- Username
- Lunaaa
- Date posted
- 6y ago
You need to act confident when you are having these feelings. Fake it until you make it basically. Don’t be a people pleaser either , I have that bad habit too. You need to do confident things, start out with something small like maybe post a cute picture on social media or approach someone new at work and say hi , maybe some harmless ( since you have a bf) flirting to just feel better about yourself and build ur confidence
Hey luna. I feel the same. I am so unconfident that even when people around me are saying that im good i start crying because i feel they are just making things upand im not good enough. If somebody raises their voice a lil bit i start feeling worthless. Even tho im on therapy and medication. I guess its natural. What we have to do is stand infront of mirror and give ourselves pep talks to boost our confidence and tell what we have achieved and write them down.
@saba true I literally cry when I get compliments I don’t even know why haha I’m such an emotional person
@RedMax very true I try to act confident but when one minor inconvenience happens I’ll think about it all night and get worked up
I’m coming to the point where I feel like is there reason to carry on and will it get better? I feel like I don’t even know know if these thoughts are true or not I feel so unsure of myself and get so worried that I am a bad person, I just can’t like myself and I feel like no matter what I do I can’t get past this, anybody got any tips on getting me through? Thanks x
Hey, just looking for some none-OCD advice, as at the moment I don’t really have anyone to talk to. I’m gonna try and keep it short, so I don’t bore you! So, I’m from England, and I’m 16. At 16 in the UK, you go from high school to 6th form, where you spend two years doing something called your ‘A levels’, and then you go to university at 18, like all countries. I’ve been in college for 8 months now, but I’d say 65-70% of my time has been spent online - so I’ve only had a relatively small amount of time to make true friends. I had solid friends throughout high school, and I say I tilt quite a lot towards being an extravert. Ever since coming to 6th form, a lot of the people who I was friends with, went to a different school, and some of the people who were acquaintances I barely see now, because the school is so large. Basically, since coming to college I only have 2 true friends, and one of those has basically separated herself from me (she’s a bit of a bitch, but that’s another story - we’ve basically been best friends since we were 4 but she routinely ditches me) I’ve found that no one ever messages me anymore. I’ve got plans to go to the city with me and 3 other girls next Sunday - but I organised it. They were all excited, but I’ve only been invited out once by one of my other friends. I just feel like no one likes me, and that I’m repulsive to people - I know it’s irrational, but the fear that I’m just unlikeable terrifies me, as I want nothing more than a big group of friends and that’s not what I have at the minute. I’m desperate for someone to be like “hey, Ellie do you wanna come and sit with us”, but they don’t. And I’m usually just sat with one of my close friends, who I love. She’s popular, and people like her more than me but she’s self-admittedly introverted and I’m not. Ugh, this is long now. But does anyone have any advice? I’ve made a lot of acquaintances, but they all have their own friendship groups from high school - but I don’t because a lot of my friends went to a different school. I’m miserable because of this at the moment, and I feel worthless.
I just went out with friends, I’m still a bit sad about the breakup of me and my boyfriend 6 months ago (I know long) and I’m really insecure. I went to a club and had a great time but I got sad because all my friends get the attention from boys and nobody comes to me, or they talk about my friends that they’re pretty etc. I’m so sad I want to do something about my appearance but I try so hard already and i don’t get what’s wrong with me I don’t even look that bad and people tell me not to worry. But why doesn’t I get attention from boys? I feel so rejected al the time 😞😞
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