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- Alyosha
- Date posted
- 4y ago
My male therapist is very understanding of my period weeks! Hormones play a part in our mental health and I know I forget that sometimes.
Y’all are right. I feel guilty for struggling so much when it’s “just” PMS and so many other women just power through it. But...that’s ok. I’m glad they can do that! And it’s ok if I can’t. And it isn’t “just” PMS. It’s PMS and it’s hard and that’s ok. ...that’s the message I’m trying to accept right now lol
Definitely not a “power through thing” :). But at least for me, knowing what and when to expect it made the symptoms easier to manage.
I’ve struggled a lot with PMDD and PMSing, for me the thing that helped tremendously was continuously taking my birth control and skipping the sugar pills. I’m not sure what your situation is exactly, but this may be something you could ask your doctor about. I’m sorry you had a rough week, i would definitely start planning self care during that week, if you add things you enjoy to do that week that will work with your PMS it could be a way to help make you look forward to it and help divert the thought of becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Hope this helps a little and today goes better😌
I think the benefit of being able to have that awareness that the anxiety and snappiness is PMS and not going to last forever and not totally reasonable, DEFINITELY outweighs the chance of it being a self fulfilling prophecy. I'm way more able to get my emotional state, and at least my behaviour, under control when I remember that it's PMS. If you don't want to deal with the anxiety of knowing it's PMS week and worrying how you're going to feel, it's still good to get into a mental habit of checking a calendar to see if that's why when you're feeling really shitty.
If you have s fitbit, you can track it in the app calendar along with symptoms and that way it's not a calendar you actually look at but can refer to. There are other apps for period tracking too. It's not a bad idea to track your cycle even if just to understand when to plan things. I dont like to plan beach trips for example on that week. I mean I will, but if I can choose a different time, I prefer that for example.
Thank you, everyone!
Period tracking with an app always worked well for me. It always helped me expect and manage my PMS symptoms better than if I thought there was a legit reason for them. “Just my period” made it easier.
I think its a good idea. I have always done that.
Yeah? Do you give yourself permission to cancel on people that week? I have such a hard time cancelling on people.
@Alyosha Yes, I try to set healthy boundaries and be extra kind to myself.
Does anyone get “intrusive feelings”? I’ve experienced intrusive thoughts and urges, but I’m noticing intrusive feelings too. I’m about to start PMS-ing and I’m having weird depressed feelings like “I hate my life, everything sucks, maybe i want to die”. I have suicidal OCD and it seems like this is what my brain gravitates towards when I’m under stress. Even though I DO NOT want to die by any means, my brain throws these thoughts at me and it’s so scary bc I feel like maybe a part of me actually wants to do it. Idk why I feel depressed and shitty about my life when really I don’t want to be you know?? What do you guys think?
Does anyone like get extra anxious about an intrusive thought because you think to yourself “nobody else has probably had this thought.” “I must be crazy.” Idk those thoughts always seem to make my anxiety worse. I also have a fear of losing touch of reality and believing in crazy thoughts, if that makes sense? TMI but I also notice that my OCD is worse when I’m on my period. Can anyone else relate?
So I know my ocd and intrusive thoughts are in a hiccup stage because of my pms and period coming but like I just can’t help but go well what if it’s not what if it’s back what if I’m out of recovery and then I get a thought and like it’s not causing as much anxiety it’s just like I’m like omg no I don’t want to think this is something wrong with me but Ik it’s all just ocd I just wanna feel as carefree as I did a week or so ago
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