- Username
- rosecoloredgirl
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Maybe she has a small amount of it, it runs in families. I always find arguing people on it makes them doubt you back harder. I’d give her a real example: triggering thought, fear, compulsion, feelings before during and after compulsion, repetition, and aftermath destruction of life. See if she can find any situation- then be like; “sounds like anxiety, but not OCD because of XYZ not being present. If you feel like it’s ruining your life go get an assessment, but if not, you probably don’t have it”
I do think a lot of people sit with their symptoms and cave to their compulsions so they don’t realize they have a problem. And don’t realize how hard it is to try to get better. And it doesn’t cause problems for them. So maybe she does have some mild ocd? The thing is; if she says it to diminish your symptoms like “oh i have it and I’m fine so why can’t you be fine” then she needs to know it’s not true and needs to educate herself (i have a friend like that which is super hurtful). But if she’s genuinely concerned it would be good to help her discern what it really is and if she has it.
That’s what my mom said when I told her she was like I’m the same I have to sleep with the lights on and I was like yeah no that’s not really the same but she was like oh so now because I said it its not anxiety
Sounds like she has ocpd
Ever since my OCD started when I was 14 (I’m 26 now), I get the biggest relief from confessing to my mother. It is getting harder as the years pass to resist the urge. I always feel like confessing all of my past mistakes and sins, even though a lot of it will upset her. But I always get a wave of calm across my body every time I get reassurance or a reaction from her. Idk why at 26 I feel guilty not telling my mom everything. I don’t even know anymore when it is appropriate to vent to her like a daughter and when it’s my OCD telling me to seek reassurance for the wrong reasons. I think of my past mistakes and feel so guilty around my mother.
I hate how my mind is making me doubt of my intentions when i clearly know that I don’t have any desires to act on my thoughts. It makes my intentions feel so uncertain, and sometimes it would even make me feel like if I wanted to act on my thoughts when I actually don’t, because I wouldn’t be doubting if I did. So since I feel my intentions so uncertain I need to come to an answer, and sometimes it is so damn hard to get that answer, which makes me anxious and disturbed. It would also make me think of my past like, how were you okay without having these thoughts? Or makes me think of my future like, will you be okay without these thoughts? So it would make me think that these thoughts are really desires and I won’t be okay unless I act on them. As horrible as it sounds. And I don’t know if someone gets this too but, it would also make me doubt my feelings. When my family tells me cute things like “I love you” and stuff, I would feel so bad, because my thoughts are towards them. So I would say “ily too” but I feel like an hypocrite saying it, or like I don’t mean it at all, so it makes me doubt if I really love them or not. This is all so overwhelming, and I have gone through so many disturbing and crazy thoughts, feelings and situations, that I don’t know if this might be OCD.
For the longest time I let go of my past mistakes and it didn’t bother me for a while and then all of a sudden it’s like my mind won’t shut up about it and I feel an intense amount of guilt again . Talked to my mom about it a long time ago and also my first therapist (haven’t talked to my current one about it yet) and I asked my mom today if anything that I brought up about my past that I should worry about and she pretty much gave me a lecture that I need to let it go and stop obsessing over it which is easier said than done when you have ocd but hey I can’t expect her to completely understand. I just don’t understand why one day I don’t think about it one bit and then the next I’m having a panic attack and can’t forgive myself because of my past. It’s so frustrating. Any advice? Anyone gone through Real Event Ocd and gotten through it?
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