Prozac and Emotional Bluntness, HELP?

Thoughts change with new medicine…so if you have thoughts that you fell out of love it’s plausible and possible that when you change back to no medicine you will have thoughts that you are back in love with him. Medicine is sometimes helpful but don’t latch on to new thoughts too much. Remember the good times and if they don’t feel as good anymore talk to your doctor

I went through this pretty badly. Religious ocd and it was in fact followed by relationship ocd worsened by getting engaged. In some ways, you might take comfort that the harder ocd hits, the more likely you are living a values driven life and the thoughts can just be there without being meaningful beyond that. Definitely work with a therapist on it and how to essentially not respond to the thoughts. As someone who allowed them to freak me out again and again, that’s not a great solution nor does it make them go away if you ignore them. My therapist usually says if there’s a lot of “what ifs” that’s often a sign of ocd. What if something isn’t perfect, right, etc. that helps me direct the thoughts in the likely ocd category and respond accordingly. Additionally, I read Tim kellers book on marriage. I have a lot of critiques with that book looking back (particularly the chapter on s** so I frankly don’t recommend that particular chapter at all, also trigger warning for lack of any tolerance for LGBTQ+ community which is disheartening at best), however, in an effort to remember people aren’t all good or bad and usually their ideas aren’t either, he makes an EXCELLENT point at the beginning about marriage. He says because of the internet and globalization, we’ve really hyped up this idea of a finding a perfect soul mate and while that’s a cool idea, the thing is that people really do change throughout their life and so there’s a point where it’s love AND commitment because the euphoric love feeling may ebb and flow like a wave, and so might your partners interests and parts of their personality, but a marriage commitment can be something we strive for every day. Im not saying don’t ignore red flags or abuse in a relationship or that love doesn’t matter, to be clear, that is different and please get professional advice. If that’s not the case tho, I went to logic slightly more when the ocd hit after engagement and looked at if the qualities in my partner were ones I’d like in 50 years and that fit in with my faith. So the worries about perfect or being “in or out” of love (which is a little black and white thinking) meant less than the commitment and shared values we had.