Enabler or No

Sometimes Family and Friend are your trigger In my personal and professional experience I find that people that has a person with a MH or BH condition who was never help them throughout childhood, laughed and giggles with them about their behaviors are their enablers. You should not surround yourself around those who enable those negative and bad things about you. That is key red flag. The problem is that we don't look for them within our own family, within our own group of friends that we've grown up it. Have long term friends of 20 plus years means nothing if these friends encourages you spirals, triggers, and down falls. I'm very select about my friends and who I keep to eat with me at my table.

CA01628

Date posted: 11w

My mother is my biggest trigger, she doesn't know it, but my Dad is dying and it is almost unbearable to visit him because of her guilt and demands she places on everone.

Not2Day

Date posted: 11w

Oh wow, @CAO1628 sorry to know that. So not one person with the softest approach has pull her aside to explain this. Some people say things like "this is not the time. Pull them into a room somewhere. Sometimes not saying nothing drive Division due to unspoken words or silence. Are you able to have some tea with her, what every comforts her? And said, Mom, do you think it is possible to lighten to load of your expectations of us and our failures just and Dad is gone and we can grieve. Together, as a family. Then pick this back up later.

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