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- 2y ago
I was just reading an article about taking back your power from fear. This is a quote from that article I really like - “Years ago, I truly thought others held the power to my happiness, a belief system that was born out of fear.” Sometimes I can feel triggered by others’ emotions or can feel alone if I don’t have my supports physically around me. But we have to come to realize that we do have the power to be our own safety and security. Of course having supports is important, but you CAN do this! One step at a time. Luckily there are things you can do to prepare for living alone if you choose to do so, like coming up with safety plans or figuring out coping skills to use when you’re alone. Hey, living alone can be kind of nice sometimes too! You can take a nap whenever you want for however long you want, watch your own shows, and eat what you want. It isn’t all so bad. Especially if your support system is there for you outside of your home! Hope this helps.
Thank you so much. I'm just scared about the future.
Im 22 and live with my parents too man, and it makes me feel extremely guilty that im unable to do anything productive anymore and support them back.
I’m 19 and don’t have a job, I know I’m in school and my mom says that’s enough, but I feel terrible, because I want to go out and do things, but need to ask for permission and money. It feels awful, I try my best to keep the house clean and help her with whatever, but I feel awful for it. I can’t get a job without social security and need to wait for a work permit, but I hate feeling like a burden, I just want to help her financially and any way I can. I totally understand where you’re coming from, I’ve avoided watching movies and all that for the same reason, to avoid anything that may trigger my OCD themes, it’s incredibly difficult
I'm 27, living with my parents (cause with depression and eating disorders, it's not possible for me to live alone for the moment) and I can understand this feeling of guilt. OCD makes things worse but I try my best not to judge myself. After all, I've never asked to suffer from these diseases and I try my best to recover from all of that. It's extremely exhausting and painful so, I try to be respectful towards me. Also, I think it's important not to compare yourself to others who don't live with their parents, maybe have a job... Because we all have different roads and we don't experience the same thing. Be kind to yourself. You are a warrior by fighting your demons in your head aka OCD. And about the fact of living without your parents in the future, I can get that fear. It's totally understandable and valid to feel this. Take your time, think about all the little steps you do every day. Prioritize your health (mental, physical and spiritual). We never know what can happen in the future (even if OCD can sometimes try to make us feel otherwise) so, even if it's extremely easy to say it : don't focus your mind on the future because it makes you forget the present (I sometimes worry about the future too, so I get you. My comment isn't a judgment about you.) 🙏🏻 I do hope things will get better for you. Take care. 💚
I live in NYC - I’m 29 and was diagnosed with ocd over ten years ago. I came home during quarantine to make sure my parents are okay and spend quality time since we don’t normally get this time. (Please know, I quarantined for over three weeks before seeing them to make sure I wasn’t infecting them) I told them that I am going to go back to my apt in nyc at some point in May and they FREAKED out. There are multiple reasons I would like to be back in my own apartment, but the main one is my ocd is getting worse out here. The routine is crucial and being in my own home is what I think will be mentally the healthiest choice for me. They don’t understand and I’ve tried to explain numerous times. I’m the youngest and will always be the “baby” - even though I’m almost 30. They worry it’s too dangerous, but it’s just as dangerous where we are now as well. I am so lucky I have my parents and that we were able to spend this time together and I love them so much, but I’m an adult and feel I need to set boundaries for what’s best for me. Does this make sense or am I crazy?? Help??!! My brain is out of control right now.
Hello everyone. This fall I plan to move out of my parents house and live on my own. I’m extremely nervous about this. I feel like when I’m alone my thoughts and obsessions and anxiety get worse, and also a lot of the times I’m in such a bad place I can’t drive myself anywhere or feel safe anywhere, so I rely on my parents and my friends to drive me places or I won’t get out at all. Is it a bad idea to move out of my childhood home if I can barely do anything without extreme anxiety? I just don’t know what to do. I know I can live here forever and I have to move out eventually, but I feel like I’ll never really be ready.
I am 19 years old and Latino . I am also gay and live with strict conservative catholic parents. A while back when I came terms with ocd and had the realization, I decided to open up to my parents about my mental health. Let’s just say things didn’t turn out as expected , both unfortunately didn’t believe me . Also, theh believed it had to do with me being on my phone too much that I wanna believe anything I see . Neither of em wanted to listen to me . Mom said she’s sees me just fine . It was so deliberating and everything felt so collapsing because I felt anxious to tell them ebeytjjng about it , but they didn’t want to hear . So, ever since I haven’t mentioned it to them considering that . Over the past couple of months , they haven’t been so strict on me for things I didn’t want to join in on. She’s very pressuring srill about going to church and her religion. I do believe in God, but I do not interpret God way they do. I believe God loves me even if I’m gay. They will not ever accept me if I come out and I feel so alone because not only do I have to hide myself, but I have to live with this mental disorder they don’t believe of and/or know of and think I’m simply being lazy . I just want boundaries - they can treat me and view me as a child still🤷🏾♂️I want to become an independent adult . My goal rn is to get my drivers license and buy my car. But I literally know notning bout adult life . I am nervous, scared , worried...I do not want to rely on my parenrts all time and live with them . Everything is so hard rnn. Ocd is the one factor to all my problems .
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