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Im in the same boat as you guys currently. Im going through a big issue in my relationship and my spinning off of OCD and i feel like my girlfriend will break up with me for a mistake i made
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Same here we just got out of a rough patch and im worried im going to suddenly lose motivation
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@PinkLotus Lose motivation in the relationship ?
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@OCD-PROOF Yes , I dont want that but I'm worried I will since we're long distance.
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@PinkLotus Hi PinkLotus. Since you're in a relationship, there are some ROCD videos on YouTube from Awaken Into Love that you may find helpful. But a caution would be to not seek them for reassurance, but for guidance.
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@kory.rozich Thank you! I will check those out, I truly want things to work for my partner and I.
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Hey Jessica, I'm going through a breakup and struggling with my OCD as well. I can't stop the intrusive thoughts about my ex, can't stop crying at each thought, and my desire for certainty is unbearable. You're not alone.
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What does sitting with the discomfort and not "figuring it out" look like for you both? I'm only in week 2 of this and feel like I'm doing it wrong. I just sit there with the thought and then continuously cry about it. I tell myself that this is a painful thought, a hard thought, and it may or may not be true. But my OCD comes in and tells me it's going to become true if it isn't already. Do I just stay the course? I'm looking for support but am scared that this is reassurance seeking.
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It takes time i fought two themes of OCD. I kept doing things that benefit me like eating right, sleeping 8 hours, Excercising. Right now im going through a break up i think. Last year i emotionally cheated on my girlfriend didn't tell her until now because i felt wrong and Terrible about jt
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@OCD-PROOF I'm sorry to hear that friend. The pain is very very real. I hope that there is reconciliation for you and that you're able to work it out with your partner. Would love to walk with you in this. You too, Jessica. If only because I feel so alone.
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@kory.rozich I keep getting spikes in HOCD as well. So im giving my girlfriend and myself space to build
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@OCD-PROOF The space I'm sure is terrifying. My ex and I have haven't spoken since the breakup 2.5 months ago and since starting ERP, I feel like I'm back to feeling 10/10 as shitty and desperate as I was after the breakup. My anxiety and OCD are going crazy with the thoughts and narratives. It's not an encouragement for me yet, but we will get through this. You've done it before!
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So we broke up a month after my ocd diagnosis. I went through so many levels of pain and grief. For the most part; I feel at peace with us not being together. But he has a girlfriend now and I happened to see that the other day. So I’m not sad that we aren’t together and I don’t want to be with him because it wasn’t good for either of this (though we adored one another). The issue is that I struggle with obsessions surrounding beauty and body image (not BDD). So I keep having intrusive and painful thoughts surrounding my beauty in comparison to hers; what if I’m not beautiful enough etc blah blah blah. I don’t actually believe these things but the thoughts are so loud as well as the anxiety surrounding them. It makes something that would be mildly sucky become horrible. So I’m doing my best to resis compulsions, allow the thoughts to come and go (not agreeing, disagreeing or figuring them out) and walk it out. I know it will pass eventually it’s just painful.
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Hey Jessica. That sounds painful and hard to deal with in general, even worse when adding OCD on top of it. I'm sure there are others on here who have or are going through the same struggle, but either way, you can get through this. And you're not alone.
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@kory.rozich Thanks Kory 🙏❤️👌
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no clue if this is compulsive, but I’m interested to hear any obsessions others have that aren’t the “common” ones you see online about what ROCD is? a few for me: - thoughts about their partner being with someone else instead (sometimes a specific person) and then trying to analyze your reaction to it? e.g. does it *feel* more right than us, do I actually feel happy for them, etc. - trying to imagine your partner in your current situation or maybe a specific future situation (when they’re not around) and trying to decide if they “fit” in it? - being super scared of losing them, then suddenly feeling like you don’t care much for them at all, and just constantly cycling? - I almost never fully enjoyed sex because I was constantly obsessing about whether or not I was turned on, turned on “enough,” if I was just having groinal responses and wasn’t actually turned on, looking at his face just to decide if I find him attractive enough, comparing my experience with how I feel watching content alone, etc.
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Hey everyone, First time posting here! Wanted to share my story for some support but also to hopefully make others feel less alone. In short - my ROCD has made such a mess of my personal life. I was in a great relationship until spring of last year, at which point we separated mainly due to my ROCD. I struggled heavily with OCD about 10 years ago (harm based intrusive thoughts, sexual orientation ocd, etc). It took a lot of work but I was able to mostly overcome my struggles and truthfully, hadn’t given ocd much thought since then. I thought I was cured. And then 10 years later I am in a very fulfilling relationship with a girl I really love, but at about the year mark in my relationship things really changed. She wanted to have a conversation about next steps (moving in, marriage, kids, etc) and at that point my brain just went into panic mode and the ocd took over. From that point on, I was constantly scanning for red flags, felt very reserved when it came to any sort of statement or commitment and tended to avoid anything that would indicate I was committed to a long term future. It was not that I didn’t love it was just that my ocd was doing anything to keep me from making a big commitment. It eventually got a point where we had a big conversation about breaking up or staying together and my OCD convinced me that it was safer and that I would do less harm to her if we ended things, which was incredibly devastating to me. At the time I felt like my obsessing over small red flags were normal and that I needed to protect myself. I just had no clue it was ROCD. I spent the next 8 months missing her and kicking myself for my mistakes, and I eventually got the courage to reach out and see if she’d be willing to talk again, which she was. But the problem is, at this point I still didn’t know it was ocd. So when we talked again I was still plagued by ROCD as all the same thoughts and feelings came flooding back. We tried to talk through things but once again I was unable to make any sort of commitment to the future so it went nowhere. Once again, I am feeling very sad and angry at myself for not being able to handle ROCD. I feel like I let it control me twice and has robbed me of a lot of happiness and hurt someone I care very much about. I understand it’s probably not best to just look at ourselves with anger and guilt all the time but it’s hard not to when you feel like you just caused so much harm. Anyone feel like they can relate? Or if anyone is going through something similar I am happy to chat as ROCD can really be tricky. Thanks
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My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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