How to stop when it feels real? Break-up urges

I was there not too long ago, and I really understand that feeling that it really is true, and you don't love him. The best thing anyone has told me is that if you really didn't love him, you wouldn't be upset. It wouldn't be like, debilitating anxiety. Someone also told me that the worst OCD attaches to the things that mean the most to you. Someone commented on my last post, which was titled "Does it calm down?", and she basically told me she had felt the same way, and like breaking up is the only option, but she managed to find a way out and is now 2 years into her relationship. I was very much feeling like the only solution was to end my relationship, and even just knowing that it is possible to get out of it and have a calm, happy relationship helped me so much. Take a look at her comment on my post; it made me feel a lot better. I hope you're doing okay!

Hormones before mensies always get my anxiety revved up, too. One thing that has helped me was getting my hormones balanced. Aside from that, for the OCD you definitely need to have regular visits with a therapist. Lean into the process -- even when it feels impossible. You will come through it with more insight and clarity. And when you don't have clarity, the therapist and exercises will guide you.

I have similar issues with ROCD mixed with periods😭🤣. It’s so hard i know but something I really hold on to is “this is my period mixed with ocd and I am going to feel better after this” I know it’s hard and isn’t super reassuring but if we can constantly remind ourselves that feelings are just feelings and not facts it really helps. I’d recommend getting a period tracking app that tells you about mood. I use one called “stardust” and it tells you a lot about your mood and how you might be feeling and it helps me feel so much better when I’m having a bad day and it aligns with that, it gives almost a validation if that makes sense and helps you make sense of your emotions and feelings.