sillygoose1012
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- 4y
Nour04Nour04
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- 4y
i can relate to this on such a deep deep level i would even ask for reassurance from my friend like: does wearing this mean i am gay? does doing this mean i am gay? and it is exhausting to be so self-aware all the time, even the way i sit, talk, walk, everything so you are not alone in this i definitely stuggle with this a lot too sometimes i even hate looking at my hands because my veins pop out sometimes and i go like sure those are lesbian hands because you are one and so and so i hate tiktok i deleted it as soon as i started having this theme because it has so many triggers like honestly hoe can listening to harry styles mean i am bisexual?? and for a while i even believed those(before the theme) and i felt like i was in this huge "cool" group and now it's haunting me sorry for the rant, all i want to say is you're not alone in this and you have my full support
MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 4y
If it helps at all I also have very vainy and bony hands and I also have this worry! It’s just one of ocds stupid little digs
Nour04Nour04
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- 4y
@Melodyocd like before ocd i never worried about them but rather found them pretty but now my brain is telling me that i found them pretty because they look manly and i like that my cousin and mom have the same hand shapes and they always reassure me but when my hands are dangling at my sides and i look at them i literally remember those thirst traps on tiktok of lesbians with veiny hands and i spiral into my thoughts i am trying to avoid looking at them like it's that bad
MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 4y
@Nour04 It’s all just genetics, my mum and brother both have the same hands as me too! I hated my hands forever bc they looked so bony and gross, but if it helps my mum was asked to be a hand model once because they loved how beautiful they were!!
Nour04Nour04
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- 4y
@Melodyocd that is so sweet of you to share this with me and make me feel better it's just that feeling i get when looking down at my hands and then i feel like those guys/lesbians who look down at their veiny hands and i worry i may be trans/bi/lesbian thank you again for being so helpful
MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 4y
@Nour04 I completely understand and relate to your worry! I think the best thing we can do is say the whole “maybe, but maybe not” thing to those kinda thoughts
Nour04Nour04
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- 4y
@Melodyocd it's so distressing but you're right it must be the best way ti deal with it and not actually run to tests and checks and compulsions and reassurance
MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 4y
@Nour04 Yeah exactly, all those things will just make it worse in the long run!
sillygoose1012sillygoose1012
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- 4y
100% tik tok is so so triggering. Like clothes and music taste doesn't determine sexuality??? It's so frustrating. I totally relate to you and I overanalyze everything I do and pick it all apart and it drives me crazy.
MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 4y
I can 100% relate to this! Especially since I have a few lgbtq friends and family members. I think what helps me with this is that I try my very best to not care what other people think about me, which is really difficult I know, I still really struggle to do it haha! Try your best to focus on yourself and your view of yourself, rather than how other view you because literally every single person in your life will view you in a different way. Hope you’re doing okay tho! :)
sillygoose1012sillygoose1012
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- 4y
That makes me feel so better to know I'm not alone. I relate to you in that my best friend is gay and will constantly pick things apart about people like "oh that's so gay" or whatever. I had a nose piercing for a while and he's like are you sure you're not..ya know??? And it's so so frustrating especially because people don't know this internal battle I'm constantly facing. I try not to let what other people think bother me but I get in my head a lot and wonder if other people think I give off bi/lesbian energy and if that means something about myself. I also have a boyfriend and wonder if people are like "oh it's a cover up" or "I wonder when she'll come out" and it drives me literally insane
MelodyocdMelodyocd
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- 4y
@California2325 Honestly I relate to those thoughts so much, it’s so normal for this theme I think. I never have had a boyfriend due to me being seriously anxious, and I always get worried people think it’s because I’m gay/bi really and in denial, it’s scary! But I know deep down it’s probably because I have bad anxiety disorders and change makes me have panic attacks, so when something new happens like a relationship, it’s scary because I haven’t done that before! Honestly I think we have to try out absolute hardest to not give a shite what other people think, I think a lot of people with ocd care a lotttt about others opinions which deffo doesn’t help! (Myself included)
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