her
- Date posted
- 6y
RuminatorRuminator
- Date posted
- 6y
I think this doesn't get enough recognition. OCD in relationships is absolutely brutal and not even as recognized as depression, anxiety, etc
JM1998JM1998
- Date posted
- 6y
My OCD kicks in at the worst times. My girlfriend and I will be out at dinner, my mind is racing of thoughts, doubting everything, and then she looks at me with his kinda face as if she’s waiting for me to finish whatever is going on in my head. I think I struggle with HOCD, and ROCD mainly. Harm OCD likes to show up at times. Even though I tell myself I don’t want to do the things my mind is trying to convince me into doing, it stills tries. Before my OCD, we would always talk, now it’s just silence, as if we already know each other, and we’re just kinda left there. I really want to find ways to boost our relationship, it sucks because my head begins to hurt, I feel like shit, and all I want to do is crawl back in bed.
JJ
- Date posted
- 6y
I have been belittled, told I am a child, I could do so much more and I’m a waste, etc. I was hitting my OCD hard as well. Running at fear, no recognition even though the person was well aware of the condition and was quite educated on it.
pffftpffft
- Date posted
- 6y
My ocd is crippling in my relationships. I constantly seek reassurance about not being abandoned and constantly test people’s love for me and doubt that I’m with the right person and I have somatic obsessions so I cannot listen to him breath or be touched/cuddle in my sleep and listening to him chew is the most frustrating thing in the world and caused our most recent argument. Basically my anxiety overwhelms both of us. But my partner has bipolar and adhd and that impacts our relationship too. It’s very hard and I don’t know what advice to give other than go to therapy and get help and rely on friends maybe even consider group therapy and new methods of therapy if you’re already in therapy. Also remember that there will always be progress made and progress to be made. You cannot cure ocd and it is a part of your life that needs to be accepted and understood by your partner.
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- Date posted
- 23w
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Deborah Ward
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 23w
Relationships and OCD
Relationships can be challenging for everyone. What are some ways OCD has come into your relationship and added extra struggles?
Canes12345!
- Date posted
- 22w
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I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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