her
- Date posted
- 6y
RuminatorRuminator
- Date posted
- 6y
I think this doesn't get enough recognition. OCD in relationships is absolutely brutal and not even as recognized as depression, anxiety, etc
JM1998JM1998
- Date posted
- 6y
My OCD kicks in at the worst times. My girlfriend and I will be out at dinner, my mind is racing of thoughts, doubting everything, and then she looks at me with his kinda face as if she’s waiting for me to finish whatever is going on in my head. I think I struggle with HOCD, and ROCD mainly. Harm OCD likes to show up at times. Even though I tell myself I don’t want to do the things my mind is trying to convince me into doing, it stills tries. Before my OCD, we would always talk, now it’s just silence, as if we already know each other, and we’re just kinda left there. I really want to find ways to boost our relationship, it sucks because my head begins to hurt, I feel like shit, and all I want to do is crawl back in bed.
JJ
- Date posted
- 6y
I have been belittled, told I am a child, I could do so much more and I’m a waste, etc. I was hitting my OCD hard as well. Running at fear, no recognition even though the person was well aware of the condition and was quite educated on it.
pffftpffft
- Date posted
- 6y
My ocd is crippling in my relationships. I constantly seek reassurance about not being abandoned and constantly test people’s love for me and doubt that I’m with the right person and I have somatic obsessions so I cannot listen to him breath or be touched/cuddle in my sleep and listening to him chew is the most frustrating thing in the world and caused our most recent argument. Basically my anxiety overwhelms both of us. But my partner has bipolar and adhd and that impacts our relationship too. It’s very hard and I don’t know what advice to give other than go to therapy and get help and rely on friends maybe even consider group therapy and new methods of therapy if you’re already in therapy. Also remember that there will always be progress made and progress to be made. You cannot cure ocd and it is a part of your life that needs to be accepted and understood by your partner.
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- 20w
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- Date posted
- 6w
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OCD has done a lot of damage in my life. It made my high school experience miserable, it made things rough for my freshman year of college and it negatively affected my first relationship recently. I have gotten better with finding better copping mechanisms and I thought I had everything handled entering my first relationship in February. However after a month in, I kept overthinking stuff. I kept having “what if’s” pop into my head and I would try to fight it but it didn’t make things better. I kept worrying about stuff with my ex, even overthinking her bad days when she was more reserved. I went to her friends for advice on handling things and trying to understand her. I have talked to her about my OCD and she was supportive of me and understanding. I just didn’t want to annoy her when she was dealing with a lot her freshman year of college. I knew her friends wanted the best for us and became closer to me, but in the times I was panicked, I over shared stuff about our relationship. My ex found out about it over the summer. I told her months prior that I’ve gone to her friends once before just for advice on things and she had no issues with that. Regardless, I handled things poorly even with good intentions. I went to her friends for advice a good few times and the reassurance didn’t make things better. It was like a drug that helped me in the moment. Communication issues caused things to go downhill with my ex and I and it sucks. I kept feeling like I had to be perfect for her and I can’t make a single mistake or she would end things, but she loved me for everything I am, even my flaws. I just put so much pressure on myself. We both hope to be with each other in the future and know we can come back together stronger. I just feel guilt and shame for my mistakes and I don’t want to make them again and feel better about being with her. She didn’t do anything to make me feel pressure. She’s a very no bs type of person as her first relationship didn’t go well as she was badly mistreated.
Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5w
Having a really rough start to my day
My wife told me last night that our marriage is 85% my OCD and that she is considering a divorce. I started ERP this week and have been making good progress. I’m giving it my all to getting better and I just feel seriously overwhelmed right now. Any advice on dealing with OCD when it has an impact on your partner? My wife also has BPD.
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