Unmasking

I haven’t seen topics of unmasking on social media, but I do agree that it isn’t simple to be authentic all the time when you don’t know if it’s safe to do so.

This is true

This post is a great tip of the ice berg for over generalizing advice even though and at the heart of it the simple way to say it is correct but you see the complexity within it. Most ppl just say the simple phrases without understanding the complexity behind it themselves.

I don't think it is ever safe to unmask. Humans are people and I see them as so.

Environments, Work Culture, and Societal Stimas is the reason of distrust. And the reluctancy is reality, and significantly impacts the individual in such a negative way it can produce trauma.

I have been researching, it is not recognized as an issue, that mean WE, those who are suffering, and THEM. our therapist AND CEO FOUNDERS AND THIER STAKEHOLDERS are not loud enough about what we need.

We can sit on this NOCD site and ERP all day and cry out for help to one another when life gets too hard but it DO NOT SOLVE THE ISSUE OF INCLUSION.

My lifetime fight has been trying to fit in. But it is nothing wrong with me. When I turned 28 years old after taking so much medicine change from this prescription and try that prescription... I became very clinically depressed because it was teaching me not to like myself because it did not fit the societal narrative. It was destroying my soul.

Then I finally had a long poured out pour into talk with God. I ask him to take me if I was such a bad person, so weird, so goofy, to awkward and different... to just take me way from this world then. As I laid on my back outstretched, in the middle of my floor with warm tears running to the back of my head and into my ears...

All the stress, anxiety, overwhelming weight of burden was lifted. I very light and clear headed. "There is nothing wrong with you, you are just different. It's nothing wrong with being different."

Then I start sent sunshine, rainbows and glistening raindrops again. And balled like a rock star!

POINT: There is so much trauma behind others not being to feel comfortable around divergent people. There uncomfortableness makes use look at ourselves like it is something so wrong with us but it not wrong its just different.

We sit in these groups all day talking about stigmatism but teaching ourselves to hide by suppressing to fit in. I do believe in controlling our symptoms and reducing them the best we can. I do believe we SHOULD NOT allowing these behaviors to run rampant in our lives to be released choatically and in an unstructured manner.

But I don't believe we should be made to feel like it is mandatory that we have to do it to be accepted by and into society, organisation, and groups, to get and sustain a health lifestyle and work, to be considered a normal, with normal behaviors. That Is Destructive Insensitive Wrong And Exclusive

These group and the study of my OCDs and its behaviors had opened my eyes my entire life stuggles.

At age 28, because of this difference, I started viewing myself as a deviant, an insubordination, defiant a Rebel. And become I believe much in who I was I accepted all those negative titles placed on me. But I wasn't any of that. I was just different from society norms.

I went as far a creating holidays called "misfit holidays" at my home for anyone (mostly for 2 of my brother who was never welcome to the rest of families house). And the gathering were so warm and happy and beautiful. All my nieces and nephews would show up. It got some word of mouth attention that I had to start teaching my younger nieces how to cook my mothers recipes that my brothers loved in big batches. And even had to start restricting it to guests had to come or be invited by a family member. I did not want to exclude people who need to feel loved or included and seen during holidays but I didn't want those moments to ignore the purpose and drown out the meaning.

My family have a very very hard time showing gratitude and appreciation for some reason I could never understand? They most definitely did not show proper love, congratulations and positive celebratory behavior, did not hug, did not kiss. (Don't get it twisted this is siblings only, my mom and I kissed and hugged all the time. Her cheeks felt like silky milk. My love I received from my was watching the corner of his eyes wrinkle then realizing he was smiling me. Wow. < more on that later).

But I felt so good, when each brother within all the years that I did that ... 4/6 of brothers over time pulled my privately aside and all expressed how my they appreciated me for creates those days devoted to them. They expressed how much they appreciated being able to just see and be around their nieces and nephews that they never get to see. To share family stories of what they've heard and given my nieces and nephews the opportunities to hear from the horses mouth or another prospective. This wasn't just holidays gatherings in was very therapeutic for all of us. And that's why there was restrictions and limitations, I didn't want to take away from that. But anyone was welcome to knock on my door and ask for a plate after 9 pm to 11 pm. Give us, the family time to be together, have eaten ourself and into holiday spirit mode. (Because sometimes we cried together, but never fought => a great accomplishment with this family). I think that is what I am most proud of is created those moments to show my nieces and nephews to use their own eye, ear, minds and hearts to know who their uncles were. Don't rely on rumors and don't be afraid to know. My brother's were able to meet some of thier great nieces and nephews in these moments. They thanke me and kissed my checks and called me by nickname which was indearing. I did all this before 3 died so that the real personality of who they really were would be known and not society's opinion. And they fitted right in... with no rules, only to JUST BE.

So if people like US do not SPEAK UP LOUDLY and WITH CLEAR INTENT, we will continue to be traumatized by society penalizing and discriminating us, justifying their prejudice and adding to our anxieties and inducing more debilitating mental illnesses.

This is why NOCD needs to do more for its members. Because talking about "HOW DOES THAT MAKE YOU FELL?" has never been enough and will never be enough without WORLD AWARENESS, COMMUNITY IMPACT and ORGANIZATIONAL INCLUSION.

Safe place should be easily accessible everywhere.