Can relationship ocd not just be doubts about my partner of my feelings for them? Cause my ROCD started as that like “what if i didnt love them as much” or something then it translated to more things like “she’s a slut” or “she’s ugly” even though she’s NONE of those things. things like “i will cheat on her” and such. Plus feeling like i like somebody else, imagining myself with other people. Fear i might fall for someone else and overthinking that and feeling guilty. Just my thoughts, my ex was always involved and it made me feel guilt and doubt and anxiety and i HAD to confess it to them. Cause someone asked here whats ROCD and someone simply said doubting feelings and it makes me nervous cause i’d like to think i had rocd but seeing that makes me nervous that what if the thoughts were true?

Could this be rocd? In April of 2020 I had my first run in with rocd because I obsessed over it I was in love with my boyfriend, then it switched to does he love me, then retroactive jealousy and even real event ocd. In December I got really bad sexual orientation ocd , with the core fear behind it being that I’d have to leave my partner and that our love wasn’t real. Finally after months it’s calmed down but I’ve slowly noticed myself obsessing over our relationship again since June/July. We’ve been long distance for 10 months since he joined the military which naturally brings its own doubts and fears but I believe my ocd really amplifies that. I also worry that the “spark” isn’t there and that I’ll only feel one with women even though I really don’t want to be with a woman at all. I follow this with compulsions such as checking my feelings, listening to songs I know make me think of him, reviewing past memories, reading old messages, etc. I also obsess over whether or not I’m truly attracted to him and whether or not I’ll still feel the same when he visits again next month. It’s really been getting in the way of my relationship and making me feel less enthusiastic. I don’t want these doubts and fears, the only thing I want is to be sure of the love for my partner again. The only thing that makes me think this isn’t ocd is that there’s no anxiety, well sometimes the thoughts make me cry and they cause me distress but after months of anxiety with sexual orientation ocd they just run wild in my mind. Could it be ocd even without the anxiety ?

anyone else have ROCD focused on their partner? like worrying their partner is going to leave/cheat or having paranoid thoughts about their partner? a lot of what I see about ROCD has to do with doubting your love for your partner (I've had that in a previous relationship so I know that blows) but just wanted to connect with people whose fears are focused more on their partner's feelings.

I’m not sure if I have it or not, or if I don’t and I’m just a bad person? I’m even embarrassed to go into details but can anyone explain what it’s like, as sometimes my thought get so bad and intrusive that I worry I’m trying to hide behind rocd as an excuse and I am just a bad girlfriend?? Can anyone relate🥲I live my partner absolutely but sometimes I worry they’re not that into it and I overthink about what it would be like to be with other people, my ocd can be so bad I’m wondering and maybe wishful thinking? That these thoughts/ obsessions could just be the ocd? Please can someone explain their experiences with it🙏🏻