her
- Date posted
- 6y
RuminatorRuminator
- Date posted
- 6y
I think this doesn't get enough recognition. OCD in relationships is absolutely brutal and not even as recognized as depression, anxiety, etc
JM1998JM1998
- Date posted
- 6y
My OCD kicks in at the worst times. My girlfriend and I will be out at dinner, my mind is racing of thoughts, doubting everything, and then she looks at me with his kinda face as if she’s waiting for me to finish whatever is going on in my head. I think I struggle with HOCD, and ROCD mainly. Harm OCD likes to show up at times. Even though I tell myself I don’t want to do the things my mind is trying to convince me into doing, it stills tries. Before my OCD, we would always talk, now it’s just silence, as if we already know each other, and we’re just kinda left there. I really want to find ways to boost our relationship, it sucks because my head begins to hurt, I feel like shit, and all I want to do is crawl back in bed.
JJ
- Date posted
- 6y
I have been belittled, told I am a child, I could do so much more and I’m a waste, etc. I was hitting my OCD hard as well. Running at fear, no recognition even though the person was well aware of the condition and was quite educated on it.
pffftpffft
- Date posted
- 6y
My ocd is crippling in my relationships. I constantly seek reassurance about not being abandoned and constantly test people’s love for me and doubt that I’m with the right person and I have somatic obsessions so I cannot listen to him breath or be touched/cuddle in my sleep and listening to him chew is the most frustrating thing in the world and caused our most recent argument. Basically my anxiety overwhelms both of us. But my partner has bipolar and adhd and that impacts our relationship too. It’s very hard and I don’t know what advice to give other than go to therapy and get help and rely on friends maybe even consider group therapy and new methods of therapy if you’re already in therapy. Also remember that there will always be progress made and progress to be made. You cannot cure ocd and it is a part of your life that needs to be accepted and understood by your partner.
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- Date posted
- 25w
My partners mad because of my OCD
Last night I was staying at my boyfriend’s house and couldn’t sleep. I felt like i desperately needed to go back to my parents and clean and organize my room. This has happened a few times before when I was staying at his place. Since then he’s been very upset with me. Does anyone else’s partner do this? Any advice? It’s been hard. He’s made me feel so shameful for having OCD. As if it’s not tough enough /:
findingmyway1
- Date posted
- 21w
Never thought I would be writing this.
Hello, I unknowingly have lived with ROCD or OCD (not sure what one. I’m new to this). It has ruined so many amazing romantic and platonic relationships and I am so sad that just now I am finding out what the hell is wrong with me. Maybe life would be different if I have known. My OCD and anxiety is at an all time high (ATH) due to some horrible events that have happened in the recent months. I am at the point where paranoia has taken over my life now. I had my first panic attack a few weeks ago where I fainted. My anxiety attacks are so extreme I go thought cognitive distortion that has lasted days. My girlfriend of 3 years is my emotional guardian and she no long has the energy to be that and honestly it’s not her responsibility to be that. She is bi and wanted to have an open relationship and for someone who has OCD this has not been good for me. She also was assaulted in my own home by a good friend of ours when I was out of town but it’s not a clear situation because it sounded consensual at first. I just left my very high paying job. I am financially secure but the job was emotionally abusive and looking back made my OCD worse. I am taking some time off to get my head right…but now, all I have to do during the day is live in my OCD. I’m very happy I finally figured out why I act the way I do but I don’t know if I can get better quick enough to save my relationship. I have never been so worried about myself (M 28 years old). I am a confident young professional and never thought I would be writing on a page like this. Anyway…I hope it gets better.
bubbsle
- Date posted
- 16w
Tips for Anxiety
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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