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I think if youre in a position financially then go for it, I understand your anxiety. Its tough for anyone to do that, but you're right you can't live there forever, and the only way to get over your fears is by pushing through it. You can handle those feelings, thats all they are. Of course if the anxiety is very intense, you could benefit from talking to a professional or a close person to explain it is difficult and you may need help easing into your new home. All the best
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Thanks for that. I’m going to go for it but I have so many drawbacks. But I know that i can do it
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@erma12 You absolutely can do it, lifes tough you know, but what's the alternative? what's holding back gonna do apart from "keeping you safe" and having regrets later in life because you didnt allow yourself to live. Embrace the risk, you'll become more independent and strong from doing it. I wish you all the best
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@J ☀️ Thank you. You as well :)
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I know I can’t live here forever*
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Are you seeking treatment for your anxiety? Currently I’m in crisis and greatly struggling during covid times and have temporarily moved back to my parents house because the isolation of living alone was too much. My anxiety would overwhelm me without outside stimulus. Now I’m in a similar position - of being petrified to be alone with myself. To help, I’m not frantically seeking treatment and therapies of all kinds to get a better handle on my own mind so I can take control of my life again and stop being so codependent.
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Yes I am and it’s helping a lot and I’m getting better but I worry that there’s some things I’ll never be able to do again. COVID definitely hurt me. I had a pretty much independent life and now I have so much trouble doing anything. The constant exposures is sooo necessary and it’s been hard with everything going on but I’m trying my best to slowly get back out there. I’m going to just go for it and deal with my anxiety in the moment. I know I’m able to do it it’s just a huge step for me. And I know you’ll be able to be independent again too. We’re both getting treatment and are on the way to the life we deserve
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@erma12 thank you very much for the encouragement <3 you’re very brave for going ahead and doing it despite the anxiety. we were alright once and we will be again!
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@livstaudz So true! You are brave too. These are not easy times. We will be okay again :)
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i AM* seeking treatment, terrible typo ^
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I have a question is it selfish for me to want to move out of my parents house in 2027? For reference I graduate fall 2026 of next year and I live out of state for college. I know graduation is close but I want to stay in my college state because I am used to living here and my home environment at home is toxic. My boyfriend lives in my home state and he wants to stay with his parents and pay bills ( higher than an apartment). His home is also toxic but he chooses to stay there even after he graduates this semester. We got into an argument today because he doesn’t want to move here with me and work down here I told him it’s a better place than where we live but he refuses. He would also be more happy mentally but he doesn’t want to. He feels like me wanting to live down here is a bad thing because I’m trying to independent without any help which is not the case. I also don’t like that he lives at home because he feels obligated to pay for things because it’s his parents but his mom uses him for money. And he’s brainwashed by her because she said to him stay with me as long as you want to and don’t move out because it’s expensive and also because she needs him. They have a trauma bond that I feel like I could never amount to. I just feel like when I graduate I might have to break up with him because he doesn’t have a future for himself outside being at home and driving his mom everywhere and working to pay the bills in the house and not having money saved for us. Can someone please help me? Am I being to harsh on him? For reference I am 19 about to be 20 and I have money saved enough for my own apartment but the only reason I haven’t moved out yet is because I want to finish my degree and have a stable job and I am also building up my credit at the moment ever since I was 17.
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Hey all this is my first post so i’m kind of nervous. I’d like to hear feedback from outside sources and people not directly in my life who might be biased. I am not sure if this is an OCD thing or maybe just an anxiety thing but I would love some advice. I am a night owl and the rest of my family is not. I’m an adult who still lives with my parents since i’m saving money to move out. Every night I stay up until around 12:30 in our living room to relax and wind down with a quiet house (like my own me-time) and then go to bed. My parent’s room is right off the living room and they close their door while I’m awake so they can sleep. They told me not to be up past midnight since their room gets “too stuffy” with the door closed. I haven’t been doing well with midnight but try my best to shut everything off by 12:30 at the latest. They got mad that I don’t listen and now say I am not allowed in the living room after they go to bed. So when they go to bed I have to confine myself to my bedroom. I like my routines and thinking about trying to wind down (by reading or crocheting) in my bed feels wrong because my bed is “for sleeping” only. I feel like I don’t have a comforting safe place to relax before bed now and when I have tried to explain that to them they don’t care and say i’m disrespecting them. I’m curious what you might think about the situation and would appreciate feedback, regardless if i’m in the wrong or not. It makes me wish I didn’t live here but I don’t really have anywhere else to go.
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