okay everyone- so I had major panic attacks and anxiety over this subject. I am married to my amazing husband. I work with only guys and am the only female. I became friends with this one guy and (we were only friends) and a rumor popped up that him and I were flirting. So… in my head I was like “was I actually flirting?” To “was I cheating?” To “if I was flirting does that mean I like him?” To “if I like him that means I don’t like my husband anymore”. It kept spiraling and spiraling into terrible thoughts. Anyways, I just recently told him this. I don’t know why I did but I felt like I had the urge to do it and he has a fiancé and I told him PLEASE don’t tell anybody. And he said he promises he won’t tell anybody. Why did I get the urge to have to tell him? Does OCD make you tell your thoughts? They were only thoughts and not true and I told him that… why did I do it!!

Yes, OCD can give you the urge to tell your thoughts. Confession is a compulsion. Sometimes it can bring temporary relief but in the long-term, it just feeds the OCD cycle.

Confession has been one of my main compulsions

I'm the same way! Often when I confess I feel anxious immediately after. I think I have the idea that it will help because of what I was taught in religion growing up - "confess your sins and you will be forgiven". But I'm with you, it often doesn't help.

I had no idea confession was a compulsion, I just thought I couldn’t live with guilt. This makes so much sense now!

I have something similar, since I believe a couple years ago I have had intrusive thoughts about cheating on my girlfriend with almost any girl that comes across me, mostly when she's near my age or sometimes when I'm alone I just get a thought and I ask myself "what if it actually happened? What if I did cheat on her? I don't wanna lose her" and the cycle continues all on the fear on losing her because she is my whole world, and that has also led me to have nightmares about it and I just can't say that I'm 100% sure I didn't do such thing, because I also don't want to lie. I know about ERP but I really don't know how to make it work in this situation, that has worked in other situations and I overcame OCD on those but this one is the strongest and most complicated one I've ever had, and I have had every OCD trigger that you can think of, but evolves as I overcome them and become stronger, just like a Virus or a Bacteria.

Learn from it and do different next time💜

Yes all my bad thoughts revolve around my husband and they are so bad because of the fear of losing him. You are correct on that one. I’m just absolutely terrified that this person is going to tell someone or his fiancé and it is going to be all hell broke lose and I lose my husband from it. I have bad thoughts like this constantly and gives me such intense anxiety. I love my husband literally more than absolutely anything on this planet. I would be nothing without him. Why do I keep doing this to myself