stardustsoul
- Date posted
- 5y ago
DominickDominick
- Date posted
- 5y ago
First. I personally take medication (Luvox 250 mg) and it really helps. Sometimes I focus on my mistakes and try and focus on the good instead. I also remind myself that everyone makes mistakes and that I am not alone. I remind myself that people don’t pay attention to me and analyze me the same way that I do. I tell myself “nobody thinks about you the way that I do” , “nobody focuses on your mistakes the way i do”. It took me a long time to stop making negative statements about myself. I’m probably 75% improved of the frequency and intensity of my thoughts. I feel like I’m living a different life without these thoughts and it’s wonderful. You can get there. Don’t give up
andrewt_andrewt_
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Try to embrace the fact that one , you care and have any empathy , because a lot of people just move on or convince themselves they weren’t wrong when they were. Tell yourself that you deserve love and happiness regardless because you are a human , and making mistakes is part of human nature. You can never undo what happened in the past , so growing from it and learning from it are the only things you can do and are more than enough for you to say that you’ve changed and thus , you shouldn’t let what you said or did hold you back. You aren’t the same person :)
sshyksarrysshyksarry
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Something that helps me is directing my thought towards a postive thing I've done! Helping a friend through a tough time, acts of kindness, etc. It can be difficult to take care of yourself in that state, so it's usually thoughts of kindness that help me! Or thinking of what I would do if a friend told me they'd made the mistakes or had the thoughts I had. I would treat them with compassion!
John ConnorJohn Connor
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hi, as a person with both OCD and PTSD, I've found it helpful to create false memories about happier past events. Good luck.
synestheticsynesthetic
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I second this. This has helped me as well. We don’t go so far as calling it a memory, but we are definitely using the narrative of who we were as people in the past as a guide to create more positive behaviors and outcomes during that time. Letting go or undermining the negative narrative. If you have a trusted person to create a memory with, it’s even more effective.
stardustsoulstardustsoul
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@sshyksarry @Dominick @xiiiandreww @John Connor , thank you so much guys!! It’s an uphill battle, and I appreciate your advice so much ? it’s wild to me that other people have the same problem. It’s nice to not feel alone even though I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
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- Date posted
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