- Username
- LBG83
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I go through that once in a while, atleast my fiancee is very understading, I tell him when I have these type of thoughts and he guides me through it. It's important to remember it doesn't matter whether it's thoughts about you hurting others or others hurting you, in the end it's just a thought. I also thought maybe there's something terribly wrong with me because most of my thoughts is about someone doing something to me etc... I don't think it's paranoia, maybe just a random thought and we latch on because the thought scares us and we can only control ourselves unfortunatly, so it's a bit scarier to think of people doing something wrong to us.
Thank you so much for your response. My ocd started very differently and only ended up this way in the past six months (since I got married actually). I search for other people who worry abiut there hurting them but find very little information on it. It's very scary and though I have a very understanding husband, I really wish I want bringing this into our first year of marriage. Thank you for your words. Do you have any advice for letting go of thoughts like this?? I'm having trouble getting over them.
Mine the same, had severy anxiety and stress for about 3 months and my brain broke haha after I had a health scare (which was obviously only in my mind ?) that was last year June/July. Man I was so scared, I feel for you girl. Ocd tend to hit you where it hurts you the most... I had such bizzare thoughts regarding my fiancee (then my boyfriend) poor guy haha well hun, I know it's a tough one, the thing I did that really helped me was I said to myself I will believe it (whatever thought I had) when I see it happening and I did some mindfulness and meditation for the anxiety. It's strange that they don't mention people having thoughts of something being done unto them, it's always the other way around... remember anxiety can get you to think very weird thoughts, learn to manage the anxiety and the thoughts will slowly taper down.
... I also have nightmares about him leaving me and cheating on me... those are just as bad. Unfortunatly like I said we can only control ourselves the rest is up to faith, trust & hope oh nad honesty :)
@Melony sucks to feel like this.
I get the same feelings! Every time we're around other guys I think she's checking them out and prefers them over me and will cheat on me.
@j289l I get super jealous, like insanely jealous haha atleast my partner understands, I basically told him it's not always lack of trust it's my ocd aswell. I would wake up at night crying my eyes out after a nightmare I had that he will leave me or that he cheats on me)
@Melony I hope this blows over for you, always remember to have an open mind and not expect the worst.
@Dalisay thank you! It’s definitely difficult. I haven’t really talked to my current girlfriend about these kinds of thoughts yet, but she’s very sweet and understanding.
@Melony that's super important. Well we don't always have to share every thought, if I did that my fiancee would have to listen to me constantly haha but sometimes it helps to get things out.
@Dalisay it sounds like you have a great fiancé! My girlfriend and I talk about our feelings a lot lol it’s definitely helpful
Sorry about the spelling haha I type too quickly.
Because we have to live with the uncertainty that we don't know what's going on in other people's heads. What worked for me was to say I'll believe this or that thought when I see it happen in reality
I have thoughts of an old friends with benefits finding me and hurting me for leaving her... she never hurt me but she was an angry person. Part of it is my guilt for leaving.
Does anyone else have the constant ocd thought that their significant other is going to cheat on them in some way? I started realizing this was an ocd thought I have because there is absolutely no ground for having that thought. It’s just persistent every day. Ugh I want it to go away.
Hello guys, Im new here and seeking for advice. Im in a relationship with an amazing guy. I love him so much and that’s why my ocd and anxiety are latching onto my connection with him. He was staying over at my place and 2 events happened (something to do with his disease and he had an allergic reaction to food) that caused my stress and anxiety levels to be higher than normal. Followed by a night of bad sleep made things worse. I became very alert and was easily triggered. Something occurred that I completely miscalculated and we talked about it but my anxiety was through the roof at this point. I got these disturbing images of me hurting him in my head. I have had intrusive thoughts in the past but it didn’t affect me this much. Because of the lack of sleep and my high anxiety level made me so afraid of myself that I made the decision to sent him home. I have cried so much since that happened. I feel so bad for having that thought. I love him so much. Our communication is very healthy so I’ve told him about this the day after (why I sent him home). I couldnt do it in the moment because i didnt want to make the situation worse. We werent in a fight when i sent him home but both emotional and hugging each other. I have the feeling that my anxiety and ocd have won the battle by sending him home (avoidance). But i care so much for him that I didn’t want him to be at risk (thats what my mind tells me, i know its showing me disturbing images the opposite of what i want). Im in the early stage of having this type of OCD but I don’t want to lose him. But for me the only way to get this relationship to work is to get rid of this. Can anyone relate? Like, having intrusive thoughts about your partner? I know its latching on to the things you love the most and I hate it so much. Thanks in advance :)
Has anyone else experienced a huge fear of being cheated on & then obsessing over if it is a gut feeling or that little voice in your head that comes along with OCD that just won’t shut up?? Something as simple as finding one of my in-laws shirts that has been used as a rag & covered in oil/ grease in my partners vehicle has sent me spiraling down a hole of “what if” it belongs to another girl, or a girl he’s slept with in the past? Did he cheat on me? Is he lying to me? Although I know the logical answer I still can’t stop asking for reassurance. He’s treated me well and there hasn’t been any indication of him even wanting to cheat. In return I just get mad at the reassurance because “what if” he is lying? I’m frustrated with myself and struggling. This is causing such a strain on my life and in my relationship. Any advice would help.
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