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Im in the same boat as you guys currently. Im going through a big issue in my relationship and my spinning off of OCD and i feel like my girlfriend will break up with me for a mistake i made
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Same here we just got out of a rough patch and im worried im going to suddenly lose motivation
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@PinkLotus Lose motivation in the relationship ?
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@OCD-PROOF Yes , I dont want that but I'm worried I will since we're long distance.
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@PinkLotus Hi PinkLotus. Since you're in a relationship, there are some ROCD videos on YouTube from Awaken Into Love that you may find helpful. But a caution would be to not seek them for reassurance, but for guidance.
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@kory.rozich Thank you! I will check those out, I truly want things to work for my partner and I.
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Hey Jessica, I'm going through a breakup and struggling with my OCD as well. I can't stop the intrusive thoughts about my ex, can't stop crying at each thought, and my desire for certainty is unbearable. You're not alone.
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What does sitting with the discomfort and not "figuring it out" look like for you both? I'm only in week 2 of this and feel like I'm doing it wrong. I just sit there with the thought and then continuously cry about it. I tell myself that this is a painful thought, a hard thought, and it may or may not be true. But my OCD comes in and tells me it's going to become true if it isn't already. Do I just stay the course? I'm looking for support but am scared that this is reassurance seeking.
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It takes time i fought two themes of OCD. I kept doing things that benefit me like eating right, sleeping 8 hours, Excercising. Right now im going through a break up i think. Last year i emotionally cheated on my girlfriend didn't tell her until now because i felt wrong and Terrible about jt
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@OCD-PROOF I'm sorry to hear that friend. The pain is very very real. I hope that there is reconciliation for you and that you're able to work it out with your partner. Would love to walk with you in this. You too, Jessica. If only because I feel so alone.
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@kory.rozich I keep getting spikes in HOCD as well. So im giving my girlfriend and myself space to build
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@OCD-PROOF The space I'm sure is terrifying. My ex and I have haven't spoken since the breakup 2.5 months ago and since starting ERP, I feel like I'm back to feeling 10/10 as shitty and desperate as I was after the breakup. My anxiety and OCD are going crazy with the thoughts and narratives. It's not an encouragement for me yet, but we will get through this. You've done it before!
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So we broke up a month after my ocd diagnosis. I went through so many levels of pain and grief. For the most part; I feel at peace with us not being together. But he has a girlfriend now and I happened to see that the other day. So I’m not sad that we aren’t together and I don’t want to be with him because it wasn’t good for either of this (though we adored one another). The issue is that I struggle with obsessions surrounding beauty and body image (not BDD). So I keep having intrusive and painful thoughts surrounding my beauty in comparison to hers; what if I’m not beautiful enough etc blah blah blah. I don’t actually believe these things but the thoughts are so loud as well as the anxiety surrounding them. It makes something that would be mildly sucky become horrible. So I’m doing my best to resis compulsions, allow the thoughts to come and go (not agreeing, disagreeing or figuring them out) and walk it out. I know it will pass eventually it’s just painful.
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Hey Jessica. That sounds painful and hard to deal with in general, even worse when adding OCD on top of it. I'm sure there are others on here who have or are going through the same struggle, but either way, you can get through this. And you're not alone.
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@kory.rozich Thanks Kory 🙏❤️👌
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My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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Ok guys this is so embarassing. I absolutely hate this. But pretty much I’ve been going through a breakup and now I’m getting intrusive thoughts/memories about us being physically intimate and cringing about it. I’m not sure why I’m cringing because it’s a normal part of a relationship, and he’s the first person I’ve ever been intimate like that with. I guess I’m embarrassed. I don’t know what I looked like and I’m embarassed I didn’t look perfect and that’s apart of why he broke up with me. I don’t know why my brain is doing this. I hate this
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I’m really anxious because I know my ocd is really bad right now so I shouldn’t try to figure it out cause my thinking is a mess but I’ve been having feelings of like I’m not sure if I love him anymore or worrying that I haven’t felt a lot like numb (a lot because ocd has been getting worse and worse) and thinking of like how I’ve been focusing on the negatives and only been looking at him through that lens and analyzing and also feeling like I don’t want this anymore. Basically just like negative thinking in feeling like I’m really scared it’s that it’s I don’t love him cause I don’t want it to be over and the thought of having someone replace him makes me ill. But like it feels like I’m not seeing him how I used to and it makes me upset. Today I was near someone I was like oh this person is cute and then I was thinking that the possibility of meeting someone new sounds exciting and now I’m freaking out because this in combination with feeling like maybe I don’t love him anymore is bad. Also my thoughts keep changing. and like sometimes it feels like I don’t care at all and this has happened but like worst it’s ever been and then other times I’m like I do care I do still feel. I’m just really anxious has anyone else felt this before and it was still ocd? 😭😭
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