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Only a few things because this is still a big struggle for me. But cbt helps, anything that lowers anxiety, and acceptance. (Trigger warning) Not acceptance of your thoughts neccesarily like, "okay well I guess I just dont love him." Accepting that my mind is off the frits right now and I cant think logically so I shouldn't make any big decisions like getting married, moving in together, ect. Until I can get a grip on my mental health. And right now I'm trying to accept that I dont know what will happen...it's hard but I dont have money for a therapist so managing my symptoms is all I can do. Good luck ?
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For me, my fears revolve around my spouse doing something to cause us to split (cheat, abuse, etc) so I have to practice trusting him even though I have doubts. Even after 12 years of marriage it is an everyday battle to keep the thoughts under control. Accept the nagging doubts, whether they are about you or him, and know that whatever happens you will be okay. Don’t give into searching online, asking questions, investigating. It’s super hard but you can do it.
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Omggggg I was a member with of that group! Very insightful!
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@rbheaton thank you for your advice ☺️ since you’ve mentioned that you’re managing this on your own you can check out a channel that has helped me a lot, “awaken into love”, hope it helps you too ?
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@ashley85 thank you so much for your advice, hope you’ll overcome your struggle too ?
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Breathing techniques are good / pressure point tapping Hot radox baths Exercise Good food
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I’m also going through the same things and I find that sometimes meditating helps, and a lot of times I just try to remind myself that these are textbook symptoms of OCD and that I shouldn’t give into my thoughts, I know it’s hard
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Yes, exactly, me too! I have just started with meditation yesterday and I’m planning to keep on doing it ?
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@jaybaggs8 thanks for the advice, I’m actually starting yoga tomorrow to help with breathing techniques ?
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Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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- 18w
I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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Hi I'm new to all of this so I hope I'm doing this right. 5 years ago my 34 year marriage ended. My ex husband was a mentally and financially abusive, covert narcissist. All that is behind me now and I'm finally remembering who I am again. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy but the problem I'm having is relationship OCD. This has taken me by surprise really as I've had OCD from a very young age but never has it been about my relationship. I constantly check messages and go over and over conversations and convince myself my partner will eventually cheat. Almost every single person in his life I can feel threatened by and I hate this for him and also for me as I don't have any peace of mind. This is ruining the lovely relationship I know I could have so I really need to get a handle on it. Has anybody else experienced this and managed to control it?
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