Question. I’m going to a psychiatrist and I am trying to fill out the pre questionnaire thing they sent us. One of the questions (well, technically a statement) is “I wish I were of the opposite sex”. The best way I could describe how I feel about my own gender identity is that I’m nonbinary. Being young I know there is still a possibility that later I’ll learn more about myself change my mind about using that label, though that isn’t my main concern. Mostly I’m worried because I’m a minor and I am definitely not ready to come out to my parents. They don’t even know I like girls yet so I don’t think the first time to bring up my gender confusion will be in a doctors office. Has anyone who has had a similar experience let me know how important it would be for me to answer this question honestly? I don’t want to lie but I feel like if I lie on just this one question it won’t be that big of a deal, will it?

If you are worried about your parents seeing the paper, ask the doctor to speak with you privately and tell them the truth. Lying about your health will only hurt you in the long run! In many cases, the doctor may even give you the opportunity to have alone time with them and kick your parents out of the room so you feel more comfortable talking about certain things!

You don’t have to put it on the paper. I would wait to bring it up when you feel comfortable with it. Also, it might be easier to bring it up with a therapist if you have one, as they usually work through things like that rather than the doctor. Having a therapist who is familiar with the LGBT community also helps (I have one who is fantastic!), but I know that could be hard to get one if you’re under your parents still. Just do what you’re comfortable with. The doctor doesn’t have to say anything to your parents unless they think you’re at risk of hurting yourself or others.

Sorry I have not had a similar experience. But wouldn’t a doctors office be a nice neutral safe place for your parents to learn about you if it come to that .

Even as a minor, you can share personal things with your doctor without them telling your parents. It happens a lot when dealing with the topic of sexual activity and sexuality

First of all feeling non-binary and liking girls as a girl is not the same as wanting to be the opposite sex, right? So I don‘t see that question would be correctly answered yes. Second, I understand completely that you don‘t want your first „coming out“ in a doctors office. You sexuality and gender is not pathological! So I don‘t see you‘d be lying in any way. I wish you can talk with close friends or family in a warmly atmosphere.