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I think this doesn't get enough recognition. OCD in relationships is absolutely brutal and not even as recognized as depression, anxiety, etc
My OCD kicks in at the worst times. My girlfriend and I will be out at dinner, my mind is racing of thoughts, doubting everything, and then she looks at me with his kinda face as if she’s waiting for me to finish whatever is going on in my head. I think I struggle with HOCD, and ROCD mainly. Harm OCD likes to show up at times. Even though I tell myself I don’t want to do the things my mind is trying to convince me into doing, it stills tries. Before my OCD, we would always talk, now it’s just silence, as if we already know each other, and we’re just kinda left there. I really want to find ways to boost our relationship, it sucks because my head begins to hurt, I feel like shit, and all I want to do is crawl back in bed.
I have been belittled, told I am a child, I could do so much more and I’m a waste, etc. I was hitting my OCD hard as well. Running at fear, no recognition even though the person was well aware of the condition and was quite educated on it.
My ocd is crippling in my relationships. I constantly seek reassurance about not being abandoned and constantly test people’s love for me and doubt that I’m with the right person and I have somatic obsessions so I cannot listen to him breath or be touched/cuddle in my sleep and listening to him chew is the most frustrating thing in the world and caused our most recent argument. Basically my anxiety overwhelms both of us. But my partner has bipolar and adhd and that impacts our relationship too. It’s very hard and I don’t know what advice to give other than go to therapy and get help and rely on friends maybe even consider group therapy and new methods of therapy if you’re already in therapy. Also remember that there will always be progress made and progress to be made. You cannot cure ocd and it is a part of your life that needs to be accepted and understood by your partner.
I feel like im in hell. I feel so bad and i feel so doomed. For 1.5 years i fighting with ocd, mostly pure o. 3 2.5 months ago it start to attack my relationship. She is the most precious thing in my life and i understand thats why the icd attack it. Im struggle with maintain love, attraction, emotions the most. In the last days i started to feel very numb and its "connect" me to the idea i dont love her and not attracted to her. It made me to be even more scared to my life when i noticed that ive short breath while kissing her, because im so scared amd ashamed that i kiss her while ive got all of those thoughts. I noticed that i check my emotion stability toward her which make it worse. Also, i read on wikipedia about pure o and they wrote there about that pure o relationship ocd is in most cases lead to break up and it triggered me so much. I dont want to loose her, never, no matter how much im suffer. She gave and giving me the powet to cope with this demon. I know its all ocd and i try to live my life without ocd and my love in my conor and something teying to hurt us and its makes me crazy.
I have been with my SO going in 13 years now. We met in college and have been together ever since. We got married in 2021 and welcomed a baby girl in the world last year. I had a severe mental breakdown in 2013 that landed me in the hospital because I was contemplating suicide. That breakdown nearly destroyed our relationship. I had severe intrusive thoughts and felt the need to tell him all of them. I felt like if I didn’t tell him, I was lying. I destroyed his self esteem, telling him all of the mean thoughts I had about him. I would feel the need to tell him anytime I saw an attractive guy in public, I questioned our relationship and told him I wasn’t sure if I loved him anymore. It was bad and very dark. Fast forward to now and I feel like I’m letting him down in different ways. I don’t feel the need to tell him every thought I have now but since having my daughter my OCD and depression seem to be getting worse. I just feel like I’m no longer happy and my daughter should’ve had a mom that wasn’t damaged like me. Didn’t have the abusive childhood like me. Wasn’t broken like me. I feel so much guilt. It’s putting such a strain on our relationship and I feel like my husband deserves someone better. Someone whose happier.
Hey everyone, I’m needing some help and would really appreciate it at least one person responded. I need advice. I just recently got broken up with a few days ago by my girlfriend of 3 years. I thought we were gonna last forever and we had plans for the future. My OCD made her so insecure that she couldn’t take it any more. She says she sees herself in a different light now and it’s all because of me :(. I don’t know if this is selfish to say but not only does it make me extremely sad, but also frustrated, because I can’t control that I have OCD. I know I can control my compulsions to an extent but she said “if you know the compulsion would hurt me then why would you say it?” And like I get where she’s coming from but she doesn’t have OCD and I feel like people on this app/in this community would understand what I mean when I say it can be so debilitating at times that you just end up giving into it because your mind takes over. I wish I could go back and reverse all the compulsions I told her but I felt so guilty so I told her things I should’ve kept to myself. I know I shouldn’t beg for her (which I have been) but we have such a strong connection that I see with no one else. She reached out to me first yesterday and wanted to see if I was okay and of course that turned into a 4 hour phone call. I’m determined to save our relationship and need someone’s advice/what they think. It really feels like I’m unlovable and that OCD won and took away the best thing in my life😞I know I should give her space but at the same time, I want to prove to her that our relationship can be better and she that she doesn’t have to feel insecure anymore
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