Fear of abandonment

I hear how heavy this feels. What you’re dealing with is painful and exhausting, and it matters that you’re able to name it without judging yourself. Simple life skills that help, especially with OCD 1) Fear and feelings: Feelings and fears exist for a specific purpose to show you what is happening internally. They are signals, not rulers. Their role is to inform you, not to control you or keep you from living your life. They have no power over you unless you give it to them. Think of fear like an alarm system. Sometimes it works well, and sometimes it goes off when there is no real danger. When that happens, the alarm can be loud, but it does not mean you must obey it. 2) Fear of abandonment in OCD Most people carry some level of fear about being rejected. That is part of being human. OCD turns that fear into a demand for certainty and attaches it to doubt. What if I hurt someone. What if I am misunderstood. What if I am rejected. OCD then pushes an impossible standard of being trusted or accepted 100%. In reality, no one does anything 100% of the time. Some people will choose relationship with us, and some will not. That outcome is never fully in our control. 3) The problem with 100% trust Wanting to be trusted 100%, or worrying about 95% versus 100%, is unrealistic. No relationship offers total certainty. Trust is shared, gradual, and imperfect. 4) Truth is a two way street You can be honest and live with integrity. You cannot control how much another person trusts or believes. That part is not your responsibility. 5) Why OCD gets stuck here OCD convinces you that if you think enough, explain more, or eliminate all doubt, you will finally reach an impossible 100% certainty or trust. That level does not exist in real life. Because the goal is unattainable, the mind keeps looping, trying harder, not feeling safer. Bottom line Your job is not to achieve certainty or a perfect 100% trustworthy relationship. That is not achievable. Your job is to live by your values, recognize who you are, and accept that you are imperfect but doing your best. Uncertainty is part of every relationship. There are no perfectly trustworthy people, only real people. Strive for honesty and integrity, not perfection. Love your profile name ,remember Healing from OCD is possible ❤️‍🩹