Anonymous
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- Therapist
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As a therapist I would never put a client in harm’s way when it comes to actual exposures. When you are doing self exposures you can weight the benefits against actual risk! I risk dying in a car accident everyday that I drive, but this risk doesn’t keep me from going where I need to go! If an exposure could cause actual harm, move on to something different. Try an exposure that would elicit the same amount of high anxiety but actually doesn’t risk harm. When it comes to contamination get creative! And, you could also consult an expert (doctor, infectious disease worker, etc) to get a go ahead or actual data on risk! But…….don’t ask them more than once! 😉
AnonymousAnonymous
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This helps! Do you do things like “extreme” exposures? Like where would you draw the line between just a really scary exposure and something actually dangerous? Like particularly for contamination?
OCDMMOCDMM
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I’ve wondered this as well. Like I’ve heard of people touching public toilet seats and not being allowed to wash their hands.
CaptainKierkegaardCaptainKierk...
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The compromise could be that you are allowed to wash your hands once your anxiety comes down. I am planning to do some digust exposures that are similar, and that was my idea.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
Yea and the sad thing is I understand kinda why it might be necessary cause if I’m out with a friend and they use a public bathroom I’ll still be concerned like what if they didn’t wash as well as I would what if they put their bag on the ground but still it’s like. Isn’t that genuinely dangerous like that will actually make me sick lol.
OCDMMOCDMM
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Mine were never that extreme but sometimes I felt like I was going against common hygiene practices. Like not washing my hands before taking my pills. Like you’re supposed to wash your hands before you put something in your mouth.
CaptainKierkegaardCaptainKierk...
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Yeah, I don’t fear contamination, but I feel disgust (like I’m ruining my day) and also a sense that I’m a lesser person for not following certain rules (washing hands and not touching people with those hands). Some of those rules might actually be important, so it’s hard to figure out what to do there. Maybe I’ll get a consenting individual that you can touch with the contaminant who will wash themselves right afterward.
anonymous caterpillar 🐛 anonymous ca...
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Another approach that you might like better than extreme exposures is to try to slowly reduce your OCD behaviors until they get down to a normal level. This way, you don’t need to do any extreme purposeful exposures. If you’re not sure if something is extreme or not, ask yourself what someone close to you without OCD would do. If you’re still not sure, you could always ask someone if it’s reasonable or not. Also, if you think something might be OCD, it probably is.
AnonymousAnonymous
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Nah the whole concept is purposely doing unreasonable things like using a public bathroom and not washing your hands. You are still supposed to slowly build up to it til it feels less scary, it’s not like flooding, but the idea is still to eventually do extreme things so normal things that are still scary to you, like using a public bathroom while washing hands and all, will become much easier, and it might also reduce fears that might arise if you’re with a friend who uses a public bathroom and you’re concerned they didn’t wash as well as you did.
anonymous caterpillar 🐛 anonymous ca...
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- 3y
@Anonymous Alright, it was just a suggestion. You don’t have to like it.
Jeffrey Jeffrey
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- OCD Conqueror
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An extreme exposure would be on the higher end of the hierarchical ladder of your fears. When starting out with ERP, generally you would start with the easier things first and work your way up the hierarchy until you reach what bothers you the most. Although I am not a therapist, I am confident in saying that a therapist would not give someone anything that would be considered dangerous - the OCD is likely to consider it dangerous because it is a fear of ours. Hope that helps.
AnonymousAnonymous
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Yea no the concept includes that build up but some of the things actually seem genuinely dangerous outside of the ocd- like touching public bathroom surfaces and not washing hands, touching a public bathroom tampon disposal box and not washing hands. Like those surfaces genuinely have germs on them that can make you sick.
Jeffrey Jeffrey
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- OCD Conqueror
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Germs are everywhere. For example, I had Covid but I have followed the cdc guidelines. The purpose of the exposure is to help us sit with uncertainty. I know it is uncomfortable but it teaches us how to live with the uncertainty that we may or may not get sick.
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