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- Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- K K
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
If you are going to tell your parents that you aren’t straight in hopes that it’ll take away the discomfort and provide relief, you’ll find that if there is any relief it’ll be temporary and the OCD will come back torment you. If you are thinking about telling your parents about your Sexual Orientation OCD and informing them of your mental struggles for support, by all means do so. Be careful though because your parents might provide you unintentional reassurance about sexuality and in turn make the OCD worse. Your goal should be learn to deal with the uncertainty about your sexuality and all discomfort and distress whether it be thoughts, emotions, sensations, or what have you that bothers you.
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- Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Well said!
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I'm just not sure who I am anymore. I keep getting thoughts like I want a boyfriend etc.... 😕. Not sure if it's real or not just feels me full of anxiety
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- Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 It’s also ok to not always be 100% sure what your sexuality is. Always checking your sexuality is a compulsion. You get to choose to sexuality. OCD makes us think we have to know what we feel and what we feel always means something when in reality it doesn’t.
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Jon w/ OCD My gf went down my phone and found all of the messages from me and my therapist. And she said she can't continue when I have this going on and said I've ruined her life and should have told her I had this going on. I have 2 children with her but she said I've dragged them into this mess 😔
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- Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 That’s really hard. I can’t imagine how hard that is for you. I was fortunate enough to have learned about my OCD before my marriage and my wife is supportive, but it took her sometime to really understand. We watched tons of videos, read lots of research, etc. This sounds really hard
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Jon w/ OCD I just don't think this is ocd anymore. Before I thought I had all the symptoms but it just feels like real feelings etc. When I think of women it feels like I don't like there virginas
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- Jon w/ OCDJon w/ OCD
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is such a hard thing to deal with. It’s also hard because most people don’t understand what the true definition of OCD is, especially what SO-OCD is. It may be helpful to sit down with your parents and watch an informational video of what SO-OCD is and explain to them how you feel. Here is an example of a great video on SO-OCD https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/talking-sexual-orientation-ocd-with-dr-steven-phillipson
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thanks mate 👍
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- alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Don't tell them. Unfortunately I have been there where (before I even knew what HOCD was), I did some confessing--multiple times lmao--and it provided temporary relief...key word being temporary. It was a compulsion, I did it purely because I couldn't sit with the discomfort. Don't be like me 😂
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- alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I also did it after I knew what HOCD was, us obsessive compulsives have to learn to deal with anxiety and discomfort
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@alexisrae1999 But it feels so real and as if I want to be with a man. It just upsets so much. Because I loved women so much. I've had this since the age of 22 of 38 now and now it's just like I'm gay
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- alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 You don't have to prove to anyone, or even yourself that you are straight, gay, or bi. I really feel bad that you've been suffering for so long, please do not prolong your suffering by looking for answers. We all wish we could have answers, but our brains are different from neurotypicals. I am also sad about my situation, but giving in to the compulsions, confessing, reassurance asking, etc will dig us deeper into our ocd :(
- Username
- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@alexisrae1999 I don't know what to do. All I do is think of this and men all the time I can't focus on anything else 😔
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- lt3lt3
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 The more you analyze it the deeper it takes you into believing it.
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@lewthompson3 My mind is telling me I want to be with a man and like penises. This is something that is new to my hocd and happened last August and has ruined my life.
- Username
- lt3lt3
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Ihateocd83 Have you talked to a therapist and learned of ways to handle OCD?
- Username
- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@lt3 I just don't think it is ocd anymore maybe I used to believe that but now I don't. My mind is telling me I want to be with a man etc...
- Username
- bdkbdk
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i did this and I felt zero relief. it actually made me feel worse, and i back-tracked almost immediately and instead just told my mom i was very confused and obsessed with figuring my sexuality out.
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- Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Read my comment above tho mate ? 😔
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- mindsplayint...
- Date posted
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- idont241
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I have a question for anyone that’s been going through HOCD or any mental illness. If any when they were about to tell their loved ones that they were dealing with ocd did it kind of feel like they were actually like coming out of the closet or something? Because like you know you aren’t gay you know you just want to tell people about your ocd, but for some reason it feels like you might be coming out as gay when that is not the case.
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- Ocdsuxs
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’ve lost my interest in men. I’ve been telling myself what if I’m gay for over a year now and I feel like I’m gay now. I feel like my biggest worry is coming out now. In my religion and culture it’s wrong and I don’t want it. It all started as a movie scene last year. I’ve accepted it I’ve given up. I feel like I’ve been in denial the past a year. I’m on tinder looking at girls now cause I don’t know anymore. Now I can’t seem to find someone I’m interested in I can’t see myself kissing a girl or sleeping with one. I just truly believe I’m gay and I have to call my mom and come out. I want to cry. I’m nervous idk what’s real. Am I gay? Or is this ocd? Am I bi? Should I come out? Was my life a lie? Am I in denial cause it’s unacceptable? Will my parents love me? If I’m worried about them then it’s cause I’m in denial right? Ugh I want to die.
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