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Yep, totally normal. I know straight girls that even identified as bi before realising that they were straight. Either way, even if you are gay or bi, there’s nothing wrong with that. I feel as if HOCD is a product of OCD and internalised homophobia. Once we learn how to let that go, it won’t scare you anymore.
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So I don’t know if I have internalised homophobia
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Sometimes we’re okay with other people living certain lifestyles or making certain life choices but for some reason we aren’t okay with doing it ourselves. Maybe you’re okay with gay people but not being gay yourself. I’m obviously not saying you are gay, it doesn’t sound like you are anyway. I just think it’s important to examine the root of these fears.
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I don’t want to give you reassurance since that only makes OCD worse but no. Lots of straight girls like lesbian porn. It’s literally tailored for women, unlike straight porn which is mostly made for men. I mean that I’d fantasise about having a girlfriend and I’d enjoy those thoughts the same way I enjoy thinking about dating guys.
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Weirdly I have always been okay with gay people and super supportive
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Yeah you’re right but I feel like this is something you would know at a younger age even adolescence? Not when you’re in your 20’s which I am...I don’t think people discover their sexuality later on in life or have been ‘clueless’ about it
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Everyone experiences their sexuality differently but that’s pretty accurate for the most part. IMO, if you’ve fallen for one gender before, you can probably fall for it again in the future. People don’t wake up one morning and stop being attracted to the opposite gender. Usually the story is that they realise that they’re bi in their 20s, if anything. Even then, they can choose to ignore one side of their attraction if they want to. I’m bi and I generally ignore my attraction to girls unless it’s a girl a really really like or it’s pride.
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Yeah so true, and even with bisexuality...usually I think if you realise it later you’ve only been dating one gender and had a monogamous relationship and never entertained the thought of being attracted to same sex due to monogamy.. but even with bisexuality I think the consensus is you’re still aware at a younger age maybe even late adolescence when you meet more people etc. idk, when did you know??
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Dunno, I had my first crush on a girl when I was 13 but I didn’t actually really realise that I was bi until I was 15. For a while between I just acknowledged that I was a little bi, but continued to identify as straight. That was mostly just to calm down my anxiety. Honestly though, I really had a hard time believing that I was bisexual. It felt like I was lying to myself. It was only when I found out that it’s not actually normal to enjoy lesbian fantasies that I actually became super aware of just how bisexual I actually am, lmao.
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Hahahah lesbian fantasies?? I remember getting aroused to lesbian sex scenes on tv is that the same? ?
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Yeah reassurance is a two way sword isn’t it :( thanks for all your insight it has helped heaps xx
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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