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- dandelion2002
- Date posted
- 2y ago
- Username
- anon818anon818
- Date posted
- 2y ago
pretty sure that’s a concern any girl would have, ocd or not
- Username
- anon818anon818
- Date posted
- 2y ago
you should draw boundaries in the relarionship
- Username
- dandelion2002dandelion2002
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I don't want to tell him that he can't talk to his friends or anything though yk :(? They helped him/still help him a lot with his mental health, they just happened to have sex in the past. I know their relationship isn't like that anymore but I can't stop thinking about it and imagining them together
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- Bookworm91Bookworm91
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@dandelion2002 Why not? You deserve to have your feelings considered. If it makes you uncomfortable tell him to try being friends with people he’s NOT intimate with
- Username
- dandelion2002dandelion2002
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@Bookworm91 I should clarify he was intimate with them in the past, not during our relationship (although ocd is ofc trying to tell me different D: )
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- Bookworm91Bookworm91
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@dandelion2002 It doesn’t matter. It’s one thing to be civil or even friendly with ex’s. But to be best friends with someone you’ve had sex with is not a good idea. It’s the whole best friends thing that’s getting me. If he really cared he’d stop being that close with them
- Username
- dandelion2002dandelion2002
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I feel like I should give a little more context into this situation. Idk if it would affect your opinions to say he's bi(I am too) and makes friends with girls much easier. It's also important to say that they were some of his best friends and main supporters during his first cancer diagnosis. He's now on his third diagnosis and I feel like the most awful person on the planet for having rocd while he's going through this. I don't want to tell him that he can't have support from people who help him so much while he's going through this
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- Bookworm91Bookworm91
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I guess you’re just a better person then me. I wouldn’t feel bad at all and I hate on those bitches with every fiber of my soul. Id refuse to be in the room with them and wait for them to leave before visiting. that would be the extent and even then I’d probably just be pissed that he’d need support from people he previously had sex with at that kind of level. More power to you. I couldn’t do it
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- anon818anon818
- Date posted
- 2y ago
yes but still, any girl would feel wary about that. you shouldn’t feel weird for that making you uncomfortable.
- Username
- raccsraccs
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I have plenty of friends who are still friends or even roommates with people they used to sleep with or casually date, who now have new partners and no romantic feelings anymore for each other. i think it’s very possible for adults to be just friends, and I’ve always hated when people told me that my guy friends were secretly in love with me like ?? especially if ur partner is bi I don’t think it’s weird at all but I can understand why you would be nervous!
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- Kea
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Hi everyone! I’m not sure who saw my post a couple days ago about rocd attacking my boyfriends friends lol.. they’re not unattractive and I had some horrible thoughts (I call them horrible even though they’re “normal”).. I’ve had the fear or cheating, flirting, etc even though I know I would never. Sometimes I worry myself because I like impressing them but I only do that because they’re his friends so I want them to like me lol! Anyways, ever since then they’ve been still hanging out with my friends and I’ve been tagging along because I feel like hanging out with them is a good exposure but then my mind also picks at the idea that me hanging out with them is wrong since my boyfriend isn’t there with us.. he’s in the army and he’s helping at the elderly homes but he knows when we hangout and he seems fine with it.. anyways I just need someone’s opinion on this, thanks!
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- Ocd brain
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hi guys I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice. I have struggled with ROCD for a long time now and it has been hard on my relationship. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and 2 weeks ago he admitted to me that he finds other girls attractive. It seems innocent to me and I know it is normal to find beauty in other people even when in a relationship. I know it’s normal, but I still cannot stop worrying about it. I worry he may find these girls more attractive than me and will develop feelings for them. My boyfriend says he doesn’t find them more attractive and that he only wants to be with me, but I can’t stop these thoughts. I have tried ERP exercises, talked to my therapist and asked my partner for reassurance which only helps temporarily and then the constant worry and agonizing intrusive thoughts come back. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to worry about this anymore. I don’t want to live like this anymore. I just want to be able to accept this and move on.
- Username
- nochristina
- Date posted
- 3y ago
So I've always had an issue about my partners watching porn. I've always felt super uncomfortable with it and just now realized that maybe it has to do with rocd... but then I fight myself on it because I feel like maybe it's just something that I strongly believe in. My current boyfriend thinks I'm crazy for not letting him watch porn. I then caught him watching porn once after he said he wouldn't and I freaked out. I felt really insecure. He said that he would stop doing it but I obsess over it and I check his phone when he's not looking. I also obsess over if he is talking to other girls. And then when I don't find anything, i tell myself that he has just gotten better at hiding stuff.
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