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It does to me though Though m new to this Maybe I had anxiety before but I never researched about it and now since February I started having such symptoms which I didn't realise for like 5 months since then. I find myself backfiring the thought with positive thoughts about him that no he is good But then it goes worse because that's assurance M just 20 and m freaked out for life Let's heal :)
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To me too*
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@nimziewd Have you had any CBT or therapy? Its a really tough thing to go through alone with having so many thoughts constantly crashing around your head. My therapist does say that using positive thoughts to cancel negative ones is mental neutralising and keeps the cycle going, but I haven't mastered that part myself yet either 🙃
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@carvz84 I m getting therapy but she has not diagnosed me properly. I don't like my therapist much. I felt like she is telling me that m faking it. When she knows how much m struggling. M a straight A student but this thing has got me like 50 percent less concentration now. It's affecting me everywhere. She actually triggered me more. I didn't even start ERP but she triggered me with the situation that stands on 10 from 1-10 scale. She hasn't properly diagnosed me yet. She has taken a test which she says led to dangerous diagnosis which she thinks is not true. So she is gonna take a personality test tomorrow. Idk what's all this about
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@nimziewd When I first went to therapy a few years ago my therapist had never heard of ROCD and right away I kinda felt like I was wasting my time. If you're still not feeling it after tomorrow I might look for another therapist, but you'll know the answer to that better than me. Has she referenced OCD at all?
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@carvz84 She did agree once that my symptoms are like ocd and ask me to try to tell my boyfriend about that but when I talked to her next time that I felt rocd ish She says don't use the word lightly, you haven't been diagnosed yet. It was pretty rude for me. I was trying to describe what I felt. I couldn't tell my boyfriend as he cannot complex compound information. He just says there is nothing like that, just exercise and meditate, m with u he said. So I didn't open up to him. My therapist doesn't believe it Why would he who doesn't even know what ocd is or have different thinking altogether.
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@nimziewd We are in a long distance right now and so it sucks more. I m sure he would have hugged me to sleep.
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@nimziewd And it's not just rocd symptoms I get pedo, harm and SO theme as well.
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@nimziewd Definitely find a therapist that works for you! Don’t give up. It can be super daunting and uncomfortable to keep explaining yourself to a new therapist, but I promise there is one who can help you!
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Commenting to follow. I often find myself having the urge to have existential conversations with my partner to somehow “prove” to myself that he’s actually good and we should actually be together
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Same :(
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This is me too - not to provide reassurance, but I find that I'm normally so critical of myself that it flips and turns to my boyfriend and I have the worst thoughts about his appearance and other stupid things when I know these things don't matter (and when I'm calm I can't keep my hands off him!). It's been a pattern for me and one I really want to change - these thoughts seem so ego driven and the opposite of the person I want to be! The quest for proof is never ending and what keeps us in the OCD cycle I guess. As soon as I feel I have 'proof' of one thing, something else comes along. It's exhausting, but we have to hang in there and try and recognise those thoughts for what they are (OCD, sabotage etc) and try not to let them get our attention. Easier said than done!
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I have a brief history of contamination theme but it was when I was so kid and it kind of faded as I grew up. That time there wasn't therapy available like this so I wasn't properly diagnosed.
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For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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- 21w
Looking back, my introverted nature and struggles to find belonging in high school may have set the stage for how OCD would later impact my relationships. I had my first relationship in high school, but OCD wasn’t a major factor then. It wasn’t until my longest relationship—six years from age 18 to 24—that OCD really took hold. The relationship itself wasn’t the issue; it was what happened after. When it ended, I became obsessed with confessing past mistakes, convinced I had to be completely transparent. Even when my partner was willing to work past them, I couldn’t let go of the intrusive thoughts, and that obsession landed me in the hospital. From there, my struggle with ROCD (Relationship OCD) fully emerged. For years, every time I tried to move forward in dating, doubts consumed me. I would start seeing someone and feel fine, but then the questions would creep in: Do I really like her? Do I find her attractive? Is she getting on my nerves? What if I’m with the wrong person? I’d break things off, thinking I was following my true feelings. But then I’d question: Was that really how I felt, or was it just OCD? I tried again and again, each time hoping I could “withstand it this time,” only to fall back into the same cycle. The back and forth hurt both me and the person I was with. By the time I realized it was ROCD, the damage had been done, and I still hadn’t built the tools to manage it. Now, at 28, I know I need to approach dating differently. I recently talked to someone from a dating app, and my OCD still showed up—questioning my every move, making me doubt my own decisions. I haven’t yet done ERP specifically for ROCD, but I know that’s my next step. Just like I’ve learned tools for managing my other OCD subtypes, I need a set of strategies for when intrusive doubts hit in relationships. My goal this year is to stop letting uncertainty control me—to learn how to sit with doubt instead of trying to “figure it out.” I want to break the cycle and be able to build something healthy without my OCD sabotaging it. I know I’m not alone in this, and I know healing is possible. I’m hopeful that working with a therapist will help me develop exposures and thought loops to practice. I don’t expect to eliminate doubt entirely—after all, doubt is a part of every relationship—but I want to reach a place where it doesn’t paralyze me. Where I can move forward without constantly questioning whether I should. And where I can be in a relationship without feeling like OCD is pulling the strings. I would appreciate hearing about your experiences with ROCD. Please share your thoughts or any questions in the comments below. I’d love to connect and offer my perspective. Thanks!
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I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
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