn’t always come with a big label, sometimes it just feels like you’re broken or heartless, when really you’re overwhelmed by fear and doubt. Be kind to yourself. You’re not lying to him or to yourself… you’re just stuck in something that feels like the truth but isn’t. You’re not alone in this. Keep going. You’re stronger than these feelings, even when it really feels like you’re not.

@slippery_salad thank you!!!!

@slippery_salad hi, im responding to this again bc someone responded to one of my posts and they said things i was fearing and i dont know how to handle them , the said “@Mariabae - If it is something that has been just misery for you. It is possible that you actually just don't want to be with him. They can be great to you and you still not fully love them. Maybe write out a list of pro's or con's. He can love you all he wants but if you do not love him it doesn't matter. If the thoughts are what causes you to be sad and depressed, then maybe its OCD. But if you are sad and depressed from being with him and then the OCD takes over. That is different and you most likely forcing something to work that you do not even want. “

@Mariabae Life isn’t black and white. That person assumes OCD is something you can fully understand—but the truth is, you may never fully grasp it. And that’s okay. What matters is learning to sit with the uncertainty and choosing to move forward anyway. That’s how you grow beyond ROCD.