i wish there was a way i could stop being a target

trigger warning for harassment i suppose ever since i was little i remember being on the recieving end of very sexual jokes or remarks or sometimes sexual imagery when i didn't want it, im 16 now and i still continue to get sexually harassed despite everything I try and do to stop it. it makes me feel like im too nice or i need to change something in my personality or ill have a intrusive thought that i wanted the attention i dont know why its always me being hurt, i know theres no answer to this but i find it hard to live with uncertainty. i want to make everyone happy and i just cant, everytime someone comes onto me i have to reject them not only because im asexual but im afraid of romantic or even sexual contact because of these experiences. i just wanna let go and allow new people into my life

compulsion5000

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 10h

If these people are adults they're breaking the law. You can literally call the cops on them and file charges. If they're other children they might still be violating the law depending on your location. At the very least none of that is your fault and Good for you recognizing it is bad behavior and not trying to prove you're just as jaded as they are.

forestfellow

Date posted: 10h

thank you. some of them have been but i feel like it was too long ago to report them now. the earliest instance was when i was 8 and i was scared

compulsion5000

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 10h

@forestfellow Statuatory limitations don't start until after you turn 18. But I don't recommend putting it off. The more time passes the harder it is. If it was online I recommend Internet Crimes Against Children. They're way more aggressive than most police and will follow leads you send them.

forestfellow

Date posted: 9h

@compulsion5000 thank you oh my gosh

compulsion5000

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9h

@forestfellow ICAC is an amazing organization. You can submit an anonymous tip just give them all the information on the person in question that you have and what exactly they did to you. Then forget about it. Sometimes it takes years so don't hold your breath. I know it sucks though. Also I'd say like if you need closure- do a Google once a year on the whoever it is to see if they've been arrested because ICAC won't tell you.

compulsion5000

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9h

@forestfellow Try not to let it consume you though. Best situation is submit the information and forget about it knowing you did the best thing you could. Easier said than done though.

forestfellow

Date posted: 9h

@compulsion5000 do they come to your house or can you do it completely anonymously? i havent opened up to my parents about this harassment

compulsion5000

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9h

@forestfellow I did mine with my real name. I even reached out to them after his arrest because I wanted to testify...and they never even contacted me back. Now my personal case was past the satutes so they actually caught him for sending one of their agents photos. So they didn't need my testimony like at all. I can't speak for other situations though. But there's at least a fair chance they'll never contact you. But with regards to your parents, if it's possible it might help you a lot to let them know.

compulsion5000

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9h

@forestfellow And yea I did get to talk with the detective and prosecutor eventually... They were the most validating people I ever spoke with. It's unbelievably refreshing to talk with adults who deal with this @#$t every day. It's like wow people I don't have to over explain to because they already get it and also don't think you're lying.

strongsurvivor

Date posted: 10h

That sounds awful. I don't have any advice, but you have people here who get you and can offer good advice.

forestfellow

Date posted: 10h

thank you so much

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