Hey guys. i’m a 14 year old female and i think i may be struggling from HOCD. My reason for this is because i really struggle setting aside thoughts about my sexual orientation. Growing up i always wanted to marry a man and have kids but up untill now there’s something in my head telling me that i don’t want to do that and i’m making it up. i have all kinds of intrusive thoughts about s€xual intercourse with girls and even just being in a relationship with a girl and they have become that common it’s like in my head that i’ve accepted it and my head is tricking me into the fact i like it, when in reality i don’t! there’s so much more to this but all i want to know is is this HOCD and i’m not in denial? pls it’s causing me so much distress, i’d appreciate any help! <3

Sexual orientation is a really complex subject. When I realized I was gay, I was filled with happiness and relief because I really was not attracted to men. Even as a kid, I never really pictured myself doing the same things as other girls. Even if you were gay, or bi, that would be okay. You are very very young and you have plenty of time to figure out relationships and sexuality. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, and there is nothing wrong with running through scenarios in your head. Thoughts are just thoughts and they don’t mean anything unless you want them to. You can think about whatever you want.

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i totally relate omg i have been struggling SO much for like the past 2 months and it has been so hard for me. i feel a lot of relief that i’m not the only one. i am straight but i kept freaking out that i was possibly gay or bi or had a crush on a girl. i still struggle a lot but i switched it to whether or not i have a crush on a family member or teacher or friends parent etc. (which i don’t) but i’m here if u need to vent and maybe we can help each other somehow 💗

i have also had boyfriends( well when i was 11/12 so they don’t really count) but i remember thinking when my best friend got with the guy i like i got reallly mad and jealous. i would give anything to feel like that again. a few months back when i was at the stage where i could simply ignore the intrusive thoughts the guy i liked was paying more attention to my bestfriend then he was to me and again i remember feeling mad and jealous. now if i think like that it’s telling me the opposite and tricking my mind into thinking i’m gay or bi