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Thank you so much. You responding has helped me know I’m not the only one out there it means the world to me thank you
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I want you to get a good therapist. I suggest doing some research bc some therapists will list OCD on what they treat but don’t really specialize in it. I think my therapist is certified by IOCDF (or a NOCD therapist). Best wishes!
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@LisaP99 Thank you so much and yes you too!
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@Tajmcd10 Hey, I keep thinking about your issues bc I relate to them closely. My main rocd compulsion is ruminating and secondly reassurance seeking and you’re doing a lot of both. I didn’t start having relief until I lessened how much I ruminate. Anyway I want to share a resource with you. https://theocdstories.com/ it’s a podcast, episode 252 and 285 is Dr Michael Greenberg. He has another episode 269 but 252 & 285 are a must. But he is so good at describing rumination, the effects and how to handle. He has a website too and he wrote some articles that are so good! It’s not a fix all but it’s very useful. Recovery is a journey, I piece together skills from my therapist and from whatever helpful resources.
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@LisaP99 Thank you thank you thank you! If you have any other tips or tricks I am so open to hearing about them
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@Tajmcd10 Ha I will! I definitely want to encourage you to seek a good ocd therapist though. I started treatment in August and it’s def a journey and u gotta keep ur mind open but as far as Dr Greenberg, he knows rumination! And some things he says you gotta take with a grain of salt. I read his article: rumination, the continuous loop and thought of you. It describes what we’re experiencing in our heads in a way I never heard of but totally made sense. Hope it helps. And pls don’t get discouraged in treatment if u do well for a while and then bomb. Treatment is an up and down process.
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I mean all 15 of your thoughts, I’ve been there. I often feel like a rabid dog bc it’s like I turn on him and he can see the rage in my eyes but he also sees the conflict I’m having in my mind.
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I’m sorry. This sounds like a nightmare, like mental torture. My obsession is the same and my dad was unfaithful. The trauma he caused created my biggest fear. I think ERP will still help you greatly. I’ve experienced this instability you’re going through and it’s horrible! Basically with therapy, I think you could accept letting this go because I have a sense you really want to. Even though this is a huge pill to swallow, I find myself letting go of things I never thought I would, taking the risk and having peace. I know what you’re going through and I just want to say you’re so strong for battling this as long as you have.
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I so relate to your numbered thoughts. My ocd accuses me of being a stupid weak woman who lets her bf cheat on her but it’s not true. Getting triggered by anything that remotely reminds me of a detail of the situation… ugh it’s horrible
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I think at this point you may never know what the truth is, and there may be no real way to find out. If you believe your boyfriend to otherwise be kind, loyal, and make you feel good then maybe the past doesn’t matter. But you are not weak or stupid!! You are doing your best with the information you do have. But to heal from ocd you have to become ok with never fully knowing the truth. Good luck!
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So i play in a band, and we were having practice, and my girlfriend was there listening to us, then this girl around our age walks in, and my head tells me to cheat on my girlfriend with her. I know i would never do such a thing. And it bothered me for days. And i ended up telling my girlfriend, and tried to explain my ocd. It hurt her and she believes that the instrusive thoughts, are my thoughts so in that, i must feel something behind them. And she feels hurt because i explained to her the obsessive part of ocd and how this thought wouldnt leave my head. And she got upset knowing that i was constantly thinking about cheating on her. I cant help but feel its all my fault. And now that she doesnt understand i feel really guilty for my thoughts and they are coming more often and worse. When i was fine for months, but my ocd always acts up right as i get in relationships, then i usually tell my spouse and tell them i cant feel guilt for my thoughts or they will get worse. And they usually just accepted it and it was easy. But with her it seems she just cant seem to understand, ive tried to explain it to her countless times, she isnt willing to do research with me to help better understand it or anything. Maybe for my first ocd issue telling her that wasnt the best idea.
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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