Having fears of something from 13 years ago when I was 21. Someone I was sexting with the profile mentioned she was a year older than me and I went on webcam. She cheated on me and claimed her 13 year old cousin changed it. My fears are what if the person I talked to was not really 22 but underage? The sex offender registry terrifies me. Never been contacted by police or anything like that, spoke to a laywer and my cousin whos a cop about it to a degree, basically he said they are really interested more in what is happening now and my friend told me that in most cases statute of limitations and that its a waste of time because minors get popups for live cams on adult sites and no one is prosecuted for that and the profile/pictures are of an adult so the assumption is the person in communication is an old. This has been causing me massive anxiety to search for legal cases involving this and it appears no statute of limitations exist on a federal level. This is assuming I actually broke any laws.

Riso123

Date posted: 5y ago

Firstly, none of us will tell you it's all going to be ok. This goes against what is healthy for OCD. No matter how much "proof" you get that you ate going to be ok, you will always come back round to that "but what if" thought process. Look at the things you do know: - It was 13 years ago - You (as far as I'm aware) are not actually a paedophile - You have so far wasted 13 years on this worry and yet you ate still on the streets a free man - That "child" is now 13 years older and no longer a child either way The internet in these circumstances is a terrible weapon in FAVOUR of OCD. If you look deep enough, I'm sure you will find all sorts of stories where people where locked up for similar cases. However most would be exaggeration and there would be other factors which ate not in those stories. You need to primarily step away from Google. Google is not a friend of OCD. You need to get a therapist and you need to be HONEST. You did something. You don't know the exact facts. A lot of what you are worrying about is in your own mind. A therapist will not judge you, they will put things in perspective and then teach you to deal with your OCD healthily without the thought action fusion reassurance you are seeking.

fruflamuresa

Date posted: 5y ago

I have a similar experience ://

PIL1985

Date posted: 5y ago

I guess I have to look at this like any other rational person, prosecutor or jury would look at it. Was there intent? Was communication cut off? Would the "injury" be treated equally with any other situation say an adult website where adult camera websites exist? In the case of innocent until proven guilty, can it be proven an adult wasn't the one engaged in the activity? I would assume a profile with the age being appropriate and signing contract that someone is of that age is that the assumption is that is the actual individual unless proven otherwise.

fruflamuresa

Date posted: 5y ago

I hate uncertainty. Its the worst.

PIL1985

Date posted: 5y ago

It's more than that. I am 34 now, have worked since that time for many tech companies, have a succesful career, married to a beautiful wife with a 2 year old son, she knows about all these issues and supports me. We travel internationally often and I just have this terrifying fear everything will come burning and crashing down. I feel much regret and frustration as well as fear that I was so stupid at the time going on camera for really a stranger. Yes I used my best judgement that this person was an adult, in my mind and based on all information based on what was there that this person was absolutely an adult and now the fear if I was catfished..who is the victim? If it somehow did turn out to be a minor, society and the law will not see me as the victim but as the predator with a sexual addiction who should be kept away from children and at the very least a person who should have been more cautious but still guilty due to the circumstantial facts regardless of how much I knew or not or my intent. That is a terrifying prospective.

Riso123

Date posted: 5y ago

Mate. This is exactly my fear. Although mine has now morphed in to me just generally letting my family down by letting our house fall down or one of my children dying because I didn't do enough to ensure their safety. You NEED to get a therapist. I doubt want to reassure you, BUT think about sites like chat roulette. Kids go on there, yet most of the people you see ate older blokes masturbating. Firstly - not one person had ever been prosecuted for this although you can be due a minor will have seen them. Secondly - do you think those blokes give it a second thought? They do it with intent for people to see them doing that, yet don't care. This is the first and last time I will post anything remotely related to reassuring you, add its unhealthy for you to get that reassurance. You need to become comfortable living with the unknown. You can't change your past and you ate ruminating, which is part of the OCD cycle. You don't know what will happen in future. After you seriously going to spend the rest of your life worrying about arrest or the worst happening to affect your family? As my therapist told me - "on your death bed, you will call your grandchildren close and ask, aare the police about to arrest me?"

Riso123

Date posted: 5y ago

@Greenwhale Greenwhale is right. You need to get help. This can escalate and become debilitating. I talk from experience as I was exactly the same. Mine was - what if I watched porn and one of then wad underage and I hadn't known. I started to seek constant assurance and done people don't get it. If it helps - we know this is OCD and ate confident that with help you can get better. Just don't expect to ever be cured. You can learn to live with OCD, but you will not be free of it.

LizOCD3

Date posted: 18w ago

Will this affect me in the future?

When i was between the ages of 11-18 i was a very mentally ill and hyper sexual kid. I did a lot pf sexting, sent nudes, and even one video of me doing inappropriate things that haunt me to this day. I have changed a lot since then and realized that this was all jn relation to (TW!!) sexual abuse i experienced as a child/teen. I still feel horrible for the things that I have done and think about this daily. I beat myself up because I know it was wrong of me to act that way growing up. Im afraid that someone will find these texts/pictures/videos one day and it will lead to my complete humiliation. I want to throw up at the thought of people i know and love seeing me act that. Its not who I am or who I ever was. I regret that part of my life so deeply it hurts.

Holly117

Date posted: 17w ago

Past porn use “what if’s”

I’m really struggling right now. My mind is racing and I’m panicking about the content that I watched in the past because I don’t have a way to ‘prove’ that it was safe and consensual. I stupidly caved in and googled “what happens if an accidentally saw illegal porn” and I ended up making my anxiety so much worse. What if the images I saw in the past had underage people in them? Am I going to jail? Will my ip address be tracked? My brain is making all sorts of scenarios up and they feel so real. At this point I don’t know if I’m a bad person or not, I just feel like something terrible is about to happen. Although I know I’d never intentionally look for that kind of stuff there’s still a chance that I could have seen things without realising, and I actually don’t know what to do. I’m in total panic mode

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Date posted: 10w ago

Online footprint,and ocd

Very brief mentions of pocd and nsfw jokes,id like this to be adults only . Repost bc i had to edit something Does anyone have experience with real event ocd attached to your online footprint etc? I keep checking old messages,trying to find old people i knew i used to talk to etc. To find out every problematic thing I did and if I've ever been unfollowed or blocked by anyone I used to be friends w online/atleast on good terms w. I am particularly concerned abt doing something bigoted,esp racist bc i have racism ocd,and doing something predatory bc of my pocd. I remember hanging around people who could use 'edgy' or offensive humour in my teens and i remember a lot of sex jokes and that i would join in on sex jokes sometimes . i dont remember details w the offensive humour as much,i feel like i didnt join in on it as much but i was definitely WAY passive abt things and prob let a lot of bad stuff slide i shouldnt have bc i didn't speak up it was wrong,I remember one friend in an online community would say slurs and horrible jokes when i was 16. I dont remember my response to it as much but i feel i didnt speak up abt it aside one time i found in the dms where he made a bad joke on a thing i shared for social justice. I cant stop going thru old messages and stuff or trying to find ppl from the past. I feel like if I don't check it now,that eventually it'll come to haunt me or that I'll stumble across it eventually. I worry what if someone messaged me on one of these apps I un-installed or on one of the accounts I don't have access to,confronting me abt all this stuff I did. I had an obsession w this back in 2020 and did check in depth on all my accounts,but now that it's been 4 years the obsession is back in full swing.

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