- Username
- JessicaJoy
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Im in the same boat as you guys currently. Im going through a big issue in my relationship and my spinning off of OCD and i feel like my girlfriend will break up with me for a mistake i made
Same here we just got out of a rough patch and im worried im going to suddenly lose motivation
@PinkLotus Lose motivation in the relationship ?
@OCD-PROOF Yes , I dont want that but I'm worried I will since we're long distance.
@PinkLotus Hi PinkLotus. Since you're in a relationship, there are some ROCD videos on YouTube from Awaken Into Love that you may find helpful. But a caution would be to not seek them for reassurance, but for guidance.
@kory.rozich Thank you! I will check those out, I truly want things to work for my partner and I.
Hey Jessica, I'm going through a breakup and struggling with my OCD as well. I can't stop the intrusive thoughts about my ex, can't stop crying at each thought, and my desire for certainty is unbearable. You're not alone.
What does sitting with the discomfort and not "figuring it out" look like for you both? I'm only in week 2 of this and feel like I'm doing it wrong. I just sit there with the thought and then continuously cry about it. I tell myself that this is a painful thought, a hard thought, and it may or may not be true. But my OCD comes in and tells me it's going to become true if it isn't already. Do I just stay the course? I'm looking for support but am scared that this is reassurance seeking.
It takes time i fought two themes of OCD. I kept doing things that benefit me like eating right, sleeping 8 hours, Excercising. Right now im going through a break up i think. Last year i emotionally cheated on my girlfriend didn't tell her until now because i felt wrong and Terrible about jt
@OCD-PROOF I'm sorry to hear that friend. The pain is very very real. I hope that there is reconciliation for you and that you're able to work it out with your partner. Would love to walk with you in this. You too, Jessica. If only because I feel so alone.
@kory.rozich I keep getting spikes in HOCD as well. So im giving my girlfriend and myself space to build
@OCD-PROOF The space I'm sure is terrifying. My ex and I have haven't spoken since the breakup 2.5 months ago and since starting ERP, I feel like I'm back to feeling 10/10 as shitty and desperate as I was after the breakup. My anxiety and OCD are going crazy with the thoughts and narratives. It's not an encouragement for me yet, but we will get through this. You've done it before!
So we broke up a month after my ocd diagnosis. I went through so many levels of pain and grief. For the most part; I feel at peace with us not being together. But he has a girlfriend now and I happened to see that the other day. So I’m not sad that we aren’t together and I don’t want to be with him because it wasn’t good for either of this (though we adored one another). The issue is that I struggle with obsessions surrounding beauty and body image (not BDD). So I keep having intrusive and painful thoughts surrounding my beauty in comparison to hers; what if I’m not beautiful enough etc blah blah blah. I don’t actually believe these things but the thoughts are so loud as well as the anxiety surrounding them. It makes something that would be mildly sucky become horrible. So I’m doing my best to resis compulsions, allow the thoughts to come and go (not agreeing, disagreeing or figuring them out) and walk it out. I know it will pass eventually it’s just painful.
Hey Jessica. That sounds painful and hard to deal with in general, even worse when adding OCD on top of it. I'm sure there are others on here who have or are going through the same struggle, but either way, you can get through this. And you're not alone.
@kory.rozich Thanks Kory 🙏❤️👌
Has anyone had a breakup or a major life change that triggered an OCD episode? How did you cope?
It’s so weird how OCD just comes about with no explanation, out of nowhere. My issue has been feelings. I have moments of hyper focusing on feelings, trying to figure them out, and it’s exhausting. Logically, I know that what I’m going through with the things happening in my life (relationship ending that was abusive, my father just getting diagnosed with dementia, etc) would make anyone feel the way I do. But I keep trying to fight my feelings. “Normally, old me” would embrace them and let them be. Ever since my OCD returned, I can’t help but fixate on them and stress even more. It’s almost like my emotions and the way we are as humans in my mind has become even more of a problem than the problems themselves. Can anyone relate? I am doing my best with ERP. I definitely helps. But I’m still waking up not feeling like myself and it hurts.
i had breakup nearly a year ago but i cudnt process or grieve my emotions as ocd was at its peak during that time. since then, ive always been occupied with ocd and the emotions of the breakup have been repressed. i really dont know how to release these trapped emotions. i want to move on but im scared that i might not move on and ocd wud act up. any advice?
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