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- MRR7221
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Yes, OCD can give you the urge to tell your thoughts. Confession is a compulsion. Sometimes it can bring temporary relief but in the long-term, it just feeds the OCD cycle.
I literally just told this guy literally this “so remember when this happened? Well it went from ‘was I actually flirting?’ To ‘was a cheating?’ To ‘well if I was flirting, that means I like him’ to ‘what if I do like him?’ To ‘well I don’t love my husband anymore’. He said he understands because his fiancé has anxiety badly and gets bad thoughts like that and it just keeps spiraling. I’m just scared that he is going to tell someone and they will take it the wrong way because it was only my intrusive thoughts and how my brain works with anxiety… ):
Confession has been one of my main compulsions
Whenever I do a confession, I always always always have major anxiety from it. I always feel like it’ll help but it never does. Idk why I keep doing it
I'm the same way! Often when I confess I feel anxious immediately after. I think I have the idea that it will help because of what I was taught in religion growing up - "confess your sins and you will be forgiven". But I'm with you, it often doesn't help.
I specifically told him that these are only thoughts and that they are in no way true. I said I like you, but only as a friend. In no way shape or form in any other way. I just don’t know why I did it. I even said in my head “no don’t do it. Don’t do it” and I fricken did :( and I told my husband about it and he’s mad at me and said that I should keep that stuff to myself that’s for nobody else to know about
I had no idea confession was a compulsion, I just thought I couldn’t live with guilt. This makes so much sense now!
I have something similar, since I believe a couple years ago I have had intrusive thoughts about cheating on my girlfriend with almost any girl that comes across me, mostly when she's near my age or sometimes when I'm alone I just get a thought and I ask myself "what if it actually happened? What if I did cheat on her? I don't wanna lose her" and the cycle continues all on the fear on losing her because she is my whole world, and that has also led me to have nightmares about it and I just can't say that I'm 100% sure I didn't do such thing, because I also don't want to lie. I know about ERP but I really don't know how to make it work in this situation, that has worked in other situations and I overcame OCD on those but this one is the strongest and most complicated one I've ever had, and I have had every OCD trigger that you can think of, but evolves as I overcome them and become stronger, just like a Virus or a Bacteria.
Learn from it and do different next time💜
Yes all my bad thoughts revolve around my husband and they are so bad because of the fear of losing him. You are correct on that one. I’m just absolutely terrified that this person is going to tell someone or his fiancé and it is going to be all hell broke lose and I lose my husband from it. I have bad thoughts like this constantly and gives me such intense anxiety. I love my husband literally more than absolutely anything on this planet. I would be nothing without him. Why do I keep doing this to myself
Anyone have OCD where you have intrusive thoughts about your spouse and confessing them is the only way to get relief?
so back in july i made a mistake of going behind my partner’s back and hanging out with an old guy friend (who i had a romantic past with) and while i was hanging out with him i had a great time but man my thoughts were going crazy. i found him attractive, funny, etc. i’ve known him for years and everytime we would talk i felt there was some type of tension. like romantic or something. well i felt it again when we hung out and immediately regretted it because i know i love my boyfriend a lot and i felt like a horrible person for doing something like that. i couldn’t hide it from him any longer than i did (not even 3 days) so i told him and he got really upset. at the time i didn’t know what i want, either my boyfriend or that friend. i decided to stay with my boyfriend and ever since i’ve been getting crazy intrusive thoughts about my old friend (i blocked him so i don’t have contact with him). a few months later (now) i know that i want and love my boyfriend, i don’t want to be with anyone else. but i’ve been getting so many intrusive thoughts about that guy and seeing certain posts just remind me of him even when i don’t want them to. then my brain starts to spiral - ‘what if you actually want to be with him instead and you’re just in denial right now’ or something like ‘you dont love your boyfriend, if you did you wouldnt be having these thoughts’ and i’m just so..drained. i’m so tired of thinking about this guy, i seriously don’t want to think about him. i just want to be happy with my boyfriend. i keep telling myself i know what i want, because i do. i want to be with my bf and i want to be happy with him…i love him so much. but my brain just tries to tell me otherwise. i know i messed up and i’m paying the price for it. maybe i do deserve this. i just wish i could erase everything, my past, etc. and just move on. my boyfriend doesn’t hold what i did against me but he’s well aware of what happened and i know how it made him feel. i would do anything to take it back because he doesn’t deserve that, he never did. and i seriously want to be better for him. but these constant thoughts i get are always getting in the way and almost making me feel hopeless. i haven’t told my bf about these thoughts because i’m worried he would take it the wrong way. i really don’t think i should tell him because i know for a fact it would send us both down a spiral and i don’t want that. but, ocd will always try to get what it wants. anyone else going through something similar? some common humanity would probably ease my mind a bit. (in a non-compulsive way. or maybe this is a compulsion. idk.)
I am a happily married 26 year old. I love my husband and our two year old child. I have struggled with intrusive thoughts in the past. Pure “O” OCD and also POCD. A couple months ago I got triggered by something that made me think of an ex boyfriend from 2016. and it made me think what if I have feelings for him or what if I want to talk to him, etc and it's spiraled from there. Now I feel like I have to be with him or talk to him for the anxiety and thoughts to go away. And then yesterday I thought about him again and I was like well if I was with him would it be that bad? And it didn't make me anxious and now I'm anxious because it didn't make me anxious. Which has to mean I want to be with him? I don't want to be with him tho but what if that’s the case? And what if my ocd isn’t real. I feel like I’m drowning in my thoughts and I have created a situation that feels so intense and real
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