- Username
- rosecoloredgirl
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I have ROCD...I'm not a therapist but I'd say you have it too. Because I've had those exact thoughts and more. I look at my bf even now and I'm like, "you're such a loser," " you're so immature, why should I date you?" And it upsets me a lot. Your OCD will make you have intrusive thoughts, feelings, and urges. I've had so many urges to cheat or break up with him but I dont because I want to stay with him. Love is a choice. Also ROCD usually comes up if the relationship is good because most people with OCD have had abuse or trauma and they dont know how to handle a healthy relationships.
I dont know if i’ve had abuse or trauma though? I dont think i’ve had.
That's okay, you dont have to have trauma necessarily it's just very common. OCD in general can be triggered in anyone, at any time, and for any reason. If you can, see an OCD therapist (because not a lot of regular therapists can help with OCD) talk to someone and try to get help. If you cant afford a therapist, try using this app. Its important to get help before this gets out of control. Because you can have obsessions and compulsions without having OCD itself. It doesn't matter if you've been diagnosed or not, what matters is: if this is hurting your life, you need to get help so you can start living.
Yes I've heard all those things can happen with it.
What if the thing i stressed about arent type 1 or 2 though
Could this be rocd? In April of 2020 I had my first run in with rocd because I obsessed over it I was in love with my boyfriend, then it switched to does he love me, then retroactive jealousy and even real event ocd. In December I got really bad sexual orientation ocd , with the core fear behind it being that I’d have to leave my partner and that our love wasn’t real. Finally after months it’s calmed down but I’ve slowly noticed myself obsessing over our relationship again since June/July. We’ve been long distance for 10 months since he joined the military which naturally brings its own doubts and fears but I believe my ocd really amplifies that. I also worry that the “spark” isn’t there and that I’ll only feel one with women even though I really don’t want to be with a woman at all. I follow this with compulsions such as checking my feelings, listening to songs I know make me think of him, reviewing past memories, reading old messages, etc. I also obsess over whether or not I’m truly attracted to him and whether or not I’ll still feel the same when he visits again next month. It’s really been getting in the way of my relationship and making me feel less enthusiastic. I don’t want these doubts and fears, the only thing I want is to be sure of the love for my partner again. The only thing that makes me think this isn’t ocd is that there’s no anxiety, well sometimes the thoughts make me cry and they cause me distress but after months of anxiety with sexual orientation ocd they just run wild in my mind. Could it be ocd even without the anxiety ?
anyone else have ROCD focused on their partner? like worrying their partner is going to leave/cheat or having paranoid thoughts about their partner? a lot of what I see about ROCD has to do with doubting your love for your partner (I've had that in a previous relationship so I know that blows) but just wanted to connect with people whose fears are focused more on their partner's feelings.
I’m not sure if I have it or not, or if I don’t and I’m just a bad person? I’m even embarrassed to go into details but can anyone explain what it’s like, as sometimes my thought get so bad and intrusive that I worry I’m trying to hide behind rocd as an excuse and I am just a bad girlfriend?? Can anyone relate🥲I live my partner absolutely but sometimes I worry they’re not that into it and I overthink about what it would be like to be with other people, my ocd can be so bad I’m wondering and maybe wishful thinking? That these thoughts/ obsessions could just be the ocd? Please can someone explain their experiences with it🙏🏻
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