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Just remember that your end goal is not to remove the thoughts, but to be able to acknowledge that they are just thoughts and not be bothered by them - which incidentally does not mean becoming okay with the nature of the thoughts, eg, if you are scared you will murder someone, accepting the intrusive thought will NOT make you a murderer or make you okay with murder - it just means you aren’t attaching meaning or anxiety to your thoughts. Hope that made sense ?
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Don’t listen to the above. You do get over HOCD, but it’s more about overcoming than “getting over”. For me I just let every thought go into my head as if they were normal thoughts. Like if I thought about my daily life. And if I’m anxious I try and go about my day or if I’m home I lie down and try and calm down or I just play fortnite or something or watch YouTube. So far I’ve gotten a lot of intense feelings of attraction for men that come in for awhile and then out again. But that in itself is progress and all I need.
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You get over it by ERP
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Tons of people have gotten over it, and you can too. The best thing you can do right now is aggressively look for an ERP specialist
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Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.
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Hi all, I deal with HOCD and been seeing a therapist for about 3.5 months. It has definitely got better but still affects me very much. Was wondering there is anyone out there who has dealt with HOCD as well and has recovered. I would love to message or even chat just see how your experience was and hear what was beneficial to you.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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