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It’s better to ask once and then accept that as your answer because if you ask the same thing over and over again, you’re asking for reassurance.
personally, hearing other people say “yes i know, i have this, i do that to, oh but i dont do that..” isnt physically helpful for me and wont stop my rituals. but being able to reachout to someone, who completely understands what i go through, daily, hourly, helps me understand that OCD isnt just targetting me, its universal, and with that, i hope we can alltogether be there for eachother, and learn and overcome it, somehow.🙂🧡
I agree!
@Anonymous thankyou anonymous! i hope you’ve had a great day, was glorious blue skies here in the UK for me today😌
Yes! I benefit because it’s nice to know you’re not alone. If we didn’t have people we could share our feelings with who understand I think ocd would be much harder and bleaker. I go to AA and we all share our similarities with alcoholism and we need each other’s support. If you are doing reassurance seeking here now that is different. I learn from people here about what to do and her lots of good advice.
I think when others say “I feel that too”it’s a means of trying to tell people “you aren’t alone in this and that it isn’t necessarily weird to have this happen when you have ocd”. Does it make the experience you had and the other person had healthy? Not necessarily. I see it as a means of saying “hey other people have had this problem, you aren’t alone so there’s probably a reason for it and maybe even a solution to help you cope.”
It has helped my self-esteem improve significantly. Seeing we aren't alone seems to help me accept my OCD themes, I don't feel disgusted with myself as I did alone. :)
Chat anytime I’m here for you and everyone anytime
Same ❤️
Everyone can chat anytime and we can discuss things that helps
Atleast we understand things when the world probably doesn’t have a clue and don’t care about others
Does anyone feel like seeking reassurance and then end up feeling worse after seeking it?! Gosh…
We shouldn't provide reassurance to others on this app but I think picking people up on bad days can be helpful in this type of online community. This is especially true for OCD sufferers as the thoughts can make you feel isolated. Do you all agree?
Some people on here seem to be confused by difference between reassurance-seeking (not good for your OCD) and validation/support-seeking (which is GREAT). And when I've tried to nudge at this in response to people's reassurance-seeking posts in the past, including today, I get thrown shade by people who are triggered by this being called out, and I get spoken to as though I'm not supportive of support/validation being shared. 🥺😢 I'm simply sharing science-based, evidence-backed facts that are shared by therapists, advocates, and many who have thrived in their ERP journeys. Here is one example of many articles about how reasurrance-seeking/sharing is not helpful: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/is-reassurance-seeking-good-or-bad-for-ocd "Reassurance-seeking is an attempt to get rid of the distress by getting rid of the uncertainty that underlies it. *Support-seeking, however, is an attempt to have someone encourage you while you deal with the distress caused by your uncertainty.* It means allowing the uncertainty and distress to exist while also acknowledging that it’s easier to succeed with the support of others." I really don't want to argue or debate the points above. I hate conflict/confrontation, I'm just saying, please educate yourselves on the truth, and don't get mad at me for trying to help.
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