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So the thing about standardize tests its a one size fits all approach and that’s not always right. It doesn’t necessarily test for intelligence. You have to understand how to beat the test, not necessarily be smart. Is retaking an option? How do you do in practice tests? I took the bar exam where I live and for the essays the correct answer is just 2 points, but repeating everything you memorized gets you the other 18 even if not necessary for the answr, it’s necessary for the points. So two things. One if you can retake figure out what gets the points, and 2, know that if in no way measures your abilities or intelligence, just again your understanding of that one test. Don’t give it more value than that.
I was never able to do good in any test because of the pressure. Especially with how big of a test the SAT is, alot of people don't do well on it even when they know all the answers. It is totally fine to get knocked down once in a while, but let this be an opportunity for growth.
Text HOME to 741741 to reach the crisis hotline if you need it. But one thing I’d like to say is that I think we can strongly identify with certain parts of our life and if those parts don’t go the way we want, we can get down. But this can go to another level of upset for people with OCD, and this tendency is something we have to be mindful of as just that, a tendency in thoughts and feelings, but not necessarily truth. Try going volunteer somewhere and you will find out quickly that you are far from useless. You have so much to offer.
Please reach out to a crisis hotline. I know this feels shitty now and it’s okay to feel bad. Reach out for help when you need it. Re your scores: did you do any test prep courses? Plenty of studies have shown that these tests don’t measure actual intelligence; they measure your ability to take this particular test. There are real and teachable tips and tricks that courses can help with.
PS with a gpa like that you have all of the skills you need to succeed in college and the real world.
There’s always going to be another test, so there’s always going to be another chance to do better. I got a 66 in physics and I’m usually good in school too, but it’s not really important. Mental health is always above grades. You can fix grades easier than you can fix your mindset, trust me. Don’t feel too down - numbers aren’t the only things in the world.
I’m sorry to hear that. Keep trying to do your best and see what you can improve more on for the next essay. I totally understand what you are going through. I always have to work harder than everyone else at uni and I never get the grades that I deserve which makes me very upset. Keep going you don’t have long to go. Are you in year 12?
Yes year 12. I was supposed to take it last year but corona ruined that :( I’ve been very smart my whole life but now I am second guessing my abilities. I don’t want to live anymore because i feel like I’m going to fail at everything
@MirMir I think that I am a failure and dumb but my parents think I’m smart but I don’t think so. There are other ways to get into uni.
@hanajade Yes especially with lots of schools being test-optional this year. We will be okay!!
@MirMir There are pathways that have reduced entry scores because of the pandemic
Hey! I read your post and I wanted to respond because I feel like I can relate to you a lot. I'm also 17, and I get around the same grades that you do. I get pretty obsessed with it and constantly hate myself because I feel like I'm disappointing everyone around me. But whenever I get like this I think about how this is all temporary, and that hopefully, five years from now I'll be here and all this worrying and self-hate I'm feeling right now is basically pointless. I don't know if this helped you, but I hope so. Also, if you're unhappy with your grades or your writing, maybe seek help and guidance any way you can, like asking teachers or other students. You might feel like you do so much already but we can always do more to improve. You're not alone, hope this helped!
Yes this did help!! but I’m not worried about my grades lol, I almost have a perfect GPA. I just feel like all my brain power is gonna because of my terrible SAT score and feel like a failure 😢 I keep thinking about the future and I’m afraid that I will mess up a lot with my career.
@MirMir Ah I'm sorry you feel like that :( Try to remind yourself that you do know and you were taught and prepared for the SAT and such. Failure is scary, but sometimes we need it to learn even more. Since it's inevitable, try not to worry about the possibility of it happening, and focus on doing everything you can right now to be prepared, and when it does happen, reflect and learn from it so you can be even more prepared for future circumstances. It's okay, you can do it!
So I’m about to enter the eleventh grade this year, in September, and I’ve started thinking about university and what I want to study; however, my OCD has been hard regarding the uncertainty revolving around the question of whether or not I’ll actually get into the university I want to get into. I don’t know how to deal with the stress! Does anyone have some tips? Thank you so much.
I'm going to be honest, I'm really hopeless at this point. I'm 16 and I just feel so defeated. I'm dealing with my worst theme ever and it's lived 7 months. I've had trouble with school (Especially when my current theme started), I've had a hard time doing the things I love, and I feel terrible. I'm worried I'm going to drop out of high school. As I write this my grades are, 68, 71, 28, 29, 32, 70. I'm not sure if I can get accomodations by the school. If anyone can help me out and tell me I live in massachusetts. I didn't see anything really last time I checked. I can't live like this anymore.
Hey, just looking for some none-OCD advice, as at the moment I don’t really have anyone to talk to. I’m gonna try and keep it short, so I don’t bore you! So, I’m from England, and I’m 16. At 16 in the UK, you go from high school to 6th form, where you spend two years doing something called your ‘A levels’, and then you go to university at 18, like all countries. I’ve been in college for 8 months now, but I’d say 65-70% of my time has been spent online - so I’ve only had a relatively small amount of time to make true friends. I had solid friends throughout high school, and I say I tilt quite a lot towards being an extravert. Ever since coming to 6th form, a lot of the people who I was friends with, went to a different school, and some of the people who were acquaintances I barely see now, because the school is so large. Basically, since coming to college I only have 2 true friends, and one of those has basically separated herself from me (she’s a bit of a bitch, but that’s another story - we’ve basically been best friends since we were 4 but she routinely ditches me) I’ve found that no one ever messages me anymore. I’ve got plans to go to the city with me and 3 other girls next Sunday - but I organised it. They were all excited, but I’ve only been invited out once by one of my other friends. I just feel like no one likes me, and that I’m repulsive to people - I know it’s irrational, but the fear that I’m just unlikeable terrifies me, as I want nothing more than a big group of friends and that’s not what I have at the minute. I’m desperate for someone to be like “hey, Ellie do you wanna come and sit with us”, but they don’t. And I’m usually just sat with one of my close friends, who I love. She’s popular, and people like her more than me but she’s self-admittedly introverted and I’m not. Ugh, this is long now. But does anyone have any advice? I’ve made a lot of acquaintances, but they all have their own friendship groups from high school - but I don’t because a lot of my friends went to a different school. I’m miserable because of this at the moment, and I feel worthless.
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