I’ve struggled with disorderly eating in the past (I.e. avoiding meals, feeling guilty about eating, becoming very thin, etc). Luckily I was able to get it under control, and I’m okay now. It’s hot, and my family are in bad moods because of the heat. I had my lunch at 12, and it’s like quarter to 6 as I write this. I’ve not snacked, and I literally had a piece of toast for my lunch, and no breakfast. I asked my family when they were going to make dinner, and my mum scowled at me and was like, ‘how are you hungry?’… I was shocked and said that I’ve literally only ate a piece of toast, and I said that was nearly 6 hours ago, and she just looks at me and goes, ‘Why does everything have to be on a timeline with you?’ I don’t ever talk about ‘times’, so she’s clearly just trying to find something to justify why she’s so angry for no reason. Anyway, I know this is irrational but I can feel some of my old thoughts and feelings sneaking in…, like, ‘maybe you shouldn’t be hungry’, ‘maybe you’ve gained weight, that’s why she’s saying that’, etc. I don’t know… can someone give me some advice?

Hi! I’ve struggled with anorexia in the past so I totally get you. I would recommend u to eat whenever you feel hungry. Go make a sandwich eat some cereal. Your body needs fuel and even if u are gonna have dinner later, eat a little snack rn! You deserve it! Ik it’s hard when there’s a little voice telling u not to eat, but you are stronger than that voice.

It sounds like your mom's comment was very invalidating. I'm so sorry she said that to you. You sound like you were very in tune with what your body needed and you considered the fact that you've hardly had anything to eat today. No one should ever try and tell someone that they don't feel something that they do. You feel hungry, and no one else can tell you whether you do or not. That is only your feeling to have. I hope you continue to be kind to yourself and don't let the invalidation of others hinder your progress. Keep taking care of you ♡

I’m so sorry your mum was so dismissive. Just because someone dismisses your reality, doesn’t make your reality any less real. You are in control and you know what’s best for your body.

Heat often causes myself and my family to lose our appetites! I think it’s common. Eat when you’re hungry, follow your bodily cues (given theyre back to normal now that you’ve gone through disordered eating). Sometimes we’re just not hungry and I myself have to accept this as well before I panic. It’s unfair for your mom to put a timeline on when you’re hungry as everyone’s body is different. Could you make something yourself for dinner? Or have a snack before it’s made? Eating when you’re hungry is important. You’ve got this!