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- 3y
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
I was just reading an article about taking back your power from fear. This is a quote from that article I really like - “Years ago, I truly thought others held the power to my happiness, a belief system that was born out of fear.” Sometimes I can feel triggered by others’ emotions or can feel alone if I don’t have my supports physically around me. But we have to come to realize that we do have the power to be our own safety and security. Of course having supports is important, but you CAN do this! One step at a time. Luckily there are things you can do to prepare for living alone if you choose to do so, like coming up with safety plans or figuring out coping skills to use when you’re alone. Hey, living alone can be kind of nice sometimes too! You can take a nap whenever you want for however long you want, watch your own shows, and eat what you want. It isn’t all so bad. Especially if your support system is there for you outside of your home! Hope this helps.
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- 3y
Thank you so much. I'm just scared about the future.
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- 3y
Im 22 and live with my parents too man, and it makes me feel extremely guilty that im unable to do anything productive anymore and support them back.
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- 3y
I’m 19 and don’t have a job, I know I’m in school and my mom says that’s enough, but I feel terrible, because I want to go out and do things, but need to ask for permission and money. It feels awful, I try my best to keep the house clean and help her with whatever, but I feel awful for it. I can’t get a job without social security and need to wait for a work permit, but I hate feeling like a burden, I just want to help her financially and any way I can. I totally understand where you’re coming from, I’ve avoided watching movies and all that for the same reason, to avoid anything that may trigger my OCD themes, it’s incredibly difficult
- Date posted
- 3y
I'm 27, living with my parents (cause with depression and eating disorders, it's not possible for me to live alone for the moment) and I can understand this feeling of guilt. OCD makes things worse but I try my best not to judge myself. After all, I've never asked to suffer from these diseases and I try my best to recover from all of that. It's extremely exhausting and painful so, I try to be respectful towards me. Also, I think it's important not to compare yourself to others who don't live with their parents, maybe have a job... Because we all have different roads and we don't experience the same thing. Be kind to yourself. You are a warrior by fighting your demons in your head aka OCD. And about the fact of living without your parents in the future, I can get that fear. It's totally understandable and valid to feel this. Take your time, think about all the little steps you do every day. Prioritize your health (mental, physical and spiritual). We never know what can happen in the future (even if OCD can sometimes try to make us feel otherwise) so, even if it's extremely easy to say it : don't focus your mind on the future because it makes you forget the present (I sometimes worry about the future too, so I get you. My comment isn't a judgment about you.) 🙏🏻 I do hope things will get better for you. Take care. 💚
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- 24w
It's been a year since I've been able to stay home alone. I don't know how to fight this. I feel like the world will collapse on me. That the house will cave in. Or I'll just lose my mind and scream and run outside screaming and saying the world is falling type thing. I don't know how to help myself. I'm to scared to even try to be alone. I have to have my son 18 stay home with me or my aunt stay with me when my son does leave. It's horrible. I feel like I'm holding my son back from so much. I don't know how to beat this. Please help
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- 24w
back in october i made my first post about my specific type of ocd, how it mixes in with my day to day and how i “deal” with it. i talked about the starting point, how it gradually got worse, and then how it was going just a few months ago. i always think it’s insane how much can change in just the course of a small to a large amount of time. right now, i honestly feel like garbage. to be quite sincere i really want to give up, i’m barely holding on by a thread. and if i cut that thread, i really doubt anyone would care. i’ve never considered myself to be a suicidal person, and i still don’t consider myself that right now. it just gets to a point where it’s just, a lot to deal with. i don’t really enjoy things a lot nowadays. sure i have good days like everyone does, like today, when i was just enjoying my day without worries. but then it all comes crawling back twice as bad the following days. i take online college so i’m usually just stuck at home most of the time. but, when i do decide to actually go out and leave my house, my ocd just explodes because i have this whole routine i need to do or else i feel like i’ll contaminate wherever i end up going. i’m not going to go really deep into my compulsions because it’s hard enough to live with them, much more having to type them all out in detail. but when i go out my compulsions go from wiping down all my stuff i’m going to use after showering, to washing my clothes/cleaning the washer + dryer. i also have separate things (or two of the same thing) i use specifically in my house, and items i use when going out. such as shampoo/body wash, deodorant, lotion, hair curler, etc. as if that’s not draining enough, i also feel the need to fast a couple days prior to any plan i make because i’ve forced myself to believe i need to feel empty in order to be clean. i’m not sure if that’s my past eating disorder talking, or my ocd, but my brain can’t help but think any food in my house is utterly and completely contaminated. i’m so tired of this feeling, feeling like nothing will ever be clean again. feeling like my ocd is trapped in my childhood home. feeling that wave of diseases rushing through my veins the moment i step foot into what’s supposed to be “home”. and i’m so scared of therapy because what if i do get healed, and then everything comes rushing back the second i step into my room. i’m planning on moving somewhere far from my current house in this next coming year, so sometimes i feel like just waiting it out. but it’s insufferable when going to hangout with someone. i miss my friends, my family, and my partner. it’s crazy to me that i’m dealing with all this at the young age of 18 but, i’m sure lots of people have it way worse. i just want to find a way out, any possible way. but i keep pushing myself deeper and deeper that when i finally find a way, it will no longer exist.
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- 18w
I just found out today that a family friend will be staying over at my house (I live with my parents) for a night. And I have contamination ocd and that’s causing me anxiety. I fear that her being here will contaminate my home, which is like my safe place. It’s hard just sitting with the anxiety. I want this day to be over! Does anyone have anything to support me? Thanks
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