Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
K K
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y ago
If you are going to tell your parents that you aren’t straight in hopes that it’ll take away the discomfort and provide relief, you’ll find that if there is any relief it’ll be temporary and the OCD will come back torment you. If you are thinking about telling your parents about your Sexual Orientation OCD and informing them of your mental struggles for support, by all means do so. Be careful though because your parents might provide you unintentional reassurance about sexuality and in turn make the OCD worse. Your goal should be learn to deal with the uncertainty about your sexuality and all discomfort and distress whether it be thoughts, emotions, sensations, or what have you that bothers you.
Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
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- 3y ago
Well said!
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
I'm just not sure who I am anymore. I keep getting thoughts like I want a boyfriend etc.... 😕. Not sure if it's real or not just feels me full of anxiety
Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
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- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 It’s also ok to not always be 100% sure what your sexuality is. Always checking your sexuality is a compulsion. You get to choose to sexuality. OCD makes us think we have to know what we feel and what we feel always means something when in reality it doesn’t.
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
@Jon w/ OCD My gf went down my phone and found all of the messages from me and my therapist. And she said she can't continue when I have this going on and said I've ruined her life and should have told her I had this going on. I have 2 children with her but she said I've dragged them into this mess 😔
Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
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- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 That’s really hard. I can’t imagine how hard that is for you. I was fortunate enough to have learned about my OCD before my marriage and my wife is supportive, but it took her sometime to really understand. We watched tons of videos, read lots of research, etc. This sounds really hard
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
@Jon w/ OCD I just don't think this is ocd anymore. Before I thought I had all the symptoms but it just feels like real feelings etc. When I think of women it feels like I don't like there virginas
Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
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- 3y ago
This is such a hard thing to deal with. It’s also hard because most people don’t understand what the true definition of OCD is, especially what SO-OCD is. It may be helpful to sit down with your parents and watch an informational video of what SO-OCD is and explain to them how you feel. Here is an example of a great video on SO-OCD https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/talking-sexual-orientation-ocd-with-dr-steven-phillipson
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
Thanks mate 👍
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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- 3y ago
Don't tell them. Unfortunately I have been there where (before I even knew what HOCD was), I did some confessing--multiple times lmao--and it provided temporary relief...key word being temporary. It was a compulsion, I did it purely because I couldn't sit with the discomfort. Don't be like me 😂
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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- 3y ago
I also did it after I knew what HOCD was, us obsessive compulsives have to learn to deal with anxiety and discomfort
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
@alexisrae1999 But it feels so real and as if I want to be with a man. It just upsets so much. Because I loved women so much. I've had this since the age of 22 of 38 now and now it's just like I'm gay
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 You don't have to prove to anyone, or even yourself that you are straight, gay, or bi. I really feel bad that you've been suffering for so long, please do not prolong your suffering by looking for answers. We all wish we could have answers, but our brains are different from neurotypicals. I am also sad about my situation, but giving in to the compulsions, confessing, reassurance asking, etc will dig us deeper into our ocd :(
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
@alexisrae1999 I don't know what to do. All I do is think of this and men all the time I can't focus on anything else 😔
lt3lt3
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- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 The more you analyze it the deeper it takes you into believing it.
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
@lewthompson3 My mind is telling me I want to be with a man and like penises. This is something that is new to my hocd and happened last August and has ruined my life.
lt3lt3
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- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 Have you talked to a therapist and learned of ways to handle OCD?
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
@lt3 I just don't think it is ocd anymore maybe I used to believe that but now I don't. My mind is telling me I want to be with a man etc...
bdkbdk
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- 3y ago
i did this and I felt zero relief. it actually made me feel worse, and i back-tracked almost immediately and instead just told my mom i was very confused and obsessed with figuring my sexuality out.
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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- 3y ago
Read my comment above tho mate ? 😔
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- 24w ago
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