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pretty sure that’s a concern any girl would have, ocd or not
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you should draw boundaries in the relarionship
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I don't want to tell him that he can't talk to his friends or anything though yk :(? They helped him/still help him a lot with his mental health, they just happened to have sex in the past. I know their relationship isn't like that anymore but I can't stop thinking about it and imagining them together
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@dandelion2002 Why not? You deserve to have your feelings considered. If it makes you uncomfortable tell him to try being friends with people he’s NOT intimate with
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@Bookworm91 I should clarify he was intimate with them in the past, not during our relationship (although ocd is ofc trying to tell me different D: )
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@dandelion2002 It doesn’t matter. It’s one thing to be civil or even friendly with ex’s. But to be best friends with someone you’ve had sex with is not a good idea. It’s the whole best friends thing that’s getting me. If he really cared he’d stop being that close with them
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I feel like I should give a little more context into this situation. Idk if it would affect your opinions to say he's bi(I am too) and makes friends with girls much easier. It's also important to say that they were some of his best friends and main supporters during his first cancer diagnosis. He's now on his third diagnosis and I feel like the most awful person on the planet for having rocd while he's going through this. I don't want to tell him that he can't have support from people who help him so much while he's going through this
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I guess you’re just a better person then me. I wouldn’t feel bad at all and I hate on those bitches with every fiber of my soul. Id refuse to be in the room with them and wait for them to leave before visiting. that would be the extent and even then I’d probably just be pissed that he’d need support from people he previously had sex with at that kind of level. More power to you. I couldn’t do it
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yes but still, any girl would feel wary about that. you shouldn’t feel weird for that making you uncomfortable.
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I have plenty of friends who are still friends or even roommates with people they used to sleep with or casually date, who now have new partners and no romantic feelings anymore for each other. i think it’s very possible for adults to be just friends, and I’ve always hated when people told me that my guy friends were secretly in love with me like ?? especially if ur partner is bi I don’t think it’s weird at all but I can understand why you would be nervous!
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Oh god I'd be very uncomfortable with that too..
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Why am I so curious about my bf’s sexual past … I know the amount of people he’s been with, but now I’m curious as to how many at one time. I don’t want to ask because if I know and it’s an answer I don’t like, it will break me. How do I get the urge to ask out of my head :/
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So like I continue to have the thought of.. is it messed up that I allow myself to be around/friends with this guy (for various reasons). Should I tell myself maybe maybe not? Or do I need to get my partner involved? The issue is this other guy is a huge ocd trigger for me and I don’t want to bring any confessing into this
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Hey, I really need your opinion – I think I might be struggling with Relationship OCD, and these thoughts are driving me crazy. I’ve been officially diagnosed with OCD, and I believe I also have ROCD. My obsessive thoughts often focus on one specific girl from my boyfriend’s past. She had messaged him a few times, and I think she liked him – but he never liked her back. He barely knew her, never found her attractive, and never wanted anything with her. She’s just a good friend of his best friend – not an ex or anything like that. He told me that he happened to be in the same group as her a couple of times – once at a birthday party and once at a fair – just because his best friend brought her along. He made it clear several times that she’s not his type at all, neither in looks nor in personality. He described her as someone who likes to go out and party a lot, and said that’s just not what he’s into. He also said he didn’t ask about her – these things were mentioned to him before our relationship. Almost all of this happened before we met – except for one thing: the fair. That was just one day before our second date, back when we had just started getting to know each other. She was with his friend group that night. He said he only said hi and bye to her, nothing more. The next day, when we met again, we were talking about his friends’ heights. He casually mentioned that his friend was the same height as that girl – 1.70 m. Ever since, I keep wondering: If she meant nothing to him, why did he even talk about her? Or did he actually talk to her that night, even though he said he didn’t? I know he said they barely exchanged a word, but somehow he still knew that detail. I just find that strange. Another example: He once said she was “kind of slutty.” Then, one or two months later, when I brought it up again, he said he didn’t know if she was or not, and that he didn’t care at all. That really confused me. I keep wondering: Why did he say something like that in the first place if he supposedly doesn’t care about her? I also notice this really frustrating cycle: When I talk to him about something that doesn’t make sense to me, I feel brief relief. But then, almost immediately, another thought or detail pops up that feels “off” again – and I feel like I have to bring that up, too. I can’t tolerate the uncertainty. It’s like an endless loop. These little “inconsistencies” – or what I perceive as inconsistencies – make me spiral, even though I do believe he’s being honest with me. I want to trust him. But I have this constant urge to bring up every little thing that doesn’t feel logically right. Every detail stays in my head for days, and it’s really hard not to talk about it. Does this sound like Relationship OCD to you? Do any of you go through this constant analyzing and doubt? I’d really appreciate your thoughts. I’m slowly ruining my own relationship..
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