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Only a few things because this is still a big struggle for me. But cbt helps, anything that lowers anxiety, and acceptance. (Trigger warning) Not acceptance of your thoughts neccesarily like, "okay well I guess I just dont love him." Accepting that my mind is off the frits right now and I cant think logically so I shouldn't make any big decisions like getting married, moving in together, ect. Until I can get a grip on my mental health. And right now I'm trying to accept that I dont know what will happen...it's hard but I dont have money for a therapist so managing my symptoms is all I can do. Good luck ?
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For me, my fears revolve around my spouse doing something to cause us to split (cheat, abuse, etc) so I have to practice trusting him even though I have doubts. Even after 12 years of marriage it is an everyday battle to keep the thoughts under control. Accept the nagging doubts, whether they are about you or him, and know that whatever happens you will be okay. Don’t give into searching online, asking questions, investigating. It’s super hard but you can do it.
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- 6y
Omggggg I was a member with of that group! Very insightful!
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- 6y
@rbheaton thank you for your advice ☺️ since you’ve mentioned that you’re managing this on your own you can check out a channel that has helped me a lot, “awaken into love”, hope it helps you too ?
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@ashley85 thank you so much for your advice, hope you’ll overcome your struggle too ?
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Breathing techniques are good / pressure point tapping Hot radox baths Exercise Good food
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- 6y
I’m also going through the same things and I find that sometimes meditating helps, and a lot of times I just try to remind myself that these are textbook symptoms of OCD and that I shouldn’t give into my thoughts, I know it’s hard
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- 6y
Yes, exactly, me too! I have just started with meditation yesterday and I’m planning to keep on doing it ?
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@jaybaggs8 thanks for the advice, I’m actually starting yoga tomorrow to help with breathing techniques ?
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- 24w
I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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- 24w
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 14w
Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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