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Yes, OCD can give you the urge to tell your thoughts. Confession is a compulsion. Sometimes it can bring temporary relief but in the long-term, it just feeds the OCD cycle.
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I literally just told this guy literally this “so remember when this happened? Well it went from ‘was I actually flirting?’ To ‘was a cheating?’ To ‘well if I was flirting, that means I like him’ to ‘what if I do like him?’ To ‘well I don’t love my husband anymore’. He said he understands because his fiancé has anxiety badly and gets bad thoughts like that and it just keeps spiraling. I’m just scared that he is going to tell someone and they will take it the wrong way because it was only my intrusive thoughts and how my brain works with anxiety… ):
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Confession has been one of my main compulsions
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Whenever I do a confession, I always always always have major anxiety from it. I always feel like it’ll help but it never does. Idk why I keep doing it
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I'm the same way! Often when I confess I feel anxious immediately after. I think I have the idea that it will help because of what I was taught in religion growing up - "confess your sins and you will be forgiven". But I'm with you, it often doesn't help.
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I specifically told him that these are only thoughts and that they are in no way true. I said I like you, but only as a friend. In no way shape or form in any other way. I just don’t know why I did it. I even said in my head “no don’t do it. Don’t do it” and I fricken did :( and I told my husband about it and he’s mad at me and said that I should keep that stuff to myself that’s for nobody else to know about
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I had no idea confession was a compulsion, I just thought I couldn’t live with guilt. This makes so much sense now!
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I have something similar, since I believe a couple years ago I have had intrusive thoughts about cheating on my girlfriend with almost any girl that comes across me, mostly when she's near my age or sometimes when I'm alone I just get a thought and I ask myself "what if it actually happened? What if I did cheat on her? I don't wanna lose her" and the cycle continues all on the fear on losing her because she is my whole world, and that has also led me to have nightmares about it and I just can't say that I'm 100% sure I didn't do such thing, because I also don't want to lie. I know about ERP but I really don't know how to make it work in this situation, that has worked in other situations and I overcame OCD on those but this one is the strongest and most complicated one I've ever had, and I have had every OCD trigger that you can think of, but evolves as I overcome them and become stronger, just like a Virus or a Bacteria.
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Learn from it and do different next time💜
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Yes all my bad thoughts revolve around my husband and they are so bad because of the fear of losing him. You are correct on that one. I’m just absolutely terrified that this person is going to tell someone or his fiancé and it is going to be all hell broke lose and I lose my husband from it. I have bad thoughts like this constantly and gives me such intense anxiety. I love my husband literally more than absolutely anything on this planet. I would be nothing without him. Why do I keep doing this to myself
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I have this deep fear I’ll accidentally cheat on my long term partner. This fear was initially triggered a couple years ago after being at a bar with my friends where I enjoyed the attention of being flirted with by a stranger. Because of my enjoyment of receiving verbal attention, I began spiraling about what if I accidentally cheat. Since then I have made multiple confessions to my partner to seek reassurance, replayed events over and over in my head, spent hours googling/looking at reddit threads, and now I dread “bar like” situations where I know my partner won’t be around. Today I was triggered and have wasted about 4-5 hours of my day ruminating. Does anyone else with relationship ocd struggle with this fear and have any tips?
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Does anyone feel the urge to confess secrets even though they’re not yours to share? My husband told me about a traumatic event he had and trusts me to keep the secret. It has NOTHING to do with me at all. And my brain is making me feel like I need or want to tell someone. I want to be trustworthy and my brain is making me feel like I’m not because of this obsession. It’s so confusing because I know I don’t need to but I feel like I “want to” because of the OCD anxiety? And the feeling of wanting to makes me feel more anxious and like a terrible person. I have confessed literally everything to my mom about my thoughts so she’s my safe person. And I had an emotionally abusive dad (probably how I got OCD at a young age - like 8 years old) that has now passed away. So confiding in her even with intrusive thoughts and messed up shit was safe for me. Does my brain feel like I need to tell her just because she’s my safe person? I hate the feeling of me “wanting” to tell at all too and can’t tell if it’s real and it’s making me feel like a horrible person. I literally have no secrets myself. His mom knows and so do I. So I’m not the only one that knows. But why is my brain doing this? It’s spiraling me out and has been for a few days. But I want to keep the secret because it’s HIS and it doesn’t affect me in any way. I mean sure I feel bad for him - but it’s from his past before we even met? Someone please help me rationalize why I feel these things and why it’s so confusing to know if you actually “want” to do something or if it’s OCD? It’s causing a deep anxiety pit in my stomach and has been for days now.
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