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Only a few things because this is still a big struggle for me. But cbt helps, anything that lowers anxiety, and acceptance. (Trigger warning) Not acceptance of your thoughts neccesarily like, "okay well I guess I just dont love him." Accepting that my mind is off the frits right now and I cant think logically so I shouldn't make any big decisions like getting married, moving in together, ect. Until I can get a grip on my mental health. And right now I'm trying to accept that I dont know what will happen...it's hard but I dont have money for a therapist so managing my symptoms is all I can do. Good luck ?
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For me, my fears revolve around my spouse doing something to cause us to split (cheat, abuse, etc) so I have to practice trusting him even though I have doubts. Even after 12 years of marriage it is an everyday battle to keep the thoughts under control. Accept the nagging doubts, whether they are about you or him, and know that whatever happens you will be okay. Don’t give into searching online, asking questions, investigating. It’s super hard but you can do it.
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Omggggg I was a member with of that group! Very insightful!
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@rbheaton thank you for your advice ☺️ since you’ve mentioned that you’re managing this on your own you can check out a channel that has helped me a lot, “awaken into love”, hope it helps you too ?
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@ashley85 thank you so much for your advice, hope you’ll overcome your struggle too ?
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Breathing techniques are good / pressure point tapping Hot radox baths Exercise Good food
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I’m also going through the same things and I find that sometimes meditating helps, and a lot of times I just try to remind myself that these are textbook symptoms of OCD and that I shouldn’t give into my thoughts, I know it’s hard
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Yes, exactly, me too! I have just started with meditation yesterday and I’m planning to keep on doing it ?
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@jaybaggs8 thanks for the advice, I’m actually starting yoga tomorrow to help with breathing techniques ?
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I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love, however if you are living with Relationship OCD (ROCD) this can be a very triggering day. Relationship OCD is essentially, the fear of being in the wrong relationship, not truly loving your partner, or not being loved by your partner. This makes you doubt the true nature of your relationship and makes you believe that your entire relationship is based on lies. It can make you feel like a bad person and not worthy of love. ROCD will make you believe that you need to leave the relationship just to find some peace. When we think about ROCD we often think that this only applies to romantic relationships, however ROCD can impact friendships and family relationships as well. ROCD will attack whatever relationship is most important to you. As an ERP therapist some of the most common obsessions that I have seen include “Is my partner ‘The One’”? “Maybe I am meant to be with someone else”. “What if my partner cheats on me or worse I cheat on him/her”? “I find X attractive. Should I break up with my partner and be with X”? “Do I even love my partner? What if they don’t love me?” This list could go on and on. The basis of all of these intrusive thoughts is fear and doubt. The compulsions associated with ROCD are vast. The most common include checking feelings to make sure you really love your partner, avoidance behaviors, reassurance seeking behaviors both from your partner and from others and ruminating on the relationship in the hopes of figuring out if this is the “right” relationship for you. ROCD, as in most theses in OCD, wants 100% uncertainty that this relationship will work out with no conflict or compromise. The problem is this is unrealistic. All relationships will have some level of conflict and compromise in them. There is no “perfect relationship”. Most of us have grown up with fairy tales where one true love will come and sweep up off our feet. Life and relationships can be messy and complicated, but they are worth it and are a key aspect of what makes us human. The fact is ROCD makes you doubt everything and will take the joy, excitement and contentment out of the relationship. The good news is that treatment is available, and it is possible to have a long, happy, fulfilling relationship despite ROCD fears. It does take time, perseverance and patience. Treatment using Exposure Response Prevention has been proven to lessen intrusive thoughts. You will learn to manage your expectations of the relationships while leaning into your fears and learning to accept the uncomfortable feelings. By doing this, you can bring joy and contentment back into you life and your relationships. I'd love to hear about how ROCD is showing up for you. Share your experiences in the comments below or ask your questions about ROCD and I will respond to them.
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