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- 4y
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- 4y
It helps me to view accepting uncertainty as a big F*** you to OCD. Instead of doing what it wants me to do (compulsions), I accept the uncertainty by telling my brain sure that’s a possibility! And by doing that I’m not accepting that I am my intrusive thoughts and fears, I’m just telling my brain that they have no value or meaning; because by doing compulsions it just signifies to my brain that my intrusive thoughts do mean something. So accepting uncertainty is not accepting that you are your worst fears, it’s telling OCD that you’re done falling for its tricks so you can finally have freedom. It’s by far a very difficult thing to do, but from someone who deals with Harm OCD and sexual intrusive thoughts I want you to know it is possible and ERP really does work. ❤️
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
I really like this view!
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 4y
@GJ7 I’m glad! Dealing with OCD is really all just your mindset. ?
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- 4y
This article helped me understand acceptance better https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-things-anxiety/201912/5-roadblocks-acceptance-in-the-treatment-ocd%3famp I highly recommend you check it out
- Date posted
- 4y
thank you. im having a sexual intrusive thought now with body sensation and im really trying to just let it be huhu
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- 4y
I always said that physically, I probably would be able to do this. I have the muscles, the bones etc.,I could do it.
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But that is an entirely other thing than believing it.
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- 4y
what does that mean? you accept the possibility but wont believe it? idk to me it sounds like accepting it means liking it
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- 4y
@thegazz It is difficult. Think of it that way, you are probably completely capable of doing a backflip or wandering for 30 days through a desert or something like that. But the fact that you can do that doesn't automatically mean that you do it.
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- 4y
@SoMi1907 And I know, those are other things than hurting someone or whatever you ocd centers around, those are always very taboo themes. But you could do anything, the good and the bad. And this is what you have to accpt I think
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- 4y
But I completely understand you... I have real event OCD about a sexual fantasy I once had (and enjoyed :/) about the father of my boyfriend, and to accept uncertainty would be to accept the fact that maybe it was a bad thing. but I can't tell him and ask because confessing is my compulsion so I just have to live with it. But I don't know how I should live without knowing that I didn't make a major mistake.
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- Date posted
- 15w
Here is what I say to people: I wish I could make it stop. I really do. I also wish I could stop tinnitus. What is tinnitus, you may ask? Well, have you ever gone to a loud concert and after it had a ringing in your ears. Or, in movies when a loud explosion hears, first it is often muffled, and then there is a very loud ringing sound. Well, I have hear that sound for over 30 years. Turns out the medications I took as a kid for allergies and all the antibiotics I was on for Strep had a side effect for some people - tinnitus - that sound that I have heard every decade, year, month, day, hour, and second, for the past 30 years. I have learned to live with it. As I type this, it is REALLY loud, because I am paying attention to it. But, in a few minutes it will fade into the background, and, while I will hear it, I will not pay much attention to it, and therefore I will go on with my night. I will listen to music, practice my story for the MOTH radio hour, and work out. I will clean up the kitchen and load the dishwasher, and I will eventually get ready for bed. I will go to bed hearing that sound, and fall asleep for a few hours until tomorrow morning when I start the day all over again. I cannot make the sound stop. There is nothing to do for it - no surgery or medication. Just learning to live with it, and that is what I have done. It is the thing that I hate the most in my life, and, if granted three wishes, it would be the first thing to change. For now, as I have for 30 years, I will live with it, and I will ask you to live with your noises in your head - the thoughts, the images, and the urges, and we will practice together accepting that things are not always as we want them, but we can handle that. We got this.
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- 12w
I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
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- 8w
Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and can’t remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didn’t and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, it’s affecting my relationship and I’m going on holiday on Friday and I’m worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
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