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No its not personal at all, some people love and support you but don't have the brain power or time to give you all the comfort or solutions you need. She's trying to set a boundary that its not something she can talk through so thoroughly or provide you with help, and we have to respect that.
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No it actually wasn't that way. I have another friend who acts in that way and I learned to respect that as I got to understand it by time. But this friend was trying to one up, because she does it in other topics as well. I shouldn't have shared my experience with her but I was in a bad mental space I was talking to her so it sort of just happened.
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@not_me Oh I'm sorry, I read it as "I have many things to do". sometimes mental illness makes people have an ego about it , it's a weird phenomenon im sorry she's like that.
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@whatadooo Np, I actually had this problem with my other friend. It wasn't OCD related but she couldn't tell me what to do about my problems and I thought she didn't care and had a whole fight about but she just didn't know how to express herself so I got to learn to respect people's boundaries now. But today was kind of difficult especially beacuse OCD's favourite lie is to tell you that you don't have it. We'll get through this though ❤
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I lost a friend because of this because I kept telling them about my ocd once I initially opened up and didn't realize these little signs of them trying to set a boundary, some friends are just meant to be friends for other life things, not our journals for ocd. I didn't realize till a year later thats why they had stopped talking to me, they had too much on their own plate to help with mine.
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Told my close friend about how I think I have harm ocd and showed a video describing her experience with it so I wouldn’t have to share mine. Told him how when I see the number 22 I get paranoid that I’ll harm someone, and he gave me advice to go to a psychiatrist then left me on read after we were having a conversation prior. I’m so scared to open up to people about it and now I don’t think I will again.
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I've opened up recently to my boyfriend about my ocd itself: he knew I had it, just didnt rlly understanded it. Today, I was feeling really awful because of my incest ocd, and the toughts were awful, so I decided to open up. BAD IDEA! he said it was ok and stuff but he also said he did not understand: he is, fairly, disgusted. Plus, he knowns my relatives, which probably made him even more sick. Im so sad, he is now more disgusted by me, and I am too.
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My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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