cwllms
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- 5y
PeachyPopsiclePeachyPopsicle
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- 5y
I've struggled with this before. Ask yourself if what you're doing is in response to anxiety and your obsession, and if you're doing it in order to feel relief from your anxiety. The compulsion that was so difficult for me to notice was ruminating and over analyzing. I had just thought that it was part of my obsession, but I realized I was taking part in it as a compulsion and how unhelpful it is. I would try to think my way out of my obsession. Repitive googling sounds like a compulsion (I've done this one before too) but I don't think it matters if it's classified as pure or physical. If it's a compulsion, it's a compulsion and trying to resist it while doing exposures can be helpful.
wegotthiswegotthis
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- 5y
I totally relate to this!
cwllmscwllms
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- 5y
ahhh thank you so much
MmMm
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- 5y
think of not doing what you think may be a compulsion. if just bu thinking of not doing it causes you distress/anxiety then it's a compulsion. also anything that makes you question whether it's ocd or not just treat it as OCD
wegotthiswegotthis
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- 5y
I’ve had a hard time with this too. I think a good way to realize if what your doing is a compulsion is if your thoughts or actions are purposely being done to reduce anxiety OR to help find certainty. A lot of my compulsions aren’t done to know my fear isn’t real but instead to be certain that my fear is or isn’t real. Compulsions aren’t only done to make you feel better but just to find KNOW whether something is real or not. So instead of constantly trying to find answers or make the thought go away try to let yourself think and feel whatever your body happens to experience and leave it at that without intentionally pushing the envelope even more.
cwllmscwllms
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- 5y
ah this is really helpful to me! i think most of my compulsions are more to find certainty than to abate anxiety if you get me? like i google and i ruminate and i seek reassurance when i’m doubting that i have ocd at all (which is irritatingly regular) i’m currently between therapists and struggling without that concrete pillar aha
wegotthiswegotthis
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- 5y
@cwllms I’m the same way and totally get it. I actually posted something similar on here a little while ago looking for the difference between an obsession and mental compulsion and someone responded saying obsessions create anxiety and compulsions decrease them and I just didn’t know if that was always the case. The next day I actually watched a YouTube video with Chrissy Hodgens and John Hershfield (both of whom I abosloutly love) and he explained that sometimes compulsions are used to find certainty and not just to make us feel better. It was a huge Aha moment for me. If you suffer from pure o I highly recommend checking Chrissy hodgens out, she really gets it. https://youtu.be/yWjb6O0OmLA here’s a link to that video I mentioned, you may find it really useful!
AmoreiAmorei
- Date posted
- 5y
If you ever feel like I need to do xyz to prevent abc from becoming true, It’s usually a compulsion.
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Wed_Wheel
- Date posted
- 22w
My SO OCD
I have just recently realized that I had SO OCD. This began whenever I was watching porn and had an intrusive thought about the guy in the porn. It was more minor at first, it was a majority of what I was thinking about throughout the day but it didn’t feel as distressing at first. If I had downtime to think about it, it would affect me but if I was just going about my day I wouldn’t notice it. I began going through the compulsions of checking myself. This lasted for a while until another obsession occurred. Then it seemed as if my SO OCD took a step back. I would have flare ups but they would seem to pass. Recently, I had a very bad night of constant compulsions and looking at pictures and imagining things to check myself. After that night it was very distressing, it affected me to the point where people around me began to notice and ask me if I was okay. One of the big reasons I was so upset was my girlfriend, we have been together for over 3 years and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I was thinking “Oh my god, if I am gay I can never be with her.” I would sit and cry about it thinking I would lose her and that might life would change because I was gay. I finally had enough and talked to her and my parents. We did some research and I was so shocked to find out that I had a form of OCD, it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders just knowing that other people have been where I am and that I’m not gay. However, I may have naively expected the compulsions and obsessive thoughts to go away now that I knew I had an actual problem. But I found that the compulsions and thoughts were still there and I was going to put some effort into getting better. I have researched and now know what to do when experiencing intrusive thoughts, yet I still have been performing the compulsions which is just feeding into the OCD. I find myself having intrusive thoughts and then start performing compulsions to see if they are true. What really bothers me is when I have an intrusive thought that tells me that I do like something. But when I think about it I have no desire to pursue those thoughts. However when I feed into the compulsions they just seem to feed into each other. It is like my OCD ignores all the things that I know I like and goes straight to panic mode. I am also trying to do ERP and am going to start doing my best to get better. Does anyone have any tips for not performing the compulsions no matter how anxious you are feeling and no matter how real the intrusive thoughts seem to feel?
Dan Frijoles
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 22w
Compulsions NEVER Help
After almost 2 decades of struggling with Pure OCD that was all-consuming, all day, every day, I'm finally in a spot where I can effectively manage this disorder. A big way I did this was realizing that compulsions NEVER help and they are NEVER the answer. It might feel like it's helping in the moment, but you're just giving power to the OCD and it WILL come back stronger. Sometimes (especially with Pure O), it can be hard to even tell if you're doing a compulsion. If you're not sure and think there is even a possibility that it could be, try to stop doing that immediately. The better you get at noticing your compulsions and stopping them quickly the better off you'll be in the long-term. It's definitely a tough and bumpy road, but if I was able to get there I'm sure anyone can. Just stick with it and it gets way easier.
allyc_
- Date posted
- 17w
help
when i’m not thinking about a compulsion so i do things “regularly” does that mean it’s not OCD? i’m just confused is it all in my head? am i just faking it in my head all this time? sorry for posting so much my mind likes to go spiral lol
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