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You could explain to him the issue if you’re comfortable. OCD makes it feel like it’s something wrong with him but it’s not.
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I’ve been there. I couldn’t tell whether it was my relationship OCD or whether he actually wasn’t “the one.” I still don’t know. Loosing your libido is very normal after awhile but if that frightens you, you could talk to him about it. I suggest talking out of any other option. He can get to know you and how your brain is working so he can recognize when something is wrong. It’s extremely difficult and scary but it’s something you’re strong enough to do.
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I fear that he will misunderstand my OCD for doubting the relationship
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Thanks for making me feel understood
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@Anonymous I was scared of that too. I didnt tell him the most gruesome parts of my OCD. For example, I wouldn’t tell him how I always questioned if the relationship was wrong, or how I could never stop questioning if I actually liked him. You do want to spare them in some way so that you don’t hurt them. Unless there is a fundamental issue, don’t tell them about the doubts that OCD feeds you. Explain to him how OCD makes you feel, and don’t over load. Give him a chance to ask questions if he wants
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I just watched a video on how to tell whether something is relationship OCD or wisdom, and it named traits that show you it’s wisdom (e.g. that it will always be a quiet voice in the back of your mind) and now I’m spiraling and convincing myself that it really is wisdom and not OCD. It’s the same pattern with every episode: I tell myself that THIS TIME it’s real, because some part feels different than last time and thus is not OCD.
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I needed to get this off my chest. Glad if anyone can help.
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You could show him a video. Awaken into love on YouTube has a video for the partners so someone with ROCD
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For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
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my relationship ocd theme is back and it hasn’t for a while. i keep having intrusive thoughts about a friend even tho i have a boyfriend of 6 years. i like do not like this person they are good looking but im not like into them. i like feel guilty for no reason and i feel like i need to tell my boyfriend even tho like we’ve been through this before and it only gets better if i tell him but if i don’t i feel like im hiding something. AHH like i don’t even wanna see that person anymore
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