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That’s not you anymore try your best to improve
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You have to accept you might/might not have done something. Or if it’s something like, for example, a volcano erupting and killing hundreds or thousands, accepting you can’t do anything to stop that volcano because it’s a natural disaster.
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Congrats on recovering! My biggest fear is being a bad person (moral scrupulosity ocd). Any tips on how to get over such a strong obsession?
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I’ll say it once: bad people don’t care they are bad. Now you must accept that you might/might not be a bad person and continue with your daily life. Obsessing makes things worse. And if you do something bad, don’t make excuses. Do better and get better.
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@Nica Thank you for the response. Have you ever struggled with this and did it ever get better for you?
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I suffer from all sorts of ocd types. I believe I did something wrong and then suffer with extreme guilt until I can confess or reassure everything will be okay. Until another worry pops up. Idk what to do with this extreme guilt
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Seek out advice from one or two people but other than that, stop yourself from seeking reassurance. You know it only makes things worse.
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I also struggle with extreme guilt. My therapist told me it’s actually a compulsion in my case but I’m still figuring out how to stop it. You aren’t alone though. Guilt is absolutely horrible.
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once you’re healed from pocd do you start feeling like everything’s back in place like it used to be? such as like now you can look back and laugh bc you know that you’d never do that & that it was all ocd trying to trick you the whole time?
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- OCD Conqueror
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I don’t think the theme is what you should try to focus on overcoming but the ocd thought patterns.
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Nothing has ever been “back in place” since I have a bunch of other mental illnesses, including childhood trauma from abuse. Don’t look at “going back to things were” or “being cured” because that won’t happen. You’re a different person and you’ve changed, but that doesn’t mean anything bad. I’d be more concerned did you never changed in your life.
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Do you feel like a completely different person after recovery? I mean, do you look at past you and think, who was that? (Don't worry, you won't give me reassurance of any kind if you answer, my theme is completely different)
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I’m the same person I’ve always been, just recovered.
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@Nica Okay thank you for the reply!
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Hello and thank you! What about horrible Rocd and intrusive thoughts of being betrayed, cheated on, left alone? I am being tortured by these thoughts for the past 6 years... it's too much and it doesn't go away no matter how I try...I feel that I will never be able to manage it and stay like this for ever...
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You have to accept you might not know about being cheated on unless there’s LEGIT evidence. ROCD is tough but obsessing over these things won’t do you any good. It’s taken 6 years of your life. I suggest doing ERP therapy for it as soon as you can do you can see some relief and learn coping mechanisms to handle it.
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Thank you for your response! It seems so difficult to accept uncertainty as I feel insecure and really love my husband and I am afraid something bad will happen and destroy my relationship. I know it is stupid and pointless to think like that because life is uncertain and things are not sure or always right but it's the first time in my life I feel so accepted, loved and protected that I wouldn't want to imagine my life without him. I know it doesn't make sense but that's Rocd...
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False Memories?
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You have to accept something might/might not happen and/or you did or didn’t do something and go about your daily routine.
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- OCD Conqueror
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How do you feel is the best way to handle intense intrusive images about an on going event you're attending when it's the last thing you'd ever want?
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Like what type of ongoing event?
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@Nica A funeral
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@capn Funerals are always hard because of the mourning you’re going through. Give yourself some grace but let the thoughts be there. There’s plenty of people that have intrusive thoughts during funerals because it’s so difficult to bear.
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@Nica Thanks for the response
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How did you get over the POCD theme & what was your recovery like? or do you still get those thoughts?
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I still have it and will always have it but I have accepted the uncertainty of OCD overall and I let the thoughts, feelings, and images be there. They alway go away eventually. POCD is the worst of them, so I suggest getting into ERP therapy as soon as possible.
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@Nica im in therapy through this app! im hoping to one day feel okay again no matter what my thoughts are:/
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@Anonymous_234 Keep working on it! It took me a few years to recover 😁
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how to know if it’s ROCD or just a dead relationship
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Have you recovered from Health Anxiety? I'm always worried about being sick, not having enough energy, fainting, or my body somehow shutting down. It's taking over many aspects of my life.
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You should absolutely do you yearly wellness checks and do what your doctor says, but if your doctor says you’re healthy, then you have to trust your doctor and live with the uncertainty that you might get sick and/or die at any moment. Because really, that’s everyone’s reality. But we can’t change Ernst. We have to live life to the fullest.
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@Nica Thank you for your response. I really appreciate you helping us all on this thread. It feels nice to know recovery is possible, especially when it feels like it isn't.
