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You are not alone. I have that chest tightness feeling. You have to allow it to go through you and resist google searching or reading forums to see if your symptoms match. If it didn’t feel real, you wouldn’t have ocd about this. Accept it “feeling real” as as thought, acknowledge and move on to something else. Otherwise you’ll end up analyzing why you got that feeling and it spirals into more compulsions and a worse form of HOCD.
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Thank you. It’s great to not feel alone.
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if u don’t want a certain emotion or feeling to happen, u will most likely experience it which is why u feel like ur attracted to them. the whole point is to accept that maybe u are attracted to them, maybe not. you just have to learn to be okay with that. it’s hard and it’s painful but that’s just what erp is ://
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When you start resisting compulsions, your brain will double down at first. It REALLY wants you to do compulsions, so it will send new intrusive thoughts/feelings/urges to get you to cave. Don’t. This is perfectly normal for your theme. And you should expect to keep dealing with it for awhile. Face it and don’t run away. Every time you use compulsions to avoid these things you only show your brain just how important/right/scary/real these thoughts are to you. And you take away an opportunity for yourself to see them for what they are: just thoughts you don’t need to do anything about.
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Beautiful, thank you.
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The physical sensations associated with different emotions overlap a TON. the less we read into our sensations, the better. Your heart jumped. That happens sometimes. There are loads of possible reasons-including anxiety
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How do you do your ERP I also kind of get triggered but by the opposite “femine” looking guys
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So helpful thanks. I'm trying! ❤
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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