thegazz
- Date posted
- 5y
Team UncertaintyTeam Uncerta...
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 5y
It helps me to view accepting uncertainty as a big F*** you to OCD. Instead of doing what it wants me to do (compulsions), I accept the uncertainty by telling my brain sure that’s a possibility! And by doing that I’m not accepting that I am my intrusive thoughts and fears, I’m just telling my brain that they have no value or meaning; because by doing compulsions it just signifies to my brain that my intrusive thoughts do mean something. So accepting uncertainty is not accepting that you are your worst fears, it’s telling OCD that you’re done falling for its tricks so you can finally have freedom. It’s by far a very difficult thing to do, but from someone who deals with Harm OCD and sexual intrusive thoughts I want you to know it is possible and ERP really does work. ❤️
GregJGregJ
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y
I really like this view!
Team UncertaintyTeam Uncerta...
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 5y
@GJ7 I’m glad! Dealing with OCD is really all just your mindset. ?
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 5y
This article helped me understand acceptance better https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-things-anxiety/201912/5-roadblocks-acceptance-in-the-treatment-ocd%3famp I highly recommend you check it out
thegazzthegazz
- Date posted
- 5y
thank you. im having a sexual intrusive thought now with body sensation and im really trying to just let it be huhu
SoMi1907SoMi1907
- Date posted
- 5y
I always said that physically, I probably would be able to do this. I have the muscles, the bones etc.,I could do it.
SoMi1907SoMi1907
- Date posted
- 5y
But that is an entirely other thing than believing it.
thegazzthegazz
- Date posted
- 5y
what does that mean? you accept the possibility but wont believe it? idk to me it sounds like accepting it means liking it
SoMi1907SoMi1907
- Date posted
- 5y
@thegazz It is difficult. Think of it that way, you are probably completely capable of doing a backflip or wandering for 30 days through a desert or something like that. But the fact that you can do that doesn't automatically mean that you do it.
SoMi1907SoMi1907
- Date posted
- 5y
@SoMi1907 And I know, those are other things than hurting someone or whatever you ocd centers around, those are always very taboo themes. But you could do anything, the good and the bad. And this is what you have to accpt I think
SoMi1907SoMi1907
- Date posted
- 5y
But I completely understand you... I have real event OCD about a sexual fantasy I once had (and enjoyed :/) about the father of my boyfriend, and to accept uncertainty would be to accept the fact that maybe it was a bad thing. but I can't tell him and ask because confessing is my compulsion so I just have to live with it. But I don't know how I should live without knowing that I didn't make a major mistake.
Related posts
eugeniodepalo
- Date posted
- 24w
Double standards for certainty?
Do you ever feel like people without OCD have an easy time just saying “you need to accept uncertainty” only because they’re not subject to the same level of fear and anxiety as an OCD sufferer would? I feel like they don’t really accept uncertainty, they’re just naturally more certain about things. For example, if you ask anyone whether they think their loved ones are real or not, they will never answer with “maybe, but I’ll never know for sure”. They’ll just say “of course they are”. Isn’t that what certainty is? For me, as I’ve been suffering from existential OCD most of my adult life, such a question absolutely terrifies me. The mere thought of my loved ones and the world not being real sends me into a spiral of anxiety and depression and never ending certainty-seeking behavior. I just can’t stand the thought of that horrible scenario being true. How can one accept uncertainty about such a thought, when it completely undermines all my values and beliefs and world view? Can non-OCD sufferers really accept those nighmarish scenarios? Am I misunderstanding what ERP and therapy is about?
Anonymous
- Date posted
- 18w
Any tips for leaning in to uncertainty
I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
Anonymoususe...
- Date posted
- 18w
I physically can’t accept uncertainty
I don’t know how to stop this, but I feel like I physically can’t accept uncertainty about my obsession. I’m having an obsession over prayers. It’s led me to worry about praying for an inappropriate fleeting desire. Me being suicidal has led to my brain using that against me to come up with things I could pray for, like a meteor strike while I’m sleeping (because I would die, so it’s something I really wouldn’t mind). The issue, is earlier today, I might have prayed for it, but I don’t remember if I did. Most people will say it’s intrusive thoughts. It might be, but if I did it in the way I think, I’m not sure that’s the case. But I can’t remember if I did it, and I feel like I literally physically cannot accept uncertainty, no matter how hard I try
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond