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I know I’m late here but I am in almost exactly the same position. I’ve almost broken up with my first girlfriend in 6 years several times and I’m so glad I didn’t. I know I’ll still have days where I feel disconnected and want to brake up, shoot maybe I will one day, but there are really good days too. I am so new to this OCD world but from others I’ve seen/heard from and from my very limited experience so far, I suggest sticking it out and seeing this relationship, however long it lasts, as taking a stand against avoidance.
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Hey there. Firstly thanks for sharing this. You are in good company:) I too suffer from HOCD and ROCD and felt a big charge when i read your post as i often tend to think I am okay when in reality ROCD is still a big part of my life. It is great to be aware of what you have and what you are going through because before that it's hell and I know that. Take things one step at a time. My advice would be to only share what you feel comfortable with this person and they don't have to understand it all at once. Just make sure you are comfortable with what and how much you share. You never know, it may allow the other person to feel comfortable sharing about themselves. As for differentiating between ROCD and legitimate relationships worries. Have you tried talking to yourself as if a good friend had come to you with these worries. How would you rationally give advice to your friend? Would you tell your friend that you agree that an extra freckle is a valid reason to break up with someone or would you advise them to reconsider?
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Omg I’m in the same position as well!! I’ve just started to a guy in quarantine and I really like him. I think my HOCD might be turing into ROCD. I keep having doubts bc I can’t see him right now. It’s really hard but I do feel like I will marry him. I hate having doubts
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Currently experiencing this. My thoughts kindof happen more when I’m about my partner and less as much when I’m alone. Is this the same for you guys?
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I meant to say (around my partner) sorry
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@OCDwon’tconquerme Mine was all the time while dating. Which has led me to avoid dating
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Hi, can we talk?
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I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?
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Hi, I’m new here!! I’m praying I don’t get judged for this. But, back in late May of 2022 ( literally right before I graduated high school), I added this one random girl from my school on Snapchat. She posted something about a graduation party , so I swiped up on her story basically saying how I can’t believe we’re almost graduated. She replied and we had a really short and simple conversation. The next day ( i believe) , we started talking a lot , and I just so happened to see her at the highschool when we were grabbing our graduation outfits and doing the rehearsal. When I saw her irl, I kinda got turned off ( I heard she was kinda crazy) , and on top of that , she was a little ugly irl. I remember seeing her Snapchat bio , and she was close friends with my female cousin ( a year younger than me) , who I happened to experiment sexually with when I was 10-11 years old. I remember going to work later that day and having sort of a lightbulb flick thought ( it wasn’t a good thought though) , what if my cousin told her about what happened when we were younger? So I started to kind of panic and immediately distanced myself from that girl. I also experimented sexually with one of my female friends when I was 10-11 , and from that day onwards, I’ve been pretty much living in paranoia and a little bit of guilt about someone finding out and my life being ruined . On top of that, It’s gotten worse to now sometimes I wonder if a girl I added off of quick add ( Snapchat) is underage even if they told me they were 18+ or had 18 and above in their bio, and I get so much guilt and anxiety about that. I even had a quick thought last February on what if I did something inappropriate with my younger cousin when I was 15-16 but I just can’t exactly remember when it happened , and it still eats me alive when I think about it, because I don’t know if it happened or not. I’m sorry for the long vent, I just wish I felt normal again. No matter how much I try to do things that old me used to do, life always feels “ off”. I always kept the top part about when I was younger a secret up until early (ish ) 2024, then I vented to one of my best friends and he told me that that’s a normal thing to do at a young age. Since then, I have told multiple friends and they all say they did similar stuff, but my brain just can’t accept that. Please help me, I quite literally overthink everything nowadays. 2021 was the last full year that I felt normal ( coincidentally, the best year of my life so far) . It’s not just about sexual related things either, sometimes I’ll wonder if I messed up something at work or hit a car while driving/hit someone and drove off. I just wanna live my life how I was supposed to live it after highschool ( carefree and happy) before whatever it is ( I think it’s ocd) hit me unexpectedly. Thanks to anyone who read this , I just needed to pour it out regardless of how negative I felt typing this, I hope someone can relate , because I feel so alone in my head at times.
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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