- Username
- LBG83
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I go through that once in a while, atleast my fiancee is very understading, I tell him when I have these type of thoughts and he guides me through it. It's important to remember it doesn't matter whether it's thoughts about you hurting others or others hurting you, in the end it's just a thought. I also thought maybe there's something terribly wrong with me because most of my thoughts is about someone doing something to me etc... I don't think it's paranoia, maybe just a random thought and we latch on because the thought scares us and we can only control ourselves unfortunatly, so it's a bit scarier to think of people doing something wrong to us.
Thank you so much for your response. My ocd started very differently and only ended up this way in the past six months (since I got married actually). I search for other people who worry abiut there hurting them but find very little information on it. It's very scary and though I have a very understanding husband, I really wish I want bringing this into our first year of marriage. Thank you for your words. Do you have any advice for letting go of thoughts like this?? I'm having trouble getting over them.
Mine the same, had severy anxiety and stress for about 3 months and my brain broke haha after I had a health scare (which was obviously only in my mind ?) that was last year June/July. Man I was so scared, I feel for you girl. Ocd tend to hit you where it hurts you the most... I had such bizzare thoughts regarding my fiancee (then my boyfriend) poor guy haha well hun, I know it's a tough one, the thing I did that really helped me was I said to myself I will believe it (whatever thought I had) when I see it happening and I did some mindfulness and meditation for the anxiety. It's strange that they don't mention people having thoughts of something being done unto them, it's always the other way around... remember anxiety can get you to think very weird thoughts, learn to manage the anxiety and the thoughts will slowly taper down.
... I also have nightmares about him leaving me and cheating on me... those are just as bad. Unfortunatly like I said we can only control ourselves the rest is up to faith, trust & hope oh nad honesty :)
@Melony sucks to feel like this.
I get the same feelings! Every time we're around other guys I think she's checking them out and prefers them over me and will cheat on me.
@j289l I get super jealous, like insanely jealous haha atleast my partner understands, I basically told him it's not always lack of trust it's my ocd aswell. I would wake up at night crying my eyes out after a nightmare I had that he will leave me or that he cheats on me)
@Melony I hope this blows over for you, always remember to have an open mind and not expect the worst.
@Dalisay thank you! It’s definitely difficult. I haven’t really talked to my current girlfriend about these kinds of thoughts yet, but she’s very sweet and understanding.
@Melony that's super important. Well we don't always have to share every thought, if I did that my fiancee would have to listen to me constantly haha but sometimes it helps to get things out.
@Dalisay it sounds like you have a great fiancé! My girlfriend and I talk about our feelings a lot lol it’s definitely helpful
Sorry about the spelling haha I type too quickly.
Because we have to live with the uncertainty that we don't know what's going on in other people's heads. What worked for me was to say I'll believe this or that thought when I see it happen in reality
I have thoughts of an old friends with benefits finding me and hurting me for leaving her... she never hurt me but she was an angry person. Part of it is my guilt for leaving.
I am struggling a lot right now with ocd convincing me I want to hurt my partner when I know deep down I don’t. It’s more so a feeling then a thought. I’m just scared that one day I’ll be convinced or give in into the thought. I don’t want to feel like I would hurt my partner anyone else ?
So I'm fairly new to OCD and Intrusive Thoughts. It all started about 8 months ago for me. I had health anxiety and generalized anxiety and got put on meds for that. I read side affects of meds could cause su*cdal thoughts and it freaked me out and lead me to think what if I started having thoughts of harming others too and instantly for the last 8 months I've had horrible intrusive thoguhts about harming others. Now the other day I ran across a post about how ocd can lead to psychosis, reading about it freaked me out so bad that I'm now scared I'm gonna get psychosis. Paranoid thoughts is a sign of psychosis so I started watching myself I guess to see if I'd become paranoid. And now every thought I have seems paranoid. I'll think things like what if I start becoming paranoid of my loved ones and think they're out to get me? That leaves me questioning if I am paranoid and if I actually do think that. Anyways, I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them? I pray someone can relate because I'm terrified.
I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16, I am now 23. I was head over heels for him for a couple of years then I went to undergrad and started having thoughts/fears I cheated on him with another man. I would then convince myself I did. Then my ocd got really bad and I convinced myself I was gay, since that time I have been fighting with my thoughts 24/7 trying to decide if I am or if I am not. I wasn't able to eat, sleep, etc. The anxiety has gotten less but it still affects me and my relationship. Now I feel like I am numb to my boyfriend. I never want to have sex, I get scared.. While we have sex I constantly question how I am feeling. Is this normal? I know OCD attaches to things that are important to you, so I like to think its just because I love him so much that all my themes revolve around potentially losing him and it came in a time when I was 5 hours away from him consistently at school. IDk what I'm trying to get from this, just to rant or see that I'm not alone. I am now 6 hours away from him in graduate school so I have other stressors impacting me but I am obsessed with finding out if I truly love him or if I am gay even though before all of this started I never had these thoughts but now I am constantly questioning to the point I've almost convinced myself its true. My anxiety is the worst if I see homosexual women but I also fear I am attracted to women bc I notice them more now I feel like and feel like I have lost my attraction to men. Is this normal? I've been dealing with it for 2.5 years. I want nothing more than to be happy and content with my boyfriend but I cant even tell my true feelings anymore.
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