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First. I personally take medication (Luvox 250 mg) and it really helps. Sometimes I focus on my mistakes and try and focus on the good instead. I also remind myself that everyone makes mistakes and that I am not alone. I remind myself that people don’t pay attention to me and analyze me the same way that I do. I tell myself “nobody thinks about you the way that I do” , “nobody focuses on your mistakes the way i do”. It took me a long time to stop making negative statements about myself. I’m probably 75% improved of the frequency and intensity of my thoughts. I feel like I’m living a different life without these thoughts and it’s wonderful. You can get there. Don’t give up
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 5y
Try to embrace the fact that one , you care and have any empathy , because a lot of people just move on or convince themselves they weren’t wrong when they were. Tell yourself that you deserve love and happiness regardless because you are a human , and making mistakes is part of human nature. You can never undo what happened in the past , so growing from it and learning from it are the only things you can do and are more than enough for you to say that you’ve changed and thus , you shouldn’t let what you said or did hold you back. You aren’t the same person :)
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- 5y
Something that helps me is directing my thought towards a postive thing I've done! Helping a friend through a tough time, acts of kindness, etc. It can be difficult to take care of yourself in that state, so it's usually thoughts of kindness that help me! Or thinking of what I would do if a friend told me they'd made the mistakes or had the thoughts I had. I would treat them with compassion!
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- 5y
Hi, as a person with both OCD and PTSD, I've found it helpful to create false memories about happier past events. Good luck.
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- 5y
I second this. This has helped me as well. We don’t go so far as calling it a memory, but we are definitely using the narrative of who we were as people in the past as a guide to create more positive behaviors and outcomes during that time. Letting go or undermining the negative narrative. If you have a trusted person to create a memory with, it’s even more effective.
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- 5y
@sshyksarry @Dominick @xiiiandreww @John Connor , thank you so much guys!! It’s an uphill battle, and I appreciate your advice so much ? it’s wild to me that other people have the same problem. It’s nice to not feel alone even though I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
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- 23w
I want to move on and accept my past mistakes, but I feel like truly forgiving myself isn’t acceptable. My therapist says not to judge my past self but seek to understand. But if what I’ve done has gone against my moral values, how exactly do I do this? I’ve learned my lesson, and I just want to move on. But that feels like letting myself off the hook. Any tips or advice??
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- 20w
I genuinely feel like the worlds most horrible person deeply for my past actions in childhood and general mistakes I’ve made. I feel like I shouldn’t be here or there’s no hope for me despite doing right ( trying to do right ) I’ve wanted to open up to my mom about things from my past but when I was talking to her about a situation that happened just to share, she was like “Thank God you’ve never done anything like that” But really my past mistakes are worst. It’s like I feel like I should disappear. I don’t know how to deal with the guilt and I feel horrible. I’ve made good and bad decisions but despite this being a long time ago ( which doesn’t erase my stupid actions ) I still keep bringing back into the present and I’m filled with guilt I genuinely think it would be better if I wasn’t here. I wake up think about my past things and I’m filled with guilt and shame that maybe I am a bad person and voices don’t stop, they keep telling me a lot of things that I start to believe. It makes me upset that I did something like that in my past and I try to be understanding but I can imagine the reactions of people and being condemned so much. I literally do this to myself every single day and it’s exhausting I don’t know how you guys can treat me with so much compassion and understanding. It really doesn’t feel real or like I deserve it. Like even on nocd, it makes me feel worst because I come across comments that say “as long as it’s not —-“ or something and I compare it to my past and I feel like a horrible unacceptable person.
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- 18w
I would really appreciate it so much if someone took the time to read this and help me. I don’t know what to do anymore. I haven’t posted here in awhile. I had my OCD managed pretty decently for a year or so on medication, but I had to stop taking it, and after around 3-4 months, the OCD has become unbearable again. It used to be much more surrounding existential themes, eating, and others, not really real event/false memory stuff. But now it’s gotten really out of hand and I don’t know how to do it anymore. It’s surrounding a time of my life a long time ago. It was a dark time. I wasn’t myself and I was going through a lot of things, and I did a lot of things I regret. I self-destructed, embarrassed myself, and wasn’t good to the people around me. I was able to get my mind off of it for a long time, even though I would still think about it a good amount. I was able to be in the present, at least moreso than now. But now that I’m off medication, the guilt has become my obsession again. I can’t move on. I can’t do anything without thinking about all of these memories. I’m obsessed. I’ve started hating myself again, so much so that it’s hard to do anything anymore or believe I deserve anything good. The people around me tell me it wasn’t even that bad, but to me it was. To me, I failed myself, lost myself, and failed everyone around me. I can’t stop thinking about every person I said something wrong to or every time I screwed up. I’ve now started to convince myself I did terrible things I can’t remember, and that my mind just can’t deal with it. And that’s why I feel so guilty. There’s nothing to really support this though. But I’m starting to really convince myself that’s true. I’m trying not to listen to it, because I’ve convinced myself I have hit people with my car before and haven’t remembered when I absolutely didn’t and I know I never have. I drive back over and over to check there’s no one, even though I never heard any bang or felt myself anything. I can convince myself of some crazy false memories. So I know that I shouldn’t listen. But it’s hard not to when I have this guilt gnawing at me constantly. I come to conclusions that this guilt must be because I did something terrible that I don’t remember, even though I already think the things I remember were bad enough. But I would know by now right? If I did something bad I don’t remember? I don’t feel like this all the time. But it’s a lot of the time. But maybe that should be reassuring, that I only start obsessing like this when I think to. The past haunts me though. And I can never be in the present. I’ve started to resort to some unhealthy behaviors to distract myself or help me work towards something. I am starting to hate myself so much and feel like there’s no way I’ll ever be able to get out of this loop. I feel like I just can’t do this anymore. Maybe I need to go back on medication. But I don’t know. I don’t really want to. But will I ever fix this without it? Why do I feel SO guilty, all of the time? I do all these things for people because I feel indebted to them, because I feel undeserving of everything. I feel awful about myself. I don’t know what to do. Does anyone else deal with this?
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