- Username
- helplesslimerant
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Let's break this down into steps first. 1. Think about why you truly want to stop watching porn. How does it make you feel? Why do you do it? What do you get out of it? Do you feel like you're coping with the use of porn to get away from feelings, problems, or worries? Are you addicted? See if you can answer these questions. You don't have to answer all of them of course. 2. When you decide that you truly want to stop watching porn, get rid of everything. Delete any kind of porn you may have saved. Block all of the porn that can be accessed online, unfollow any accounts that might hint at sexual activity, and beware of the things that can trigger you. For me, I use blockerx to stop myself from watching hardcore porn. I'm still struggling with using youtube as softcore porn occasionally but I'm trying to stop that as well. Fortunately I did fix some of the problem so it's a step in the right direction. Porn has also made my OCD worse and pretty much makes me regret the choices I made back in my teen years because of the influence porn had on me at the time. I did not know better, and I was not aware of my sexual feelings or how to explore them. I had to mess up in order to acknowledge what I did and did not want throughout my life sexually. As of now, I don't want to have anything to do with sexual activity to be honest. But, it may be different for you. You say that it makes you insecure about your body and your intrusive thoughts worse. This is both a really good thing and a bad thing. You realize the affect that the drug that is pornography has on you. Not only has it affected your dopamine levels but it has also affected your self image, self esteem, and how you view yourself overall. It may even be affecting how you view other people. This has happened to me and a lot of other people as well. Please note these things: You are NOT a bad person for watching porn. You're NOT a bad person for struggling to quit. You're NOT a bad person for being exposed or hooked on the erotica as a whole. It's good that you want to stop or at least acknowledge that you want to stop watching porn. I know it's extremely tough with this quarantine thing going on, but honestly were all in this together. All of us. We all care about your problems here and we want what's best for you. I remember breaking down after seeing myself watching porn for the last time. What I searched for, how what I watched escalated, and the amount of time I put into watching porn in general. It's a human problem. It's the new drug. Speaking of drugs, you can also look up Fight The New Drug articles to gather research and benefits into putting a stop to watching porn. I wish you the best.
Wait...Take a breath... I'm struggling with OCD , general anxiety disorder and a personality disorder for years.... You have to find the courage to take care of yourself FIRST...OK?
i am trying to take care of myself, hence why i want to stop watching porn
Porn made my OCD super worse
Most of the times I tried pushing my thoughts away but I’ve failed 6 times and now it made my OCD worse more intrusive thoughts more anxiety and it’s convincing me that I’m somthing I’m not and it’s my fault I feel horrible about it I hate how I listen to those thoughts that put me down it’s just hell
You don't have to stop watching porn..You can use it as a tool for exposure. Your intrusive thoughts worse over and over again, because your brain 🧠 focus on them regularly.
but i want to stop watching it. i don’t like it and it makes me feel like shit.....
Now , Please fell you want stop watching porn or you want stop receiving intrusive thoughts???
both, porn makes me insecure about my body and i got to it when i get my groinals, i just want everything to stop
@ocdear I found that stopping was easier when I learned to prioritize other things, stay active etc... you have to distract yourself. Porn also messes with me and I am trying to stop after a pretty long absence. I start doing compulsions to see if I like guys. Messes with me.
Ok ok
well
first of all , give me a reason why you want to stop watching porn?? You don't like it?? Are you scared of it??
Extra tip : Don't waste your time to feed this little monster, that lives on your mind ....
What do you think when you watching porn?
Ok.. Then stop watching porn.But I believe that this is not gonna help you a lot because your thoughts can pop in your brain whenever THEY WANT!! So , all you have to do is to accept that.. realize your fear, your thoughts, realize when you start to ruminate, what do you feel when ruminate...Write them in a piece o paper and then , try to read them loudly...everyday do that!
I’m an addict I’ve been trying honestly and it’s hard but I’m not giving up
I was an addict too, I was suffering too but I was never give up to this little monster!!! AND YOU HAVE TO KNOW THAT DURING THIS TIME WITH THE SECOND QUARANTINE, ANYONE OF US HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING.. realize that OCD is a mental disease that has ups and downs, but when you're getting bored, you have more time to think, you have more time to ruminate and that means that your OCD , It's a waste of time
Every time I watch an explicit video, I obsessively worry about whether or not the person in the video was of legal age or if I unintentionally looked at a minor. This causes me to have intrusive OCD thoughts that I am some kind of horrible pedophile or that the FBI will arrest me. I'm currently experiencing an anxiety spike right now because of it. Can anyone else relate to this? I only want to watch videos of consenting adults, but the need for 100 percent certainty makes it difficult for me to stop questioning it. Because of my religious beliefs, things like pornography are outside of my ethical values anyways, so I really want to break the habit of watching it in any capacity (even if I knew for certain I couldn't accidentally stumble upon a video of a minor), but I struggle with doing that. Does anyone have any tips to stop engaging in lustful behaviors, and how to deal with catastrophic thinking about jail time and being a sick person because I'm paranoid about if the model could be underage?
18+ only Aside from anxiety and intrusive thoughts, which to be honest I'm not as bothered by them like I used to be, there's something else that bothers me just as much, if not more than those things combined. That bothersome thing is pornography. It's been a bother in my life ever since I first discovered it when I was very young. It's always been messing with me. It's like this dirty secret that I engage with and I honestly don't know why I still do to this day. It doesn't help me. I feel bad about it every single time. It amplifies my anxiety and the other day it hurt a friend I deeply care about. The thing is, I've talked about this previously on here, so I just appear like a broken record. At this point, I'm addicted to it I don't want to be, but I am. This is something that takes advantage of your mind. Even if you say no, your mind won't. Worst yet, it appears everywhere in many forms. I feel so dirty. Everytime I end up relapsing I just feel horrible. Horrible due to the fact that this is associating with who I am, even though I don't think it aligns with my morals nor my goals. Not even close. I also feel like this stumped my social development in my adolescence. I understand that teenagers get all wonky with hormones and it isn't like I had a roadmap with going through high school, but pornography definitely made things more difficult. A lot of risky actions were made, bad decisions, and regretful imagery that to this day still messes with me from time to time. I thank God for the days I'm not being distracted and disturbed by those kind of thoughts 24/7. Today, I still think that's bothering me. Another thing that makes me sick is how easily extreme and zany videos can be even when you're not looking for those kind of things. I can Google one thing and it will either give me the opposite or something completely different. Unfortunately, this can include very disturbing things that I wish I wouldn't have seen. This is the only thing I feel so much shame for and I just want it to die. I don't want to deal with it anymore. Yesterday's relapse was one of the worst ones in a long time. I just don't want to keep dealing with this stuff anymore. I wish it were as easy as picking it up, and throwing it out, but the urges and the thoughts and the visualizations come back.
feel like if i stopped watching porn i’d feel like 50 percent better already. it makes me feel so guilty and i get so many intrusive thoughts. last night i couldn’t sleep at all bcuz i saw this video and it didn’t say the age of the girl or anything but i was aroused by it and she looked young. i hate myself sm. i’ve told everyone i’m gonna try and stop but after a day or two i just watch it bcuz it makes me feel less anxiety about certain themes but makes sexual intrusive thoughts so much worse. i used to be scared of porn because i thought i would go to hell if i watched it and now i feel like for the past year i’ve watched way too much. anyone have any tips on how to stop?
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