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- Alyosha
- Date posted
- 4y ago
My male therapist is very understanding of my period weeks! Hormones play a part in our mental health and I know I forget that sometimes.
Y’all are right. I feel guilty for struggling so much when it’s “just” PMS and so many other women just power through it. But...that’s ok. I’m glad they can do that! And it’s ok if I can’t. And it isn’t “just” PMS. It’s PMS and it’s hard and that’s ok. ...that’s the message I’m trying to accept right now lol
Definitely not a “power through thing” :). But at least for me, knowing what and when to expect it made the symptoms easier to manage.
I’ve struggled a lot with PMDD and PMSing, for me the thing that helped tremendously was continuously taking my birth control and skipping the sugar pills. I’m not sure what your situation is exactly, but this may be something you could ask your doctor about. I’m sorry you had a rough week, i would definitely start planning self care during that week, if you add things you enjoy to do that week that will work with your PMS it could be a way to help make you look forward to it and help divert the thought of becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Hope this helps a little and today goes better😌
I think the benefit of being able to have that awareness that the anxiety and snappiness is PMS and not going to last forever and not totally reasonable, DEFINITELY outweighs the chance of it being a self fulfilling prophecy. I'm way more able to get my emotional state, and at least my behaviour, under control when I remember that it's PMS. If you don't want to deal with the anxiety of knowing it's PMS week and worrying how you're going to feel, it's still good to get into a mental habit of checking a calendar to see if that's why when you're feeling really shitty.
If you have s fitbit, you can track it in the app calendar along with symptoms and that way it's not a calendar you actually look at but can refer to. There are other apps for period tracking too. It's not a bad idea to track your cycle even if just to understand when to plan things. I dont like to plan beach trips for example on that week. I mean I will, but if I can choose a different time, I prefer that for example.
Thank you, everyone!
Period tracking with an app always worked well for me. It always helped me expect and manage my PMS symptoms better than if I thought there was a legit reason for them. “Just my period” made it easier.
I think its a good idea. I have always done that.
Yeah? Do you give yourself permission to cancel on people that week? I have such a hard time cancelling on people.
@Alyosha Yes, I try to set healthy boundaries and be extra kind to myself.
Any women or people with uteruses suffer with pmdd here? The intensity of my obsessions tends to fluctuate with luteal-phase hormonal sensitivity that occurs with pmdd, and I’m just wondering how others navigate that. Also for any of you that feel like the week or two before your period is a manifestation of real-life hell and you can actually *feel* the drop- and then once your period comes you feel like all of it was for no reason and the obsessions basically leave you- you might want to look into premenstrual dysphoric disorder. It connected so many dots for me. Hoping everyone is having better days!!❤️❤️❤️
To all the girls out there :) When your period is coming, does it increase your intrusive thoughts? If so, how do you cope with it? I mean, I clearly know it’s OCD and I know how not-to care about it after this time of the month but week before and during the cycle it’s like a nightmare… even tho I know it’s just this freaking ilness, I feel a huge anxiety and fear. How do you cope with that, girls? (Not looking for reassurance or anything, just being curious! :))
I have ocd and ptsd. I guess I need to vent to feel like Im not alone. Having ptsd and ocd is hard. Ocd is constantly trying to trigger ptsd and it’s always ALWAYS bad before I’m about to start my period. My period is about to start this week. I just got back from a girls trip weekend with my family and I’m still extremely overstimulated from that. I haven’t left town since the pandemic started so this was hard for me. I’m sleep deprived and I didn’t eat very well while I was away. I can’t do things like that anymore without proper sleep and nutrition bc my ptsd doesn’t do well. Today is my first day back at work since I left for my trip and I feel horrible. I didn’t sleep again last night bc I had a panic attack. I had racing thoughts and images that made no sense in my mind so of course that triggered ocd and made me panic. My brain found out that bothered me and keeps replaying the same sequence even after I’ve woke up this morning🥺 I feel extremely nauseous and just anxious and so uncomfortable. I know this won’t resolve until my period starts I wish it would just start even tho I’m about to be in a lot of pain. I’ve had so many subtypes in the span of five days I’m having a hard time. It feels like I’m gonna lose control or something… I guess I’m wondering if any of you feel like this when you’re due for your cycle bc periods are so unpredictable and confusing and sometimes scary I’m exhausted
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