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- 6y ago
A lot of the time I feel the same way - but what I have realized is that was just not even realizing the effort they were putting in. They may be putting in a lot, but it’s not in a way that you recognize! I used to think the same for my boyfriend, but then I started to pay attention to the little things that he did. He invites me to practically everything, doesn’t pressure me into meeting his family (I have generalized anxiety as well as OCD.), and always reminds me that I’m not getting consumed by germs (also a hypochondriac). He does so much, it’s just not the way I show love to him because he doesn’t necessarily need me to be the same person for him. If that doesn’t help, I would highly recommend going to groups in your community! Going to college groups or adult groups at my old church always made me feel loved and refreshed, and I made some good friends and role models out of it. Also, if you’re still in high school, or younger, people are shitty then and most of your decent friends will probably come from college. Don’t lose hope!
You got to look at having friends more as a convenient type of way like cool if I do cool if I don’t. Don’t go out of your way to make friends don’t go out of your way to change the way you do things just so you can have people in your life. People will come in your life if you stay true to who you are and those will be the people who will care about you.
If it makes you feel better, I never had friends in high school! I used to mainly sit in my room, watch Criminal Minds or Supernatural, and organize! But in college I made a couple of really good friends, and met my boyfriend who handles my anxiety/OCD super well. Also, as you get older, you’ll slowly start finding yourself. I’m not even remotely close to who I was in high school. I’m not happy all of the time, but I did force myself to go to things and in general the world is a little less depressing!
Yup. I trust my boyfriend and my best friend and that’s it. Not that I hold it against anyone. I have other friends, I’m just not an open book. I just enjoy the time with other friends, but hold no emotional attachment to them.
I feel the same way at the moment
Me too. It’s a very sad thing especially when the friends you do have can’t do anything about it. It frustrates me that if I was in their position I would be helping them to no end. It pains me to see that I’m putting more effort than they ever could. It’s bitter; what I try and do is stick on my phone and take away all of the pain by ignoring it. Doing stuff that makes me nostalgic makes me happy. Do something that makes you smile unconditionally- and if you have nothing find something. Hope this gets better for you ?
I’ve learned that I care way more than other people do and am a lot kinder and considerate. Not everyone thinks like me and I have to accept that. So I’ve learned not to trust anyone. It’s a cruel reality that most people are not trust worthy because they simply care too much about themselves.
And I went above and beyond for friends in high school and some of them turned their backs on me without hesitation. As you get older I think it’s more about having people that you trust and keeping your circle tight that counting the number of friends you have.
I have no friends too and I also feel like nobody cares about me :(
That’s why I’m not using social media anymore. I cut everyone off just like they cut me off and I’m not looking at Facebook, Snapchat, basically no where that reminds me of anyone from school. I’m starting a new life for myself and disconnecting from old habits, and I’m not interested in catching up or knowing these people ever again.
I’m trying my hardest to stay positive, but people use my mental illness to hurt me so I guess I’m just not gonna confide in anyone anymore.
I used to feel like that to, but it did get better. Part of it was getting out of a toxic environment, but a big part was my treatment too. I still get those thoughts sometimes, but most of the time I can remind myself that it isn’t true now. Best of wishes
Thanks guys? I am in high school so that is probably a huge part of it.
Thank you. It just seems so hard right now.
Thank you so much???
That’s what I did I deleted Snapchat and Instagram because it just made my anxiety much worse. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. I can’t tell if it’s my fault or not. I just think no one knows how to deal with me. I mean I don’t even know half the time??♀️
Im just really sad, depressed and no one gives a shit about me. Not even the people who I thought I had my own family. Im all alone.
I cut my “best friend” off of 11 years this week. I have given her chance after chance to get better and she continued to treat me like shit. So I feel free from that, however my other best friend of 11 years stopped being friends with both me and the toxic friend just because I was still friends with her. I’m 20 and go to a community college and it’s been very hard for me to make friends even before the pandemic. I haven’t had any other friends outside them since hs and my hs friends honestly weren’t great to me either (we distanced, all of us) and of course I’ve looked at myself and considered myself to be the problem and blamed myself but even my therapist doesn’t think that’s true... but anyways. I’m here. Lonely af. Officially no friends. And the sad thing is I don’t know when I will have any. It could be months or years from now and I’m so focused on school... I have no idea if I will ever be happy with someone (like a vest or close friend) or even be in a relationship. Anyways this is what I’m going through and I’m feeling very alone
I’ve never had a single friend that is 100% body positive towards me. Everyone tries to get under my skin even when I go out of my way to lift them up. Should i just block and cut off everyone? I don’t see the point in caring about anyone anymore
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