- Username
- bluebell
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hi! I’ve struggled with anorexia in the past so I totally get you. I would recommend u to eat whenever you feel hungry. Go make a sandwich eat some cereal. Your body needs fuel and even if u are gonna have dinner later, eat a little snack rn! You deserve it! Ik it’s hard when there’s a little voice telling u not to eat, but you are stronger than that voice.
It sounds like your mom's comment was very invalidating. I'm so sorry she said that to you. You sound like you were very in tune with what your body needed and you considered the fact that you've hardly had anything to eat today. No one should ever try and tell someone that they don't feel something that they do. You feel hungry, and no one else can tell you whether you do or not. That is only your feeling to have. I hope you continue to be kind to yourself and don't let the invalidation of others hinder your progress. Keep taking care of you ♡
I’m so sorry your mum was so dismissive. Just because someone dismisses your reality, doesn’t make your reality any less real. You are in control and you know what’s best for your body.
Heat often causes myself and my family to lose our appetites! I think it’s common. Eat when you’re hungry, follow your bodily cues (given theyre back to normal now that you’ve gone through disordered eating). Sometimes we’re just not hungry and I myself have to accept this as well before I panic. It’s unfair for your mom to put a timeline on when you’re hungry as everyone’s body is different. Could you make something yourself for dinner? Or have a snack before it’s made? Eating when you’re hungry is important. You’ve got this!
Content note: disordered eating Seeking advice I've gained some weight during the lockdown and it's causing me considerable distress. Food and weight are on my mind all the time and I've started obsessively counting calories and weighing myself. I know this is a really dangerous slope but don't really know how to deal with this theme. I'm really distressed about how out of control I am of my own body. Any advice on stopping this in its tracks would be greatly appreciated ?
Possible trigger warning if anyone else has an ED. I saw a post online that basically said if you cant have a restrictive eating disorder without being fatphobic. I have Anorexia, struggled with it for years. I truly believe in beauty at every size and eating what you want, I've never been the type of person to judge others for their bodies or what they eat. I would never look down on someone for their weight and I hate it when other people with my disorder shame people for being overweight or use it to 'encourage' themselves. I do have an unexplainable fear of gaining weight but that unfortunately just comes with the illness and i only ever apply these standards to myself. There's even been times I wished more people could think more like me so that I wouldn't be insecure about gaining weight. I genuienly dont equate weight to anyone's worth, to me it's just a number until I'm the one on the scale. My OCD is telling me now that by struggling an ED i hate fat people or am being offensive. That I should force myself to eat even though it makes me anxious and it's not something I can just force myself to do. I've been in this horrible limbo all day with my mind on whether or not just being sick makes me a terrible person. :') I hate OCD.
Whenever my mom thinks I’m trying to argue on purpose, that makes me think “what if I am?” “What if I’m just a baby who can’t take what she said”. I feel scared. I just disagreed with her when she told me not to wash my clothes with my work clothes because they’ll smell bad and I disagreed because she’s never said a word about this for years but two years before she told me not to wash them separately because that’s wasting electricity. So, her shutting me down by saying “don’t argue with me” makes no sense to me but at the same I feel like “does this make sense though? What if I’m just an asshole to her?” Then before she got irritated with me when I was about to throw away expired lemonade but she was the one who yelled at me by saying “if you’re not having it just throw it away!” Like I honestly don’t know what she wants me to do anymore!!!!! Sometimes when changes their mind or something, I keep feeling like “what if I’m schizophrenic and I just thought that had happened” or “what if I’m crazy” or “why am I upset by this? What if they didn’t change their mind and I’m just thinking something else” My parents getting irritated with me makes me feel like I’ve done so much wrong and I end up losing my motivation but that makes me feel even more gross because I’m not bothering to wash the dishes now..
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