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- OCD Conqueror
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As a 20+ year OCD vet and OCD conqueror. I wanted to share some tips and tricks that help me. 1. A thought is not the same as a belief. You can think something, and not believe it in the slightest. 2. Thoughts DO NOT represent ANYTHING. They are not indicators to who we are as people, they are pop up ads for the brains computer. 3. We DO NOT control our thoughts! The average person has about 60,000 ( yes, 4 zeros) a day! NONE of which are controlled. 4. We DO have control over which of those 60k thoughts are important. i.e. thought A. I could murder my entire household- survey says? not important ( because yea, sure, you could, but you probably don't really want to) thought B. i need to do my laundy-survey says? important... unfortunately, i hate laundry. which brings me to number 5. 5. Emotional reasoning ( where you let your feelings impact your decisions) is a COGNITIVE DISTORTION. It is a flawed thought process and should NEVER be used. "wanting to do something" does not mean you SHOULD do it, same and sometimes NOT wanting to do something doesn't mean you shouldn't do it ( picked what is important) my brain might tell me i WANT to break up with my husband, ( unimportant) and it might also say i don't want to get up and go to work in the morning ( important). 6. YOU-ARE-IN-CONTROL. Not to be confused with HAVING control. We don't control our thoughts, we control which ones are important, we don't control our feelings or emotions, but we control how to react (or not react) to them. We don't control our OCD, but we can control how it affects our lives, and that can mean that is has all the power, or none. 7. If the action you want to do ( confess, get reassurance, check, analyze, avoid, re-do) are to gain relief from anxiety, IT IS A COMPULSION. DO NOT DO IT. Sit with the anxiety and train your brain to realize its not dangerous or important with ERP ( this takes time, but practice makes perfect) 8. Know your enemy. NOCD has a HUGE amount of articles and information on ALL subtypes of OCD and how to respond and how to treat them. OCD is MUCH easier to combat when you understand how it works. 9. BE PATIENT. BE KIND to yourself. Prioritize healthy habits, a healthy body is better equipped to handle OCD. Good sleep, whole foods, sunlight, social interaction, exercise ( walking especially). When the mind feels weak, make the body strong. 10. You are not alone. OCD is classified by the World Health Organization as one of the top 10 most distressing disorders. Reach out to people, seek medical help. Medication is not evil, it can be life-saving, TALK to people. Bonus Tips * if the question is " What If" its OCD. * Total certainty does not exist, be content with 99%* *"But this feels different, this feels like its not OCD, that its real*- emotional reasoning... its OCD. Hang in there. You got this. Im here for any advice, questions, or support. Today is a great day to have a GREAT DAY.
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I haven’t done a Q&A in over a year (my bad) but I used to do these at least once a month. Work is slow today, so please send me any questions you have about OCD and I’ll answer them as best as I can. A little about me: I’ve been subclinical/recovered for going on 5 years and I’ve been on this app volunteering since 2019 in an unofficial capacity—I’m not connected to the NOCD team, so I don’t have any badges. I did ERP treatment with my therapist in-person while I was also being treated for PTSD. I have OCD, PTSD, ADHD, depression, GAD, social anxiety, driving anxiety, and a few speech impediments.
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I wanted to share with you guys some of the things that have helped me in the past few weeks! If you’re open to it, maybe try a few and see how you feel! First I would really recommend leaning on God. If you’re not a believer you may be skeptical but if you’ve never tried to read the Bible, prayer or even just talking with God, I would recommend so much! My relationship with God has gotten so much better through this terrible illness and in turn I have noticed a lot of positivity, I feel substantially better since I’ve been trying to bring this to God instead of worry about it myself. If you can give your worries to God and learn to have faith that he is with you, loves and forgives you. You have a great step towards recovery and even just a more positive life. Next, try going outside! I know it sounds kinda dumb but I mean it! Some of my best days started with just going outside, reading a book and or listening to music. I went out and tanned, ate some fruit with some lemonade and read “Girl Wash Your Face” it was a great book! I would spend HOURS and it helped me so much! Take a walk, hike, etc.! This leads into the next thing…READING! I recently bought the new book “don’t believe everything you think” and the workbook and it is amazing! This also applies to reading your Bible and other books, specially ones targeting self help and things like that! Another thing is fitness! Try out the gym, I know there is days that you just can’t bring yourself to get up but in those days, make yourself go to the gym! Even if you just go walk on the treadmill or bike! Anything is better than nothing! Keep yourself active, I promise it will make you feel better! Find a good podcast! I have been listening to (The OCD Stories on Spotify), sometimes I’ve even listened while I was going to sleep and let it play through the night! Go on YouTube and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD and look for other people who help! Go on instagram and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD, iocdf, sincerelyocd, recoverocd, letstalk.ocd, my lovely ocd and there are so many more! Find good music! Again I’m going to bring up worship music some of my favs being ( I Thank God, Move of God, Hard fought Hallelujah, The Truth, Made for more, Thy Will, and there is so many more!) if you would like I can share my playlist! But overall music is so helpful and if you are not a believer or want something different I would recommend songs by Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Kesha, Rihanna, Demi Lovato, Kelly Clarkson, even Billy Joel, Queen, Beck, and things of that nature that are gonna get you PUMPED UP! Lastly, hang out with PEOPLE! Don’t let OCD rule your life, put your ocd in a box best you can and go live your life! Get lunch with a friend, join a bible study, go get a massage, even just meet up with a friend and talk in a parking lot while shoving your face with fast food! You NEED interaction as much as you don’t want to! I know some of these are hard, some is triggering or you’re nervous that you’re gonna spiral, but step out of your comfort zone! That’s the way to get better! Do things that make you feel uncomfortable, the things that are unknown, the things you used to do before this! You can still live and love your life you don’t have to keep just “surviving”! And this isn’t a fix all, trust me I still have my days where I’m like nope I’m staying in bed and crying, but you need to push yourself! No one is coming to hold your hand and walk you out of this, you have to want to help yourself too! And you can do that! I know it’s scary and uncomfortable but you got this! We’re gonna kick some OCD butt! I hope you find this helpful and I wish you the most luck! Comment if you have questions and whatnot! 🫶
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