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- 3y
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- 3y
Although I do want to say that this can be fixed and cured. There is hope, my bf has a dinner tomorrow with women from his work and normally i’d feel really triggered and worried but I feel really calm and like I can trust him. I will feel the urge to do my nosy and check but I don’t think i’m goinf to be as bothered as I was before cos I’m not that bothered about losing him. Healing always ALWAYS starts with you. You have to stop focusing on him because part of what makes ocd thrive and live on is focuing all your attention on him. Ocd loves to do this. It doesn’t wanna see you heal, I just wants to grow stronger and what’s the besr way to do that? By making u worry and think about him. If you stop for a moment, take a deep deep breath and notice your body. Come back to the present moment, you’ll realise you are safe. Remember that anxiety makes us stuck in the future. You are in the here and now. Nothing is happening. You are okay. It is safe.
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- 3y
I am so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been struggling with my rocd a lot lately too. It’s so frustrating how stressing about it causes the relationship more stress and then the cycle continues
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- 3y
Sometimes ovulation makes mines ever worse, more so than the period
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- 3y
Thank you for your response! Yes I always tell myself don't worry, do your business and let him be himself without worrying. There are days when I manage it and do good enough and other days thoughts just come back and attack me. Maybe at the time i get these thoughts is when I feel more lonely or sad so Rocd finds the ground to appear. I don't want to keep on being like this as i am waisting my life and self esteem. I don't want to care about what he does but what I do and how I spend happily my Life. This is my true self not worry and anxiety. Thank you!
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- 8w
My ROCD is at an all time high right now. I have an appointment set up, but the wait is awful. My husband found one of my erp exercises where I write a sentence about him maybe not being the right partner. I had forgotten to throw it away. Of course it made him sad. I feel so ashamed and like I've damaged our relationship beyond repair. The sad part is, the thought comes,"if he ends it, at least I might get some relief". I feel like the worst wife.
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- 7w
I believe I have ROCD — at least, that’s what many people here have told me based on what I’ve shared — and I really need help, because I feel like I’m falling apart. I don’t know what I feel anymore. I don’t know what’s real. My thoughts come as loud, cold statements — not questions. They say things like: “Nothing is the same.” “You don’t love him.” “You’re just staying because you’re used to him.” And even though I know I’m supposed to let the thoughts pass and not engage with them — I can’t. I get stuck in them. I try to find answers, I ruminate, I check, I cry, I panic. Everyone says “love isn’t just a feeling” — and I know that. But… I still want to feel something. I want to feel warmth, or connection, or even just peace. It’s been so long since I felt anything like that. Now everything just feels empty or terrifying or cold. My brain only gives me negative interpretations. No memory brings me comfort anymore. Nothing feels like it used to. And the worst part is — it all feels true. Sometimes I think: “What if I’m just denying the truth?” “What if I’ve finally realized that I don’t love him, and I just don’t want to admit it?” This feels like the worst version of myself. I’m so confused and scared and tired. Even therapy didn’t help — my therapist said things that made it worse, and now I don’t know who or what to believe anymore. I just want help. I want to know how to face ROCD — if that’s what this really is. I want to believe I can feel love again. I don’t want to lose myself in this forever. Has anyone else felt like this? How did you start to get better? i cant even remember past good memories with him, my head tells me that i didnt love him and i was just “excited “ to have someone. We have 2 years together and i have been dealing with this for a year and a half.
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- Date posted
- 7w
Hi all!! Its been a while since I've been in here and typically I come on here to give advice and encouragement which i still plan to do but i really need encouragement right now. I typically deal with so-ocd but right now its taking a back seat or just disappearing ( which I'm not complaining) but now my rocd is really coming in thick and heavy and Im overly anxious but i have had panic attacks to the thoughts and its just been heavily attack me on my feelings towards my bf. I love this man with my literal whole being and I want to marry him and I know he feels the same cause we have had discussions on marriage. But lately and idk if its because of my period starting (sorry tmi) and all the hormones but i can't feel my emotions all that well, and the thoughts are constantly telling me i don't love him, i don't want to talk to him which are all false me and him are long distance rn which is hard but we push through it. I really hate these thoughts and all it makes me want to do is scream and cry. Like i said not overly anxious but definitely just want to scream and cry and of course cause Im not overly anxious my ocd picks up on that says oh see your not anxious with that so it must be true. I'm just hot mess y'all:( But anyways word of encouragement keep pushing y'all all got this and Im proud of every single one of you!!
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