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Thank you for this. Mine is slowly relapsing I think, and I’ve always hated how people react to this. I’m honestly scared to talk about my SOOCD with people I trust, because I’m afraid they’ll tell me I’m gay/bi/pan/etc. I don’t want to be gay- it’s something that just doesn’t seem to fit with me, and I’m scared that my life is a lie and that I’m a lie and that I’m gay- Sorry for the rant I totally agree with this 💛
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Felt that
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👏 This, this, this. I feel like SOOCD has less of a black and white morality standing in terms of right and wrong and therefore people LOVE to jump to conclusions and project their sexual orientation onto people. I connect so much to the fears you've stated like losing your partner or losing your identity. There's so much more to SOOCD than gay or not or straight or not and it needs to just as validated as the other themes.
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YES. this comment brought me peace thank you
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I dont even feel like Im losing a part of my identitt anymore, just feels like this is my real one
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ALSO I just wish we changed the way we talk about it in general. Like being more neutral and really emphasizing SOOCD instead of HOCD to be more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ that have this theme because anyone can have it about being any sexuality. I assume they feel kind of left out in the conversation because a lot of rhetoric and resources exclude them. I think being more inclusive about it would help change the idea that it only impacts heterosexual people who fear being exclusively homosexual (which carries a LOT of negative connotations with it that get generalized to this form of OCD) and hopefully showing people it impacts everyone and cannot be generalized to whatever people assume with HOCD. Also talking more about how it really has nothing to do with sexuality. I sometimes get caught up in the thoughts and how real/literal it seems that I forget that I don’t technically have sexuality problem. I have a core fear and an identity problem. We all do. It’s just that our OCD really chose to fixate on sexuality for whatever reason. I think breaking down this OCD into core fears and identity can help reduce some of the stigma that comes with people assuming it is about sexuality. Anyway that’s my continued vent I guess.
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Yes. 💚💚💚💚
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Ugh yes mine is slowly coming back
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I have similar thoughts regarding gender identity OCD.
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Agreed!!
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- 20w
Lately I’ve seen way too many comments under posts about OCD, especially the harm, POCD, and relationship themes that are incredibly misinformed and honestly harmful. People saying things like “these thoughts are unnatural,”or “you need to go get real help” and encouraging confession ***compulsions*** when they clearly have no understanding of how OCD actually works. Let me be clear: OCD involves distressing and unwanted thoughts, images, or urges. That doesn’t make someone dangerous. It makes them someone with a mental illness who is terrified of their own brain. Saying these people are “unnatural” or implying they’re broken only reinforces shame, and shame is the opposite of what helps anyone heal. If you’re commenting under OCD-related posts on an OCD ***app*** without understanding what intrusive thoughts are, or what compulsions can look like, or **how OCD can attach itself to the things we fear most** then please, stop. You are not helping. You’re reinforcing stigma and pushing people further into silence. OCD is already isolating. We don’t need more people moralizing or projecting trauma theory onto something they haven’t experienced or don’t understand. If you really care, go learn. Read about intrusive thoughts. Learn about ERP therapy. Or maybe just listen. Because some of us are barely hanging on, and comments like those don’t just miss the point, they can do real damage. I’m sorry if I come off too angry, it just really upsets me to see people speak on something they clearly don’t understand. End of rant. Thank you for reading 🤍
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I’ve seen so many online posts where people say their SOOCD fears became true. I can’t stop having anxiety over this. And I don’t understand how people are so “supportive” over this? Cause have it been POCD or HARM OCD fears becoming true none of y’all would’ve reacted the same way. - It makes me loose so much hope. How am I supposed to go back to my real old self when I’ve read information like this? It was so comforting knowing that these intrusive thoughts were just OCD, that they were EGO DYSTONIC, that they are unlikely to happen and that erp will fix everything. HELLO? How will I believe this information when I’ve seen people becoming their worst fears (soocd)? I swear I hate this SO much. I just want to love men like I’ve always did. I hate ocd and these people posting shit like that -
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I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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