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Thank you for this. Mine is slowly relapsing I think, and I’ve always hated how people react to this. I’m honestly scared to talk about my SOOCD with people I trust, because I’m afraid they’ll tell me I’m gay/bi/pan/etc. I don’t want to be gay- it’s something that just doesn’t seem to fit with me, and I’m scared that my life is a lie and that I’m a lie and that I’m gay- Sorry for the rant I totally agree with this 💛
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Felt that
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👏 This, this, this. I feel like SOOCD has less of a black and white morality standing in terms of right and wrong and therefore people LOVE to jump to conclusions and project their sexual orientation onto people. I connect so much to the fears you've stated like losing your partner or losing your identity. There's so much more to SOOCD than gay or not or straight or not and it needs to just as validated as the other themes.
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YES. this comment brought me peace thank you
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I dont even feel like Im losing a part of my identitt anymore, just feels like this is my real one
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ALSO I just wish we changed the way we talk about it in general. Like being more neutral and really emphasizing SOOCD instead of HOCD to be more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ that have this theme because anyone can have it about being any sexuality. I assume they feel kind of left out in the conversation because a lot of rhetoric and resources exclude them. I think being more inclusive about it would help change the idea that it only impacts heterosexual people who fear being exclusively homosexual (which carries a LOT of negative connotations with it that get generalized to this form of OCD) and hopefully showing people it impacts everyone and cannot be generalized to whatever people assume with HOCD. Also talking more about how it really has nothing to do with sexuality. I sometimes get caught up in the thoughts and how real/literal it seems that I forget that I don’t technically have sexuality problem. I have a core fear and an identity problem. We all do. It’s just that our OCD really chose to fixate on sexuality for whatever reason. I think breaking down this OCD into core fears and identity can help reduce some of the stigma that comes with people assuming it is about sexuality. Anyway that’s my continued vent I guess.
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Yes. 💚💚💚💚
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Ugh yes mine is slowly coming back
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I have similar thoughts regarding gender identity OCD.
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Agreed!!
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- 24w ago
Does anyone with so ocd get scared or feel like they r just going to suddenly realise they r gay. Like all of a sudden you’ll be like omg I’m gay and then I get scared like ong it’s happening to me Can any relate to this
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Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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Lately, I have been able to manage my OCD thoughts kind of. They’re still there but I kind of push them away? I know that pushing them away doesn’t help but it’s been my only way to survive. I get scared often about things like clothes or my voice or how I present myself. I get scared that I want to dress differently or act differently and it scares me. I know for a fact I don’t want boobs or anything like that, but my mind constantly is like “What if?” and it kills me. It has ruined everything for me. Sometimes I can’t even look in the mirror because I get scared that I won’t like what I see. I’ve also been afraid because I find myself relating to many female characters, or I want to act like them. Like Pearl from Steven Universe. I want to be graceful and elegant like her, but I don’t want to be a girl you know? My mind constantly pushes these thoughts of what if and images. Because I am not like most guys. Which I know is okay. It just freaks me out. It makes me question every aspect of my being. I know who I am, but I know that the only way to move forward is to accept that maybe I don’t.. It’s just a lot.
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