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- nicky310
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- 6y ago
Yep, totally normal. I know straight girls that even identified as bi before realising that they were straight. Either way, even if you are gay or bi, there’s nothing wrong with that. I feel as if HOCD is a product of OCD and internalised homophobia. Once we learn how to let that go, it won’t scare you anymore.
So I don’t know if I have internalised homophobia
Sometimes we’re okay with other people living certain lifestyles or making certain life choices but for some reason we aren’t okay with doing it ourselves. Maybe you’re okay with gay people but not being gay yourself. I’m obviously not saying you are gay, it doesn’t sound like you are anyway. I just think it’s important to examine the root of these fears.
I don’t want to give you reassurance since that only makes OCD worse but no. Lots of straight girls like lesbian porn. It’s literally tailored for women, unlike straight porn which is mostly made for men. I mean that I’d fantasise about having a girlfriend and I’d enjoy those thoughts the same way I enjoy thinking about dating guys.
Weirdly I have always been okay with gay people and super supportive
Yeah you’re right but I feel like this is something you would know at a younger age even adolescence? Not when you’re in your 20’s which I am...I don’t think people discover their sexuality later on in life or have been ‘clueless’ about it
Everyone experiences their sexuality differently but that’s pretty accurate for the most part. IMO, if you’ve fallen for one gender before, you can probably fall for it again in the future. People don’t wake up one morning and stop being attracted to the opposite gender. Usually the story is that they realise that they’re bi in their 20s, if anything. Even then, they can choose to ignore one side of their attraction if they want to. I’m bi and I generally ignore my attraction to girls unless it’s a girl a really really like or it’s pride.
Yeah so true, and even with bisexuality...usually I think if you realise it later you’ve only been dating one gender and had a monogamous relationship and never entertained the thought of being attracted to same sex due to monogamy.. but even with bisexuality I think the consensus is you’re still aware at a younger age maybe even late adolescence when you meet more people etc. idk, when did you know??
Dunno, I had my first crush on a girl when I was 13 but I didn’t actually really realise that I was bi until I was 15. For a while between I just acknowledged that I was a little bi, but continued to identify as straight. That was mostly just to calm down my anxiety. Honestly though, I really had a hard time believing that I was bisexual. It felt like I was lying to myself. It was only when I found out that it’s not actually normal to enjoy lesbian fantasies that I actually became super aware of just how bisexual I actually am, lmao.
Hahahah lesbian fantasies?? I remember getting aroused to lesbian sex scenes on tv is that the same? ?
Yeah reassurance is a two way sword isn’t it :( thanks for all your insight it has helped heaps xx
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Does anybody have Sexuality OCD? Because I am pretty sure that I am straight but then suddenly about a week ago I stopped going guys attractive and it really scared me. I was convinced I was gay! I tried to like a girl but my brain was telling me that it was wrong. That was when I thought ‘OMG I DONT HAVE A SEXUALITY’ and I got really scared. Then yesterday I thought a girl was really cute but then saw a guy and thought he was gorgeous! And then I was like no I have to be straight!!!!! What do I do? Does anybody have this problem?
So basicaly Two days ago I found a video on YouTube about astrology, and the woman speaking said smth like: you should look inside yourself because you have a tendency to ignore your own identity and your own true feelings. Instantly I thought of this endeavouring rumination about me being bisexual. Cause now I’ve kinda come to terms with the fact that in no way am I gay. So okay, the thing is, recently I’ve started to think that girls especially have an inclination towards bisexuality, mainly because they are affectionate with other girls. Bear in mind the fact that, since this hocd started, the lines between normal dating actions and behaviours between people are blurred to me. Now I realize that I am ruminating more and more this possibility of me being bisexual, but there are counter arguments like : I would never ever date a woman, I would never ever have sex with a woman and to me they are beautiful yes, they are sexy etc but I don’t want to do anything with them. Then, my consequent thought is maybe I have internalized homophobia idk. This is all soooo distressful and irritating and confusing. Deep down I know that I am a straight girl, but I feel guilty every time someone asks about my boyfriend because of these intrusive thoughts. It feels like I am lying to them, telling them that I am straight, when in fact I am not. Have you ever had such experiences?
I’m so exhausted. Been having HOCD since May & had it once before when I was 15 - both times began as me genuinely thinking I was questioning my sexuality, then it became obsessive and that’s when I landed on HOCD. It was more like HOCD that actually questioning. But I will say I do find women attractive, and have always watched lesbian porn & in my mind I guess I do find women’s body’s somewhat sexually attractive. This being said - I have always had boyfriends, always fell for boys and not once have I ever been genuinely interested in a girl or fallen for one. I’m 20 too, so it’s not like i’m only 14. In very open about sexuality and accept everything and everyone, so the idea of being lesbian or bi isn’t alien to me. Some of my friends are gay and lesbian . Earlier this summer I even started coming out to people as maybe being bi, and i was almost pushing that label onto myself to try and accept myself - but it still didn’t feel right and I am still unsure and uncertain. Just want some advice - is this similar to other people’s stories ? Not looking for reassurance, just genuinely wondering wether it is HOCD or maybe I am just abit gay hahaha (which would be okay, just doesn’t really feel right)
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