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- AnonCat227
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is one topic where I don’t believe sitting with the uncertainty is the answer. My daughter deals with these same feelings. God knows you and your thoughts. He is all-knowing, and knows this is the ocd. Not you. You have already been forgiven. (Even though you are not in control of these thoughts, so dont need to be forgiven) But regardless, you are judged by your actions. God knows the real you. He loves you. My daughter still feels guilty, and ocd wont let her believe this let. But i hope you both find peace soon and come to realize you have already been saved. ❤️
With ERP, sitting with uncertainty is always part of the process. Until someone gets comfortable with that, they will likely be stuck in a loop trying to ‘prove’ whatever their ocd is trying to prove.
I know it’s hard but reassuring your daughter in that way can actually be harmful to her. This happened to me when I was younger. Is she going through ERP with a therapist?
Only God can decide if you go to hell nobody else. God is judge
I know but I don't want to go to hell I didn't mean to do this.
Start praying and ask for forgiveness. That’s all you can do. Try to do some good deeds.
I’m sorry you’re stuck in that loop! I don’t have religion ocd but I do have moral ocd which seems similar and it’s so hard sometimes but it’s not your fault and you are not your thoughts. Everybody has intrusive thoughts to some extent and it doesn’t mean anything about you
I know but I just feel bad. I know that people say that if you have a hardness of heart you won't be forgiven so I'm making sure that God knows that I love him and meant nothing by it.
@Teah104 I know it’s hard but try your best to accept the uncertainty that you don’t know 100% if you are going to heaven. When you do compulsions to prove that you are going to heaven, you’re showing yourself that the guilt/discomfort of the unknown is unbearable and the only way to get rid of it is to continue doing those compulsions, which is not true! (Disclaimer I am not a therapist but have learned this from my therapist)
@Teah104 I know it’s hard and scary but you got this!
Ok, thank you. You surely know more than I do. It is only in this specific circumstance where I find it difficult to do that since it goes against what we have been taught our whole life about Christianity. My daughter has had ocd since the age of 12, but didn’t realize what it was until a few years after. She is now 17. She has been on medication since 13, and also sees a talk therapist regularly. But I have found it almost impossible to find an Ocd therapis in the area. There are 2, but they never returned calls. Driving further would not work for us. I stumbled upon this site a couple days ago and already have found it so helpful. We will be scheduling a free session to meet therapist next week hopefully. She. Is suffering so much 😥
I’m sorry she is going through that, that sounds really hard. As someone who had ocd growing up in a religious household, I can’t stress enough how important it is that she sees an ERP ocd therapist. And this app could be a great way to get online access to one! I hope I’m not coming across too intense, it’s clear that you care about your daughter deeply and want the best for her. I just know how beneficial and life changing this therapy can be. I hope you both find peace :)
Talk therapy is amazing for anxiety, depression, etc but unfortunately because ocd is such a specific disorder, talk therapy does not work on ocd
I'm religious, so anyone else who is religious I need to know if this happens to y'all. When I read the Bible, which I want to do twice a day, I feel like I have to reread and reread stuff bc if I didn't comprehend it properly, something bad would happen, or my fears would come true. I also have intrusive thoughts that come into my head about what I'm reading and the thoughts will say something bad about the Bible or about God, and it's like I know God knows I didn't say it but I have to "undo" the thought by getting up out of my seat completely, and saying something that "undoes" it then I can sit back down and read. Sometimes I also shake my head or hit myself in the head trying to rid of the thought. And say "no, no, of course not" and stuff like that trying to undo the thought that intruded...
I think I commited the worst sin. I had no bad intentions but then I realized I might have thought something bad. I'm so scared and I don't know if I'm forgiven. I'm trying not to replay what happened in my head but it's so hard and I'm so scared.
3 hours awake and I already hate my life again. It was a bit stressful now and every time I am in a hurry I feel that my intrusive thoughts become stronger or more intense. My thoughts are maily blasphemous or sexual and I really cant get over the thought that I might have sinned. Sometimes I also feel jealous and envious when I see especially other christians who dont seem to have any problems. I cant even think that God loves me because I am a terrible person.
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